Gu Xin is in prison, Ge Yue is pregnant, Gu Shihai is busy making up a palm-sized garbage bin at home, and he does not stop every day as long as he has time.
On this day, he was at home again, and Su Wangdi remembered her son sobbing and crying. Gu Shihai glanced at a piece of cotton wool white debris on her head and reached out his hand to remove it for her, but he did not expect that the bamboo strip in his hand was wrapped around her hair. Su Wangdi was in pain and shouted "Ah". Gu Shihai was even more flustered, and clumsily ripped off a large handful of her hair before he finally got the bamboo pieces down.
This scene is simply a metaphor, Su Wangdi is so fateful, this is the only time in the whole book that her husband expresses warmth to her, and love is also accompanied by pain.
Many people watching "Heart Residence" feel that Su Wangdi is very angry in the city, and his vanity is bursting, coupled with a poisonous tongue, and his mouth is not spared, resulting in people being disgusted. After carefully reading the original work of "Heart Residence" three times, I found that all this was because she rarely received love in her life, Gu Shihai had no love for her, her mother-in-law had no love for her, and even her son had no love for her, or at least would not express love.
Between husband and wife
Su Wangdi said that when she got married, there was no new clothes, let alone a new house. Squeeze in a room with your parents, pull a curtain between the two beds, paste a happy word, eat two happy candies, even if you are married.
Hearing this, Gu Shilian smiled: Sister-in-law is the most able to live a life, see stitches and needles, the most able to arrange; soon gave birth to Xinxin.
Su Wangdi's old wife rubbed people's backs in the Hun Hall, and her father smoked opium. When drinking happy wine, it frightened everyone, a person who looked like a leprosy ghost.
At that time, the introducer said so, the Gu family three generations of books Xiang Mendi, the family is also good, Gu Shihai is especially good, a good person, is a bit stuffy personality, not very pleasing.
After getting married, Su Wangdi found that Gu Shihai was not moving the grass and not taking the grass, people did not like to talk, every morning is to buy a dish, buy a kitchen to throw, and then go back to the room to drink tea and read the newspaper, the sky falls down has nothing to do with him.
Soon after getting married, Gu Shihai went to Heilongjiang to join the team, and Su Wangdi married a chicken with a chicken and a dog with a dog, and also followed. That's 30 years. At first, she did not adapt to the cold climate of the northeast, and she was also uncomfortable with the feeling of being alone and wandering.
Gu Shihai rarely gave a smiley face, like a stone every day. The northeast people are spicy, and Su Wangdi, as a Shanghai woman, also has to arm herself and make herself more splashed than the northeast people. In this way, he lived as a dog in the northeast and endured for 30 years.
Gu Shihai and Su Wangdi's life is a double heaven of ice and fire, and the atmosphere at home is either cold to ice or noisy to hot. There is no neutralization of the complementary ones at all.
Daughter-in-law Ge Yue sat in confinement after giving birth to a child, Su Wangdi was busy alone, during the day Ge Yue's mother came over, and at night It was Su Wangdi who was busy. The small bed was placed next to himself, the child woke up, hugged to Ge Yue, after feeding the milk and then carried away, hiccups, changing diapers. I have to get up four or five times a night, day and night hard, Gu Shihai just takes care of buying a dish in the morning, throwing it to the kitchen, and doing nothing else.
A few times, Ge Yue and Su Wangdi were busy with babies in the room, and there were dishes burning on the stove, and when he saw it, he only reminded you that it was almost scorched, and he did not cooperate. After eating, the dishes and chopsticks are not washed, and the tables are spread out, and I take care of myself to go back to the room, drink tea and read the newspaper.
Looking after Shi Hai's style, it is no wonder that Su Wangdi is powerful. Women don't get the care of their husbands, how gentle you make her!
Su Wangdi once showed Gu Shihai a picture of his mobile phone, which was a dish, taking bean sprouts and fans to pile into a tree, and then making a few steamed buns into the shape of a piglet, each lying on the tree. Let him guess the name of the dish.
Gu Shihai said, "Sows go up the tree." She shook her head and said, "Wrong, it's "men are reliable." Ge Yue listened to it and couldn't help but laugh out loud.
I don't know how Gu Shihai felt after hearing this joke. This passage also shows that Su Wangdi's seemingly out-of-tune behavior contains disappointment in her husband.
In the play, the three thousand gold mother shouted at her husband: What will you do besides having children? This sentence is also the voice of Su Wangdi's heart.
Su Wangdi married a husband who does not care about everything in the world, and she needs to do her own work outside the home, so what can such a woman do in addition to making herself stronger and hotter?
However, everyone said that she was a shrew.
A woman lives in a warm family full of love every day, and the mood is naturally very good, so that she will become an angel; and when a woman does not get love from a man, and lives every day in domestic violence, hatred, tears and pain, over time, the woman becomes a shrew.
