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Watching "Heart Residence" is easy to commit heart attacks, the sister-in-law and sister-in-law are secretly pinched, young couples have to quarrel every episode, and the Gu family's dinner seconds become a large Shuluo field.
What is even more bloody is that Ge Yue and Gu Qingyu, two super rich girls, not only can't get the kindness of their mother-in-law, but they are also bullied badly.
Ge Yue married more than 20 million yuan of mansions, Gu Xin is only a grassroots civil servant, although he also bought a two-bedroom marriage house, but even the money for decoration can not be taken out.
The gap between the grabens did not affect Su Wangdi's swing at all, not only did she not feel that her son was climbing high, but she felt that her son had suffered a loss.
Gu Qingyu was even more confused, until the divorce, she did not understand what her mother-in-law hated her. The self-confident mother-in-law suffered from kidney disease, and the family owed more than 1 million foreign debts, living in an old and dilapidated hutong house. Shi Yuan, who has a secondary school education, is only a tour guide, and the overall conditions are not as good as Gu Xin's family.
However, Shi Mu's dislike of Gu Qingyu can almost circle the earth several times, thinking that she has grown a face without blessings, that she speaks yin and yang strangely, that she looks several years older than Shi Yuan, and that she is not born well.
If you hold back the discomfort and look at it, you will find that the abnormality of these two mothers-in-law is in the end the human nature of the dark poke is at work.
01. Ge Yue's mother-in-law
The adaptation of this play is not much different from the original book, and there is a description in the book:
Su Wangdi looked at her son, how to see how to rejoice. On the other hand, look at the daughter-in-law, short and thin, eyebrows are unfocused, talk like mosquitoes, but some like their own useless men, none of them can take it.
Originally, I thought that Gao Pan, and then think about it, my son actually suffered a loss. The old jianghu like the father-in-law is the most accurate to see people, if Xinxin is not a baby, will he come together so badly? ”
Originally, Su Wangdi was trembling at this rich family, but after thinking about it, she was suddenly full of confidence.
Su Wangdi led everyone to see the mansion sent by his relatives, and Gu Xin did not have time, so he let Ge Yue accompany him. During the period, Gu Xin called Ge Yue, and Ge Yue did not dare to disturb his study style, which made Su Wangdi can't help but be proud and put up her mother-in-law's shelf more and more.
She first commented on the trivialities of the wedding, criticizing that there was not even a small vegetable market around the new house, "not like a place to live."
Even if the wedding dress that Ge Yue wears is sent by her uncle, Su Wangdi will also accuse waste; Ge Yue does not look at the price when she orders, pays without looking at the bill, Su Wangdi grabs it, sees the number, and falls by the number.
Ge Yue bought Su Wangdi a silk scarf 800, took her to live in a hotel with more than 2,000 yuan a night, bought a mattress 5300, and was trained by her mother-in-law to "dismantle the family belongings" with her neck. No matter what Ge Yue did, Su Wangdi could pick out a lot of faults.
The drama is that such a mother-in-law who looks down on her daughter-in-law everywhere and sees that her baby son is indifferent to the confinement daughter-in-law to the extreme, and also blames her son for going too far.
When she learned that Gu Xin was going to divorce the pregnant Ge Yue, Su Wangdi magically stood on the side of her daughter-in-law and said to her son: "Everyone is pregnant, and they are not happy like this!" ”
The changes before and after Su Wangdi really responded to the words of the emotional writer Su Qian:
"Women can only calmly associate with women who are more unlucky than themselves."
Su Wangdi, who had once lived a bitter life, her psychology had been distorted. Laid off in her thirties, she went to small restaurants to do odd jobs, and brought home leftovers from her guests every day. The days when self-esteem was trampled on the ground, with the son's appearance, slowly picked up back.
The dowry that the Ge Yue family exceeded expectations once again beat Su Wangdi back to her original form. She knew in her heart that Ge Yue's arrival could give her parents face, but she had no culture and did not grow, could not suppress the evil in human nature, bullied Ge Yue, and raised her son, for her, it was the fastest means to smooth the disparity, and the mother-in-law at the bottom was best at bullying her daughter-in-law's long face!
02. Gu Qingyu's mother-in-law
Ge Yue is facing a mother-in-law who has gone from poor acid to a well-off, gu Qingyu has encountered a mother-in-law who has gone downhill, and the past glory of the family makes her unable to accept the fall of the status quo, and then to the daughter-in-law who once lived her petty bourgeois life, all kinds of inconspicuous.
Gu Qingyu's family is not a big family, but the previous generations are also readers, which can be called a small half of the bookish mendi. However, compared with the Shi family, who was once a government official and his grandfather was in business, the Gu family was still inferior in the eyes of Shi Mother.
Therefore, Shi Mu always showed a lofty posture, and she hated that Gu Qingyu was not born well enough.
The first time Shi Yuan brought Gu Qingyu to the door, Shi Mu actually called the daughter of her girlfriend to disgust Gu Qingyu, and Zheng Zheng had a word: "I just want her to know what kind of person we were going to marry, so that she won't be confused!" ”
The good man did not mention that he was brave, but Shi Mu was going to imagine the scenery of that year for a lifetime, and the degree to which she disliked Gu Qingyu was much more fierce than Ge Yue's mother-in-law.
