After the finale of "Heart Residence", the open-ended ending is somewhat uncomfortable, especially the most distressing Ge Yue in the play, obviously an honest and kind girl, but was hurt by Gu Xin again and again, and finally looked at Gu Xin and Feng Xixi' inseparable looks, and also vented her husband's betrayal of her in a self-injurious way.
Su Wangdi once comforted Ge Yue that Gu Xin was not good for her, it was "ancestral, do not take the wife seriously", a sentence "ancestral do not take the wife seriously", tearing apart the Gu family's coolness in the marriage, but also let people see the end of Ge Yue's marriage to Gu Xin at a glance.
Joe Byron said: Love is nothing more than an external thing for men, but for women it is a whole life.
It is said that marriage is a woman's second life, because the second half of your life is spent with your partner, marry the right person, the second half of your life will be comfortable and happy; if you choose wrong, you may be bitter half a life, and even a lifetime is trapped in the prison of feelings.
So for women, choosing the right partner is really too important, in fact, whether a man is worth your gambling on a lifetime, you can feel it before marriage, like Gu Xin, who is tall and handsome but finds Ge Yue, who looks flat and short, Ge Yue actually understands the impurity of this relationship at the beginning, but she still chooses to accept, which is also doomed to her bitterness in this marriage.
From Gu Xin's person, it can also be seen that those who are not good to his wife, most of them are these three kinds of people, very real.
01 In the face of interests and feelings, always put interests first
When Feng Xiaoqin learned that the relationship between her sister and Gu Xin was not right, she once advised Xi Qian to have a bottom line and not to bully honest people, and Feng Xixi in the original work said something like this:
She found a scumbag herself, the front foot Zhang Qi just left, the back foot no matter who it is, the hand hook is open, even if there is no me, there will be other women. Sister, you figured it out, it wasn't me who bullied her, it was his husband who ate her.
Even Feng Xixi knew Gu Xin's scum, could Ge Yue get along with him day and night?
When Gu Xin suddenly split his legs and his ex-girlfriend Zhang Qi pursued her, Ge Yue knew that he had a girlfriend, and the reason why he pursued her with a mediocre appearance, and even a colleague who had no intersection for several years, was because she had a father who was a bureau chief, but she still accepted his pursuit, and even not long after falling in love, the two flashed marriage.
A man can choose you for the sake of profit today, and in the future, between you and the interest, he will give up you for the sake of profit.
Just like Ge Yue in the play, when his father was demoted, she no longer had the use value of Gu Xin, and at this time, Gu Xin had no concern for her, directly treated her as air, ignored her love, and even the children did not bother to care, in the original words of Ge Yue in the original work, "it is so light that people are cold... Only when there is no her as a person, even the perfunctory process is saved. ”
Cold attitude, even the mother-in-law who has always been picky about Ge Yue can't look down, counting Gu Xin "is biological, and it is not the drag oil bottle brought by your wife's remarriage."
Marriage is originally a test of the tacit understanding between the husband and wife and the mutual cooperation in future life, mixed with interests of the feelings, often difficult to support a marriage, because you do not know at all, when you lose this value, even if you barely stay together, when one day faced with the temptation of greater interests, you will often become the one who is sacrificed and abandoned.
02 I don't know how to be grateful
Whether a person is worth entrusting for life, character is very important, and to see a person's character, you can first look at his attitude towards his parents.
If he respects his elders and treats his parents well, it means that he is a person who knows how to be grateful and has good conduct, and spends the rest of his life with such a person, you will certainly be treated and cherished by him.
Gu Xin in "Heart Residence" is not only a person with high interests, but also has no gratitude to his parents.
After the old man was demoted, he could no longer get benefits from Ge Yue, so he began to complain that he had lost face because he married Ge Yue. First he was scolded for eating swan meat, and now the swan has become a duck, and both ends are empty, and all the faces are gone."
Even outside the words, he also hated his parents for not having the ability to create superior conditions for him and help him in his career and life.
There are some people in life who are particularly good to outsiders but particularly bad to their families, and most of them leave the worst side to the people closest to them, often speaking harshly to their relatives, and even various calculations, making their relatives heartache and cold.
In marriage, such a person will often turn a blind eye to your efforts, and even feel that everything you do is deserved.
Feng Zikai said, "If you love, life is lovely everywhere; if you hate, life is hateful everywhere." If you are grateful, you can be grateful everywhere. It's not the world that chooses you, it's you who choose the world. ”
A person who does not have a grateful heart never reflects on himself, nor can he see the efforts of others, because he only sees himself in his heart.
03 Do everything to shake hands off the treasurer
After Ge Yue gave birth to a child, Gu Xin often excused not to go home, and was indifferent to Ge Yue and the child, Su Wangdi could not see it, and once hugged her daughter-in-law unevenly, saying that the child was "biological, and it is not the oil bottle brought by your wife's remarriage."
He also said that Gu Xin was "ancestral and does not take his wife seriously."
The reason why Su Wangdi said this is because her life is too hard, she feels that she is a "24-hour no sleep will not be tired like an iron man", no matter how big or small things are in the family, Gu Shihai is not concerned about himself and hangs high, even when his own mother, Mrs. Gu, is sick and hospitalized, he also directly threw the responsibility to Su Wangdi.
There is a passage in the original book that describes Su Wangdi's bitterness and difficulty in this marriage:
Gu Shihai was only responsible for getting up early to buy a dish, throwing it into the kitchen, and then ignoring everything. Several times there were dishes burning on the stove, she and Su Wangdi were busy in the room with the baby, and when he saw it, he only reminded him that it was 'almost scorched', and did not cooperate. After eating, the dishes and chopsticks were not washed, and they were spread on the table, and they returned to the room by themselves. Drink tea and read the newspaper.
Some people have counted the four major misfortunes in modern marriage: motherhood, nanny wife, widowhood parenting, and widowhood marriage.
Gu Shihai can be said to have occupied all four of them, so he has achieved such a snobbish and annoying Su Wangdi.
The TV series "Day Face" said: "Many husbands will only treat their wives like refrigerators, thinking that as long as they open the door, they will have food to eat at any time." Obviously it is very inconvenient to break it, but it is never maintained. ”
If a man has no sense of responsibility and does everything to shake his hands, he is bound to turn his wife into a shrew who complains about the world, because marriage is a two-way rush for two people, not a one-man one-man show.
04 Conclusion
Women marry the wrong person, like wearing a pair of shoes that grind their feet, and every step is branded with a blood mark, so more and more people have a fear of marriage.
Although many people say that modern women are material and realistic, there are actually many women around me, they are emotional in the face of feelings, easy to be emotional, once identified a person, even if they eat chaff and throat vegetables are willing, but there are too many of them sincere, only one marriage is cold by time.