In the original work, after Mrs. Gu fell ill, everyone took care of the elderly in shifts. Every time it was Gu Shihai's turn, he was pushing three or four blocks, either cold or fever, and he had to push all the responsibility of accompanying him to the night on his wife Su Wangdi.
Once, after Su Wangdi spent a night with Gu Shihai, she was very tired and wanted to go home and rest.
However, at this time, she received her husband's husband and asked her not to come back and continue to accompany the night. Su Wangdi asked him why he didn't come, and Gu Shihai said that he had a headache and might have a cold.
Su Wangdi asked him to bring some dinner. He didn't come either, saying it would be good to have a casual meal. At this point, Su Wangdi was also angry, tired, hospital escort is not counted, and when she returns home, she has to take the child to cook, all the time.
Hearing this, she felt more and more cold, she couldn't bear it, and broke out: Your old wife is sick, is it more with me or are you more with me? You want to be filial piety, and you want to be a good brother - I know your thoughts, I feel sorry for others, I feel uncomfortable, my brother-in-law begs you once, you are busy agreeing, I can't wait to help people accompany the night every day. The banknotes are not clear in this life, and the wife is a free laborer, who uses it casually, only as a nanny part-time worker. You, it is best that your sister now needs to donate organs, heart, liver, spleen, lungs and kidneys, everything is good, you rush up without saying a word, first let the wife pair, the wife can't do the son, there is really no one to open up on your own, an organ and a house, it is also cost-effective - Gu Shihai yourself said, who have you been good to in this life? Old woman, brother, sister, wife, son, grandson... Who have you really treated?! ”
Now that the two have lived together for so many years, Gu Shihai's behavior and doing things are, at best, a natural character. But what are good people and what are bad people? A good person who has not broken the law or gone to jail? Do you have to use knives and guns to kill people and set fires to call bad people? So in the final analysis, it is not a question of personality, but a question of character.
In the face of his wife's questioning, Gu Shihai could not say a word, but he was really poor in reason, he would only reveal Su Wangdi's old bottom one by one: "The daughter of a friend who rubs his feet in the hun hall", do you know what kind of life you want to live?!
What is a good person and what is a bad person, in fact, this is all relative. It is not a knife and gun that kills people and sets fires to be called bad people. Do nothing, can not bear their responsibilities as a husband and father, can not create a good life for their wives and children; on the contrary, they expect their wives to do everything, they do not care about everything, they do not go up, they let their wives suffer and suffer with themselves, and they turn back to sprinkle their resentment on their wives; they do not love their wives, they often humiliate her with their wives' origins, hurt a woman who urinates for her mother, and filial piety for herself, ignoring her pain and fatigue... This person is the bad guy.
On Gu Shihai's side, he felt that he was Luo Tuo, a witness to the bad luck of Heilongjiang in those years, and also a watershed. I had always been a white-faced student, but when I got there, I became a slug, and I really fell by the sky. Thirty years can not turn over, the gentle and virtuous wife of that year has also become a shrew.
This is just like what Ge Yue's father said: "I didn't hold it." Gu Shihai is a typical one who has not been firmly held, and has been going downhill for thirty years. In the process of going downhill, he broke the jar and broke it, and only his heart fell, his depression, and his life was not smooth, all vented on Su Wangdi, and even transferred the pressure of life to Su Wangdi.
Between mother and child
Su Wangdi is a strong person, his husband and wife will be just that, all their energy is poured on their son, they don't know a few words, but they are extremely close to Gu Xin's studies.
She worked in a garment factory, laid off in her thirties, found a small restaurant to do chores, washed dishes and cut vegetables, and brought back leftover meals from guests every day.
My son eats fresh, even if it is a simple vegetable, it is freshly fried. No matter how expensive the milk is, it is also ordered every day, watching him drink it. The son did his homework and knitted sweaters next to him, every day. Even the foot-washing water was brought to him, and he was served to wash up and go to bed before returning to his room.
The homework can not be understood, but the score is recognized, good needless to say, if not, the rattan behind the door immediately pumped over, splitting the head and covering the ground.
Gu Xin returned to Shanghai on the third day of junior high school, except for English, other subjects are far ahead. Heavy middle school entrance examination into the city key, easy as mowing grass. There were no parents around for three years in high school, and the foundation laid earlier was always good, and the college entrance examination did not disappoint.
Su Wangdi treats her son as a treasure, and it is really a heart and liver meat. All the hope in this life fell on him. Fortunately, Gu Xin is also angry, and civil servants are also one in a thousand, so it can be said that they have not failed.
After work, he was looked up to by the leader and married his daughter, indicating that Gu Xin was a baby and had an unlimited future, so the olive branch of the pro-family father was stretched out in front of his eyes.
