"Heart Residence" is an urban emotional drama directed by Teng Huatao, starring Haiqing, Tong Yao, Zhang Songwen (in alphabetical order), and specially invited by Feng Shaofeng, which was broadcast on March 17, 2022; "Human World" is a realistic drama directed by Li Lu and starring Lei Jiayin, Xin Baiqing, Song Jia and Yin Tao, which was broadcast on January 28, 2022.
Gu Xin and Zhou Bingyi both found a high-ranking cadre who was better than their own family as a daughter-in-law, and both took the route of son-in-law, but the difference in life in the play is so great, the reasons are as follows:
The basis is different, one is to weigh the pros and cons, and the other is to focus on feelings
In "Heart Residence", the emotions of Gu Xin and Ge Yue came a little suddenly, which can be seen from the performance of Gu Xin's mother Su Wangdi.
Su Wangdi has always had the problem of "everyone likes to brag about the strengths of her family", one day she was with Gu Xin's aunt Gu Shilian to brag that her son's girlfriend was a model, how tall she was,
But she happened to see a small woman sending Gu Xin downstairs, and she knew that her son and his tall girlfriend had broken up, and her son's current girlfriend was called Ge Yue.
The model in Su Wangdi's mouth is named Sun Qi, is Gu Xin's classmate, at the wedding of Gu Xin and Ge Yue, Sun Qi appeared as an old classmate, it can be seen that Sun Qi and Gu Xin once had a deep relationship,
Although we still don't know what reason Gu Xin and Sun Qi broke up, we can basically infer that Gu Xin is a man whose feelings are not single-minded.
After knowing that Ge Yue's father was the bureau chief, Su Wangdi, who had a pair of "power eyes", had nothing to say, in fact, we also had doubts about Gu Xin's purpose of agreeing to marry Ge Yue so quickly from this time.
In contrast, Zhou Bingyi's feelings for Hao Dongmei in "The World" are much simpler, and when Hao Dongmei's family was in distress, Zhou Bingyi liked Hao Dongmei as always, and gave up his great future for her.
If you take the "turmoil of life" as the touchstone of feelings, Zhou Bingyi's feelings for Hao Zhongmei have nothing to say, it must be true love,
On the other hand, Gu Xin did not dare to make such a judgment, he was more thinking about his own future, and the combination with Ge Yue was also because it would be beneficial to his future.
Zhou Bingyi chose to be with Hao Dongmei, taking feelings as the most important and putting feelings first, while Gu Xin's choice to combine with Ge Yue was a compromise with his current situation and a utilitarian mentality.
Lev? Tolstoy said that true love can only arise after giving up personal happiness.
It is precisely in the case of giving up his personal future (generally speaking, there is happiness with a future) that Zhou Bingyi shows his true love for Hao Dongmei, while Gu Xin is just the opposite, he is more for the sake of his personal future and gives up his favorite Sun Qi and chooses Ge Yue.
It can be said that if a relationship is mixed with a little purpose other than the relationship, it already indicates that it cannot go through the test of life.
When encountering the twists and turns of life, the emotions produced by two people are different
After Gu Xin's husband was sentenced to three years of probation for economic problems, the luxurious wedding room for the two people, which was originally to be purchased in the prime location, also became a bubble.
Under such circumstances, Gu Xin's psychology underwent important changes, and the filial piety that he had originally shown in front of the old man was no longer difficult to hide, and his nature began to be exposed.
At the urging of his mother, Gu Xin pushed his pregnant wife Ge Yue back to his parents' house, and the love he had shown in front of Ge Yue before was gone.
This further shows that Gu Xin's love for Ge Yue is basically based on the conditions of her family, and now the conditions have disappeared, so the love will soon disappear.
This is Gu Xin's utilitarianism at work, because he does not love enough, so he cannot withstand the test of life, and he cannot withstand the trickery and unreasonableness from his mother, and naturally he cannot withstand the strong sense of oppression from his father-in-law.
On the surface, it is because the concepts of the two old people have clashed, and it is the serious interference of the two old people that makes the feelings between Gu Xin and Ge Yue go wrong, and in depth, the essence is because Gu Xin is not true love for Ge Yue, so when the contradiction comes, the so-called feelings will waver.
Looking at Zhou Bingyi again, after Hao Dongmei's parents reinstated their posts, Hao Dongmei's "strength" has gradually been revealed, and this strength comes from the status of her parents, but such a change has not shaken the feelings of the two.
In order not to let his wife suffer, but also to take care of the emotions of his wife and father-in-law, Zhou Bingyi decided to live with them, and his purpose in doing so was not to please, nor to think about his future, he was completely considered from his wife's point of view and feelings.
Hao Dongmei lost her fertility because of a fall, and in order not to let her father have too many thoughts, Zhou Bingyi told his father that he could not have children, which was out of true love for Hao Dongmei.
The difference in the source of love determines the difference in behavior when encountering things in the future, and these behaviors are implemented in a subtle way, and there is a Chinese saying called "the difference is a thousand miles", which is also applicable emotionally.
Conclusion: "Desire" determines behavior
Schopenhauer said in Schopenhauer's Philosophy of Life: We do not desire something because we find all kinds of reasons for it, but because we want something to take the reasons for seeking it.
Zhou Bingyi's desire is "love with Hao Dongmei", so most of his actions related to Hao Dongmei are implemented around this desire.
And Gu Xin's desire is "how to make himself improve his career and status as soon as possible, or let himself have status", so under the influence of this general direction, his marriage to Ge Yue is only to serve his "desire".
After Gu Xin broke the incident of "marrying Ge Yue as a springboard for his goal", he began to pursue other ways to meet his emotional needs, and after his request to reunite with Sun Qi was fruitless, he would definitely act again to match his "desire".
The difference in "desire" has led to the fact that although Gu Xin and Zhou Bingyi are both door-to-door son-in-law, the emotional path and the behavior that match them are many different, or the result of complete opposites.
It is precisely this difference that makes the true purity of Gu Xin and Ge Yue's weak and powerless feelings quickly returned to its "original form", while the sincere feelings of Zhou Bingyi and Hao Dongmei have experienced many years of wind and rain, although there are twists and turns, they are generally beautiful.