Look at "Heart Residence" again: I understand that Ge Yue's character determines that her marriage is a tragedy

Su Wangdi invited a group of family members to visit the new house of Xin Century Residence, but Gu Xinzheng could not come to the meeting, so he called his fiancée Ge Yue to come over.

After a while, a thin little girl came, and when she saw Su Wangdi and Gu Shihai, she called her parents. Ge Yue was a shy girl who blushed as soon as she spoke.

Last week at the Gu family dinner, everyone had already seen the photos, everyone took turns to look at it, and after reading it, they didn't speak, only Feng Xiaoqin said: Very clean and beautiful.

Su Wangdi said that Gu Xin liked it, and Gao Duoduo smiled and said that Ah Ge still liked Sun Qi. Sun Qi is beautiful and generous, and compared with Sun Qi, Ge Yue is a small family jasper type.

Some people say that Ge Yue's marriage is a copy of the unhappy marriage model of her parents, after Gu Xin cheated, she chose to flatter and please, and to save Gu Xin with all her heart; however, after reading "Heart Residence" several times, I learned that Ge Yue's tragedy lies in her character, and this indispensable, old and good character finally determines that her marriage is a tragedy.

Parenting style of the original family

Ge Yue's grandfather, who ran a boat from northern Jiangsu to Shanghai, hid in the cabin and smoked, different styles, and his lungs were boiled to black, and the cancer was long gone, and he grabbed his son's hand before he died, his eyes were red, and he held out two words----------------------------------------------------------------------

It is a Shanghainese word, meaning, hold on.

Ge Yue's father kept in mind his father's dying teachings, went to the farm as a teenager, had schistosomiasis, died nine times, and later returned to Shanghai, the steel mill burned the furnace for seven or eight years, while working while reading, the mind was just to hold firm, a little bit up, no matter how difficult it is to go up.

Because the uphill road is difficult, the downhill road is also difficult to walk. That's another kind of suffering.

As we often say now, if you don't eat the pain of reading, you will eat the hardships of life, and the pain of reading is self-pleading, but it will make you grow, progress, and be bitter, and will let you live the way you want. And the suffering of life, you sit still it will automatically come to you, the suffering of life makes people numb, adapt, compromise, will make people think in accordance with the way of life.

In this way, a little bit of hard work, Father Ge really got a hold on, and a little bit from the bottom of society to the position of the district government director.

In this way of going up, little by little, Ge Yue's father gradually cultivated and strengthened this strong personality, and the same was true in family life. At home, the wife and daughter naturally have to listen to him.

And Ge Father also has women outside, the original book wrote, the mother used to be wary of women outside the father, sat down once or twice, but it should be far more.

Therefore, in order to tie up her husband and also take precautions, Ge Yue's mother went to Korea in her thirties and cut her double eyelids and became beautiful. However, after the age of fifty, the skin is loose and sagging, the eyelids are more wrinkled, the double eyelids become three eyelids, all supported by makeup, eyeliner eyeshadow mascara, a pair of eyes painted with excitement.

The so-called woman is pleasing to herself, ge Yue's mother is trying to tie her husband's heart through plastic surgery and beauty.

In the Ge family, Ge Father is the head of the family and the authority, and Ge Mu is the one who marries the chicken and the dog with the dog, and is the dependent. The strong Ge Father had several lovers outside when he was young, but Ge Mu chose to swallow his anger and take a flattering and beautiful way, hoping to win back her husband's heart.

These Ge Yue all looked in her eyes, at that time she was still young and did not understand the love affairs of men and women, but the way her parents got along was what she had heard and carved in her bones.

Because my father was a person full of fighting spirit and did not accept defeat, through his own efforts, the white eyes of the crowd and the contempt of the crowd, he slowly went all the way up over the years, and finally sat in the position of the director.

The father's strength, but cultivated the weak temper of his daughter Ge Yue, is not easy to change.

For a long time, everyone felt that girls should be rich, and so should Ge Father and Mother. Therefore, he pampered his daughter and protected everything, and when he was outside, he did not let his daughter suffer a little loss, and he raised his daughter into a stupid girl. Soft personality, like tofu, soft inside and out. It's just anything, people are simple, have no heart, no eyes, and no complicated desires. Sometimes I don't know if she's really stupid or fake.

When Ge Yue grew up, her father also wanted to correct her personality, always telling her not to be the object of sympathy. Hopefully, she'll be tough.

At the time of Ge Yue's college entrance examination, her father took a piece of paper and pasted it in front of her writing desk, saying, "Today, when I am deserted, it is the tomorrow that the person who died yesterday prayed for." It is said to be the motto of Harvard.

At that time, Ge Yue felt that this school motto was a bit too straightforward, and the words of persuasion should not be said so skinned and broken. Later, after she got married, she found that this was the right thing to say, and that living a life was the same as reading, there was a difference between comparison and motivation.

Of course, Ge Yue also has advantages, although she does not know that chai mi is expensive, but Ge Yue is a peaceful and simple girl, she is not like her father's heart is higher than the sky, only seek stability. It is said that this kind of personality is a bit unmotivated, but since she was a child, her father paved the way for her, and she did not suffer much loss from childhood to adulthood.

On the day that Ge Yue's father was demoted and punished, Ge Yue's father pulled his daughter to his side: You will have to rely on yourself in the future. When Ge Yue heard his father say this, he couldn't help but feel a sinking in his heart, and he instantly felt the pressure. It's a bit chaotic and too late to react.

It was also from this day that Ge Yue was truly thrown into life and began the road of self-growth and self-exploration.

Psychological research has found that the influence of the original family on children is very large, and in most cases, children will copy their parents' marriage patterns. Strangely enough, boys are generally like fathers and girls are like mothers.