The son has a job, and immediately marries the director's family for thousands of dollars, and also buys tens of millions of houses.
These are all the pride of Su Wangdi. Climbing high rather than low shows that Xinxin has the ability, and people have to roll over the money.
Su Wangdi pinned all her hopes on her son, and from an early age, she had strict requirements for Gu Xin and studied hard, and the hope of the family turning over was pinned on him.
Children raised in this way are required by their parents to learn well from an early age, and everything else is left alone. Because since childhood, I only know how to learn, and my worldview, outlook on life, and values have not been established well, and when I grow up, it is easy to go astray.
It can be seen that Su Wangdi has not been taken seriously by her husband all her life, but when she looks back, she also cultivates her son according to Gu Shihai's model.
At that time, a family mixed into a dog in Heilongjiang ate leftovers, and their self-esteem was trampled on the ground, trampling and trampling, at that time Su Wangdi only thought about how to turn over, her husband was hopeless, and all her hopes were on her son.
Now the son is fighting for breath, flowers are blooming in the cracks, and the good days can't be stopped.
Su Wangdi wants to be strong, full of thoughts about the turnaround of his own family, thinking of his son Guangzong Yaozu, ignoring the cultivation of his son's morality.
After Gu Xin got married, the old man had an accident. Su Wangdi just sighed and said that the benefits did not touch anything, don't bother us.
Su Wangdi is a straight-talking person, there is no bad heart. This kind of moment just wants to clear yourself, but nothing else. But Gu Shihai said a word at this time: It is not good to let them get a divorce. Suddenly you can see the difference between the two of them.
After the accident of the old man, Gu Xin's colleagues in the district government all looked at him with respect and were snubbed. Su Wangdi comforted her son, there are more people on the beach than you mixed up. Gu Xin did not laugh angrily: As long as someone is worse than me, I have to thank God?
Su Wangdi suppressed a sentence: The plot is in the people, and the success is in the sky. Gu Xin gritted his teeth and said that he already knew that it was not too much, first he was scolded by people for eating swan meat, and now the swan had become a duck, and the two ends were empty, and finally he said that his life was not good.
When Gu Xin was young, he was forced too hard by his mother, he bore too many burdens that did not belong to him, and there was nowhere to solve it at a young age, so he developed the psychology of taking shortcuts, so he went after the daughter of the director. I thought I could fight for twenty years less, but I didn't think about it, and soon after I got married, my husband had an accident, and his face was all gone, and he was laughed at behind his back. So he concluded that his life was not good, he was not born in a good family, and his parents could not pick.
When Su Wangdi heard her son talk like this, she suddenly dispelled her competitive mind, adding a layer of discouragement and disappointment.
Later, Gu Xin was angry, but in a fit of anger, he made a transfer report, was transferred to the subordinate town government, and then joined forces with Feng Xixi to arbitrage loans and illegal financing... Finally, he was imprisoned. That's a story for another day.
It can be seen that Gu Xin played a good hand of cards, and Su Wangdi also had an unshirkable responsibility in it. Originally, having children and having children is a loss-making business, Su Wangdi is a bitter person, responsible for the small, filial piety to the old, but only neglected his own life, single-mindedly taking care of the small, and fulfilling the life of his children.
There is nothing wrong with parents looking forward to Jackie Chan. However, parents give up on themselves and pin all their hopes on their sons to turn over, which will bring great pressure to their children. If Su Wangdi was not like this, Gu Xin's life choice would not be so desperate.
As a mother-in-law
Before getting married, Ge Yue gave Su Wangdi a brand-name silk scarf, and later, she learned that this silk scarf was 800 pieces, so she could not count the daughter-in-law who had not passed through the door.
After the marriage, the little two took the family to suzhou for a ride in the Mercedes-Benz SUV sent by the husband. Su Wangdi said sourly that the city to drive this car is too uneconomical, costing oil, insurance premiums, road maintenance fees are also expensive, and then arrived in Suzhou, found that Ge Yueding's hotel is also five-star, a night of more than two thousand, eating is also in a high-end restaurant. At checkout, she snatched the credit card, saw the number on it, and it was another count: to live a life to calculate, otherwise it is to dismantle the family belongings, and the gold mountain and silver mountain also have a time to run out.
Su Wangdi is used to living frugally, and she can't see her daughter-in-law spending money in a big way. If you want to put aside other scheming mother-in-law, you may quietly ask your son or talk to your daughter-in-law privately. However, Su Wangdi may have lived in the northeast for a long time and developed a personality of being outspoken and talking. It is often a batch of daughters-in-law, sometimes even regardless of the occasion. At best, this is straight nature, and conversely, it can also be said to be a lack of heart and eyes.
