Wen | MuLei
Life is not perfect, and suffering and regret are the norm of life. In the face of uneven encounters, we must bravely overcome the demons in our hearts and meet the challenges. We will encounter many choices in our lives, some of which are easy and some of which are difficult.
Everything goes well if you choose the right one, and if you choose the wrong one, you don't know what the consequences will be. The adult world has been making choices, but the premise of choice is to have a bottom line, honesty, steadfastness, and love.
Gu Xin's family has no money, and he was admitted to a public institution with his own ability, and he is very good in the eyes of everyone. He easily obtained wishes that no one else could fulfill by squeezing their heads.
Maybe it was too easy to have it that made him feel that all he wanted should be easily obtained. So he chose to give up his ex-girlfriend who had been in love for eight years, and Ge Yue, a girl he didn't love but could take his career to the next level.
Because Ge Yue liked him very much, or the only daughter in the family, even if her parents did not like Gu Xin anymore, they respected Ge Yue's choice.
The indifference of the relationship between Ge Yue and Gu Xin also stems from Ge Yue's father's accident, who cannot help Gu Xin in his career, and his hope of rising up has become dim. Gu Xin began to dislike Ge Yue, and even began to dislike his parents.
The unhappiness of his career made him feel that everyone owed him, depressed and unmotivated all day.
And he said to his mother, "Angry at yourself, of course, angry with yourself." Anything can be picked under the heavens, but parents can't pick. So is Ge Yue, and so am I.
He can't have a better life because his parents don't have the ability, and his inability to rise in the unit is not his own reason, it's because Ge Yue's father's accident has tired him. He blamed others for all the unhappiness of his life, not his own.
In fact, his world is only himself, and those who can bring him benefits are closer, and those who have no benefits are thrown away or alienated.
Ge Yue could not bring him help, and he wanted to reunite with his ex, but unfortunately only Ge Yue could give him warmth as always.
Later, he cheated on Feng Xixi not because he loved Feng Xixi, on the one hand, Feng Xixi could bring help to his career, on the other hand, he was stronger than Feng Xixi and could find the dignity he thought.
From beginning to end, it was his ideological concepts that dominated his life, and as soon as there was a wind and grass, his life was immediately terrible.
Ge Yue's father was on his toes in the unit when there was no accident, and after the accident, he felt that his position was like a needle felt, and he wanted to work in a different environment. Changing the working environment and feeling that his status has been reduced, he has violated the legal bottom line in order to get more achievements.
Feng Xixi said: "A man like Gu Xin, with a needle pierced three inches, may not be able to see blood. Living with him, in the future, you will either become Su Wangdi or suffer from depression. ”
Feng Xixi didn't really love him either, this man only loved himself, and his inner desires and desired achievements filled his entire life.
People who only love themselves do not know what love is, and they do not know how to love others, and such people do not know what true happiness is.
1 For parents
We are born without choice, what kind of parents, what kind of family environment, we have to adapt and try to change ourselves. Keep yourself unaffected by the environment and try to understand what your parents' generation did.
Don't always look outward and take for granted what others should be, not how you should be.
Gu Xin always thought that others should be what to do, ge yue could help him when he felt taken for granted, Ge Yue's family accidents affected him, he began to dislike. Everything is the fault of others, and it is others who affect their own lives and futures.
Such a mentality is wrong, there is no law of everything, and there is no long-term and peaceful life. In this life, we always have to encounter some obstacles, and these obstacles can only be overcome if we want to.
You can't expect others to change anything for themselves, the only thing you can do is to look for reasons from within and constantly change yourself. Only by constantly reflecting on oneself, correcting oneself, and coming out of the wrong path can people get better and better.
2 For marriage
The Mid-Levels Anthology says: "The millstone of life is very heavy, you think it is crushing you, but in fact it is to teach you delicacy, help you present the details of life, and avoid you from spending this life too roughly." ”
Marriage may be the grinding wheel of life, before marriage our lives are often not sentimental after marriage. Because married life is a matter of two people, it is inevitable that there will be some things that need to be run-in in life. Withdrawing, dissatisfied, giving up, after all, is not feeling the joy of life, the happiness of marriage.
Married life is nothing more than the blandness of chai rice oil and salt plus a little warmth of knowing cold and knowing heat. The meaning of marriage will also change as you get older, from simply you love me and I love you, to taking on family responsibilities together, and finally to the family warming each other and walking the road of the future together.
Gu Xin chose Ge Yue in order to have a better life, he has always chosen what is good for him, but he has never really loved someone. Only when a person has love in his heart can he make the right choice and bravely accept the hardships brought by life to make himself better.
Like and love are indeed different, and everyone envies the life of a fairy couple. But the vast majority of us are ordinary people, and ordinary people's days are simply warm. In addition to warming each other up to nurturing the next generation, responsibilities often weigh more than anything else.
Marriage needs to be cultivated, and there will never be two people in this world who are completely compatible, only constantly running into each other and constantly accommodating each other.
The psychologist Alfred Adler once said, "Our troubles and sufferings are not because of the things themselves, but because of the ideas we impose on these things."
People's demons are too heavy, fame, wealth, desire, the most likely to make people lose themselves, their own pain at the same time caused harm to others.
If you feel that your career is not going well, you should first ask yourself if you are not working hard enough, whether the method is not right. If you feel that life and marriage are not going well, you should also ask yourself whether you really treat it with your heart.
Mark Ole said, "May I have the peace of mind to accept what cannot be changed, the courage to change what can be changed, and the wisdom to distinguish between the two."