Parents are ready-made imitations of children. Because boys know that they will be husbands when they grow up, and girls also believe that they will be wives when they grow up, they unconsciously transplant the pattern of parental coexistence.

Of course, Ge Yue's marriage is not entirely that she copied her mother, but after discovering that Gu Xin had cheated on her, she was so stupid that she didn't deal with it at all, she was not a person who was good at induction, she didn't even know how to live a life, how a man should be, and she didn't count at all. She didn't even know how she would react after her husband cheated on her.

2. Ge Yue's growth after marriage

After marriage, when her father was still in the position of bureau chief, Gu Xin was indifferent to her. When she was in contact, she asked Gu Xin, what do men value most when they find a wife? Gu Xin replied that it was for appetite. She couldn't help but feel happy in her heart.

Now that I think about it, this statement is too subjective and cunning. Especially for girls with ordinary conditions, eliminate those "you are so beautiful, you are so cute" against the heart, not embarrassed, but also appear sincere. It was also this point that Gu Xin suddenly got Ge Yue's heart.

After the two got married, everyone quickly knew whether they were interested in this. In fact, men's appetites are similar, and the requirements for women are nothing more than beauty and cuteness. And most men like girls who are cute because of their beauty.

Before getting married, Gu Xin's attitude towards Ge Yue was light, light, and light; after his father stepped down, it was even more light, and it really faded out from the inside, so light that people were cold.

He never quarreled with her, and Gu Xin neither supported nor opposed what she said, only if there was no such person.

He treated her like a fool. Ge Yue was a little silly, but he wasn't stupid enough to get home, so it was even more uncomfortable.

Ge Yue often secretly observed her husband and paid attention to his expression when he called and brushed WeChat, but perhaps he was too shallow to see anything.

At first, she thought she and Sun Qi had not broken off. For this, she went to find Gu Qingyu, but Gu Qingyu assured her that Sun Qi had gone abroad, the two must have been broken, and Sun Qi was already married and had children.

Later, during a family dinner, Ge Yue's chopsticks fell to the ground. She bent down to pick it up and found Gu Xin and Feng Xixi's two legs wrapped around under the table, and at this moment, her whole body was blind.

Ge Yue didn't expect that her husband Gu Xin, this needle pierced three inches, may not have seen the blood of the gourd-like man, how to get involved with his cousin's sister-in-law.

If you want to put someone else on hold, you will tear your face and make a big fuss at the dinner table. But Ge Yue didn't. One is that she is not used to such shrew behavior, and the other is that she really does not know how to react.

I've had a similar experience before, when my boyfriend came to school to play with me during the May Day holidays in college, and I pulled my girlfriend to accompany him. One noon, I came back from the cafeteria to eat, pushed open the door of the dormitory, and found my girlfriend and boyfriend kissing each other like glue. I was stunned, instinctively withdrew, and brought them the door...

Ge Yue was exactly like this, she didn't know what to do. Later, she installed a tracking software on Gu Xin's mobile phone, and the SMS WeChat mailbox could be seen. After determining the adultery between the two, she still didn't know what to do, so she went to feng Xiaoqin.

Feng Xiaoqin told her: Grasp the big and let go of the small. The big things are grasped, and the small things let him go.

Ge Yue asked bluntly, there are women outside her husband, is this a big deal or a small thing.

Some people will laugh at Ge Yue when they see this, and they can't figure out whether her husband's cheating is a big thing or a small thing. But Ge Yue was really not sure if this was a big deal or a small thing. This girl is so simple that it can be described as stupid.

Feng Xiaoqin pondered for a moment and said that what you can see is all small things, and you really can't see them, that is, big things.

Ge Yue was silent, which forced women to become fools.

It could be seen from these words that Ge Yue was ready to forgive Gu Xin.

At this time, Ge Yue had installed tracking software on Gu Xin's mobile phone and got all the information he wanted.

Her cultivation, her personality, all left her with nowhere to vent, as if a punch on cotton could not be hit to the end, nor could she bounce back. Every night I dreamed that Gu Xin divorced herself, with a roll of luggage and a head that did not return.

When I woke up, I thought, if I really want to do this, if I want to go, I will go, and if I don't go, I will live well. It doesn't matter if you don't die or live like this.

Can you see that Ge Yue's personality has very serious flaws, and she herself cannot make decisions.

After she went back, she studied Yue opera, bought sexy underwear, painted beautiful makeup, and was gentle and petty in bed to save her husband.

Why should she wait for Gu Xin to give her a hard time? Why couldn't she give herself a hard time?

Yes, she can't.

This is Ge Yue. From an early age, under the influence of her parental model, she developed an indecisive personality, a dependent personality. If Gu Xin did not propose to break up, she would never break up with him.

At the end of the story, Gu Xin went to prison. Ge Yue came to visit the prison, and Gu Xin said that he had signed the divorce agreement. However, Ge Yue said that he would not leave, and after three years, he would leave again when he was released from prison. In these three years, she will take care of the children and help him take good care of his parents.

However, if you think about it, if you don't leave now, will she leave in three years?

Of course not.

In fact, in the end, this is the weakness of Ge Yue's personality. She really has no principles, no way, and she gave her husband to the women outside.

If you think about it, a woman like Ge Yue doesn't deserve sympathy either. In marriage, a woman should have some way, but she did not. How is it possible for a woman who is so simple that she does not have any way to catch her husband, simply with full of love, expecting her husband to return with full of love?

If you change a beautiful and lively girl to do this, it is estimated that the man is still a little moved. Ge Yue has no looks, no ability, no way, and it is no wonder that he can't get the sincerity of a man.

Do you think I'm right?