Later, after Ge Yue gave birth to a child, Su Wangdi did not say anything about Ge Yue's care, during the day Ge Mu came over, the two took turns to bring, at night Su Wangdi alone, put the small bed next to himself, the child woke up, hugged to Ge Yue, after feeding the milk and taking away, burping, changing diapers, always got up four or five times a night, day and night, almost non-stop, do not feel tired.
There are also more talks to the daughter-in-law, all around the child, instructing the daughter-in-law to do this and that. In the process of getting along, she also found that Ge Yue was a very peaceful person, with a good temperament and a gentle person. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are a bit like mother and daughter. Su Wangdi said to Ge Yue from the bottom of her heart: Now is the time to catch up with the good times, and I am happy for you. As a woman, you are more comfortable than I am.
Ge Yue said that her mother was more hard. Su Wangdi sighed and said that it was not hard work, it was fate. In fact, Su Wangdi means that the men in the family can't count on it, which is a woman's life.
Ge Yue thought of herself by her mother-in-law, and it turned out that this fate was inherited. Even Gu Xin said that his life could not be changed. Parents can not choose, this is a human life, can also be said to be a family atmosphere.
Although Su Wangdi has a strong mouth, she is really a knife mouth tofu heart. Her relationship with her daughter-in-law Ge Yue can see this.
Between sisters-in-law
When Gu Shihai and Su Wangdi were married, her sister Gu Shilian did not agree, and she voted against it, on the grounds that Su Wangdi's face was not good, her chin was short, her cheekbones were prominent, her bamboo nose was knotted, and her teeth were also toothless... Gu Shilian thought that such a person with such a face was powerful, and the eldest brother's life was ruined.
Although the Gu family is not everyone, the previous generations are also readers, which can be called a small half of the book. Su Wangdi's old wife rubbed people's backs in the Hun Hall, and her father smoked opium. When drinking happy wine, it frightened everyone, a person who looked like a leprosy ghost.
Everyone thinks they are good, and Gu Shilian thinks that the eldest brother is a white-faced student and should find a more gentle and kind woman. This is also the common sentiment of people, but Su Wangdi thinks that Gu Shilian looks down on herself.
Su Wangdi said that she was a working class, did more, made more mistakes, said a sentence was top three sentences, no culture and no level, people look down.
Later, Gu Shilian found Gao Chang, who was six years younger than himself, and Su Wangdi did not gossip less, and there was a saying of "six chongs" in Shanghai customs, and it was reversed. Now Gu Shilian has also been punished, her husband is like a groom official, and she is like an aunt.
The two sisters-in-law have looked down on each other since they were married, and they have been fighting back and forth. At the family dinner, Su Wangdi and the sister-in-law fight, which is a reserved program on the dinner table, and the closer the relationship, the more casual the speech.
Gu Shilian used to live a very rich family life, and the eldest brother's family did not live well, so in the 80s, she gave her eldest brother Gu Shihai a house. Over the years, Su Wangdi and Gu Shihai's family have gradually come out of embarrassment, and Gu Shilian has cancer, after surgery, chemotherapy, spending money like water, and the family is gradually empty. This house has thus become a heart disease for both families.
Su Wangdi knew that her sister-in-law needed to spend money when she was sick, and she was willing to borrow money. She turned back to ask Gu Shihai, and found that there was not much cash at home, and the money in the family was deposited regularly, and if it was taken out now, it was a bit of a loss. Therefore, Gu Shihai did not borrow it when he was the master.
On the one hand, waiting for help, on the other hand, the interest of term deposits, which is lighter or heavier, can be seen by onlookers at a glance. Su Wangdi, as a woman, has a small family spirit, and this time requires the determination of men. Infuriatingly, Gu Shihai was too selfish, only saw the days of his own family, disregarded his sister's life and death, and had his own coolness in it.
Gu Shihai is the head of the family, and Su Wangdi can't change her husband's mind. In a family, what can a woman do, and the last person to make a decision is not a man?
Write at the end
Su Wangdi's life was a life of hard work. She had been busy all her life, for her husband, for her son, for her grandson. This is a hard-working wife, mother, grandmother.
Poor she met someone unladylike, married to a non-good person, her husband Gu Shihai did not let her live a good day in her life, nor did she love her well for a day, a woman who lacked love all her life, can you still expect her to be gentle and elegant, elegant and quiet?
She could only make herself stronger, more spicy, more poisonous, more invincible, protecting her husband who was not a weapon, protecting her young children, and walking all the way through thorns.
Su Wangdi is an ordinary mother, one of countless ordinary Chinese women, because she is ordinary, because she is ordinary, she truly represents the greatest mother on the land of China.
Such a mother, in your house, in my house, or mother-in-law, or mother,, does not believe, go home and look. Almost every Chinese family has such a powerful mother or mother-in-law.
I hope we can all love our family's Su Wangdi, she has suffered all her life and needs our love very much.