The Buddhist scriptures say: "Flowers bloom in two lives, and life is between Buddhas and demons." ”
Everything has two sides, and emotionally many men see women take the initiative and feel that their charm is bursting and they have lost their basic judgment ability.
As everyone knows, what can make women take the initiative emotionally is not necessarily because of love, it may be another purpose.
Han Yu met a girl in the gym, the girl is very beautiful, and took the initiative to ask herself to eat. Han Yu happened to be in the empty window period of feelings, and the two people naturally began to communicate.
However, less than ten days after the two people had been dating, a man approached Han Yu and said that the girl was his girlfriend.
The three-way confrontation turned out that the girl wanted to break up with the man, the man refused, procrastinated, and the girl unilaterally dissolved the relationship.
Finally, in order to avoid his girlfriend being harassed, Han Yu picks up girls every day. And found his own friend to help put pressure on this ex-boyfriend, and the ex-boyfriend finally stopped pestering.
After the incident of the ex-boyfriend was successfully resolved, Han Yu obviously felt that the girl was not as enthusiastic and proactive as before.
Later, the two people naturally broke up, although the two people did not spread out, but Han Yu always felt that the girl was nothing more than using him to get rid of the entanglement of her ex-boyfriend, and at first she did not have any good feelings for herself.
There is a kind of woman who is particularly good at using "love", and they are mostly careful of their own thoughts. There is indeed love at first sight in the relationship, but when encountering that kind of unreasonable initiative, men must keep one more heart eye and more discernment.
Recently summed up these two, men need to stay away from, women's "initiative".
For money, for the anger held in the heart
Feng Xixi in "Heart Residence" is from the countryside, has no academic qualifications, relies on her sister, and lives in her sister's in-laws' house.
At her sister's in-laws' house, Feng Xixi saw that their family habitually relied on her sister's service, and her mental state was already unbalanced at this time.
Coupled with Gu Xin's mother Su Wangdi, once she won the daughter of the bureau chief as her daughter-in-law, the show-off mentality of the villain Dezhi prevailed, and she wanted Feng Xixi to go to Gu Xin's house to be a nanny.
At that time, she also said such a sentence: "How much is the live-in nanny outside, how the market is, we must only have a lot more." In such a place, others may not be able to live if they want to live. ”
Although Feng Xixi lives in the Gu family, she is actually looking forward to getting ahead in her heart, and she is extremely unwilling. And letting her be a nanny, in a charity tone, is undoubtedly a humiliation to her.
Later, Feng Xixi went to work in the bank, and on the pretext of work, she frequently took the initiative to show kindness and set a trap for Gu Xin.
Feng Xixi did this first so that she could gain a foothold in the city and quickly accumulate wealth; second, she also had the mentality of retaliating against Su Wangdi.
Feng Xixi's initiative approached, and she called out to Ah Ge sweetly in one mouth, and took the initiative to offer herself in a soft voice. Feng Xiqian looks beautiful and active, and Gu Xin is also a scumbag, is there no reason not to set it?
In the end, Gu Xin lost his future because of Feng Xixi's initiative, went to prison, and his marriage was wavering. However, according to conscience, Feng Xixi's initiative was the inducement, and Gu Xin said that in the end, it was still ruined in his own hands.
For the back road, for their own perfect person
There are a lot of illogical plots in "Chasing The Love Family", but if you look at him as a comedy, you can still chase him down.
One of the most unacceptable is the old Three QiTian, played by Xiong Ziqi. In order to catch up with Dong Yiyi, the goddess who has been in love for ten years, he did not hesitate to use all means to throw his father out of the old house, so as to sell the house to Dong Yiyi to buy more than 10 million houses.
Qi Tian greeted the goddess every day, constantly self-pua, and constantly made excuses for his goddess. Not only is the home but even the unit is full of photos of the goddess, and whoever dares to say dong Yiyi without a word will have to go up and fight with people.
And Dong Yiyi, in this relationship, has always put himself in a passive acceptance position. At the low point of her feelings, on impulse, she agreed to Qi Tian's request to be her boyfriend.
Dong Yiyi's "initiative" is just to use Qi Tian to stimulate her original boyfriend Cheng Feng. He quarreled with his boyfriend and called Qi Tian out to talk about it; the boyfriend cheated on him and called Qi Tian out to tell his grievances.
Dong Yiyi's "initiative" seems to be passive, in fact, she is doing the leading, in the name of friends, doing ambiguous things, enjoying the treatment of girlfriends, and finally not falling behind the whole body of complaints.
And Dong Yiyi's high position is that she will never explicitly state the rejection, let alone the reason for the rejection. Dong Yiyi's refusal is ambiguous, the reasons seem to be for qi tian's good, always give the other party a kind of you work harder, better, we will have the illusion of hope.
There is a feeling that girls just like the stars and the moon, leaving a spare tire, and all she does is to reserve a beautiful person for herself, in order to leave a way back for herself.
However, she set up a way back for her own people, but she did not think about leaving a way for Qi Tian, who loved herself so much, to live.
In this drama, Qi Tian's spare tire in the past ten years makes people look angry and hateful. In feelings, if a man loses his dignity, he will not get love.
Men and women are the same, in the face of sudden initiatives and opportunities, do not be blinded. If you want to get equal love, you must remember:
You can't love someone until you lose your bottom line and principles, otherwise your love becomes taken for granted. Be a person, don't be too embarrassed about yourself.
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