When the family met for the first time, Mother Shi said in front of Gu Qingyu's father, "If this time were to go back a few decades, would our two families be able to climb the family?" ”
When Shi Mu learned that the money for her kidney replacement was Gu Qingyu, she roared viciously:
"If I knew that she had taken the money for the kidney replacement, I'd rather wait to die!"
His son is only a secondary school education, doing the work of a tour guide, the family lives in a small house, Shi Yuan is almost 40 years old, not even a marriage room.
In Shi Mu's eyes, these were all thorns, and she couldn't accept them. Coupled with the bad days of the devolved corps that year, she could not accept the reality emotionally, and because she gave Shi Yuan sleeping pills, she led to the college entrance examination of her son, who was most likely to bring her hope, and she could not see it, and she was depressed.
Today, Gu Qingyu's shining diploma, dazzling profession, and generous elegance between her hands and feet are telling her that the Shi family is the bad side.
The stronger the self-esteem, the easier it is to lose their measure when brushing up on the sense of existence. The only thing that Shi Mu could suppress her daughter-in-law was her proud identity, such a good excuse to balance the gap, how could she miss it? This mother-in-law, said to be from a large family, actually lacks some cultivation!
03. Mei Niang said
In order to find out the truth that these two poor mothers-in-law "abused" rich daughters-in-law, I kept playing back TV dramas, brushing the original works over and over again, and found that the evil mother-in-law harshly blamed the rich daughter-in-law, far more than the disparity between rich and poor.
First, the relationship between the mother-in-law and the father-in-law is not harmonious;
Su Wangdi and her husband in this life, ice and fire double heaven, or cold war, or quarrel over the sky. There is hardly a time for neutralization and complementarity.
And what about Shi Mu's old two sons? They quarreled and picked up ugly words, Su Mu scolded her husband in Suzhou dialect to die, and Shi Father used English to fight back against his wife going to hell.
After giving birth to their respective sons, these two mothers-in-law gave their sons the emotions that should have been pinned on their husbands. In their hearts, mother and son are conjoined, and the daughter-in-law is a third party who intervenes in her emotional world, can she not be disgusted?
Second, the man who "shrunk his neck" gave his mother-in-law the arrogance of the undertones;
Ge Yue complained to Gu Xin about her mother-in-law's unreasonableness, and Gu Xin, like most men, made a perfunctory remark: "She is the elder, she is my mother!" "Beyond that, there is no more action to solve the problem.
Shi Yuan would speak for Gu Qingyu, but seeing that Gu Qingyu had thrown his face many times, he also stood on the side of his mother.
As long as men do nothing, the mother-in-law relationship will be like the War in Ukraine, and it will be difficult to stop.
Wu Zhihong said in "Chinese-style love and love":
"As far as I know, when the competitive game played by the mother-in-law at the son's house is not punctured, the mother-in-law can compete for the position of power with the help of a lot of love, the great name, and the name of my mother, but once someone, especially her own son, clearly pierces the game, the mother will be quiet." 」
For example, in "Know It or Not", Sheng Rulan's husband Wen Yanjing is very manly, and warns his mother that if he is a demon again, he will not live in the house where the Sheng family is married. Wen Mu saw her son move really, and immediately became a rule.
Third, the daughter-in-law will not express anger, giving the mother-in-law the opportunity to kick her nose in the face again and again;
Chinese the character trait of "valuing harmony" in our bones, let us always love to avoid conflict. The more the girl thinks like this, the easier it is to be bullied by her mother-in-law.
Human nature has a bullying soft and afraid of hard side, many times, the reason why the mother-in-law dares to repeatedly cross the line to bully you, is nothing more than to feel that bullying you, you will not be good.
Those daughters-in-law who dare to show their claws and are not afraid of making a stiffness can let the mother-in-law know the bottom line, at most the first few times too much, will also stop in the mother-in-law's intransigence.
Psychologist Susan Foward writes in Emotional Blackmail:
The reason why a relationship can fall into the trap of blackmail is caused by the weakness of both the extortionist and the victim.
You provide a hotbed for blackmail to the evil mother-in-law, don't blame her for kicking her nose in the face. It's hard to hear, but that's what it is! Therefore, when you encounter an excessive mother-in-law, you must not put up with it!
Over the years, the tragic experience of the next married girls has made us have to face a naked reality: in this world, there are not many mature and grateful mothers-in-law, but the mother-in-law with serious inferiority accounts for the majority.
Since the reality is not ideal, we must find a way to make ourselves as comfortable as possible under the existing conditions.
If you are still an unmarried girl, I advise you not to have no requirements for the man when you are in love, and even take the initiative to post like Ge Yue Gu Qingyu.
Since the price of self-depreciation can not be exchanged for respect, the mother-in-law feels that it is very cheap to marry you, how can she treat you as a noble daughter-in-law?
If you are already a girl who has been mistreated by your mother-in-law for many years, then don't be discouraged, from now on, cultivate thunder means, and treat your mother-in-law with one principle: how do you treat me, how do I treat you, since you don't talk about affection, then it is fair to talk about fairness.
In short, let her know: I am good to you, if you have to go too far, then I don't have to be good to you.
Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there are not many fairy tales like mother and daughter, most of them are cruel reality. Since it is cruel, then don't be so silly and kind!
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