There's a saying that goes something like this:
"The most decent way for adults to say goodbye is that I didn't reply to your last message, and you tacitly didn't send it again."
Perhaps, when starting a relationship, everyone hopes that the sky will last forever.
However, feelings are the most helpless.
Not all encounters can come together at just the right time.
However, you have to understand that whether a relationship can go to the end or not, it is a fate worth remembering.
Even if you are destined to separate in the end, you must know how to be grateful for the feelings that have been with you, do not accuse, do not pester, and let the separation be decent.
Thus leaving one last trace of tenderness for each other.
Entanglement is endless, suffering others and suffering themselves
In life, there are always some people who will be particularly vulnerable, living a special life, taking it, but not letting go.
When a relationship ends, they will self-hypnotize or even deceive themselves, always feeling that as long as they insist on not letting go, then they can always move each other and make the other party change their minds.
However, for people who do not love, people are always more desperate than imagined, even if you give him the best things, he will not look at it.
The result of entanglement will only annoy others and trample yourself.
In the TV series "Chasing the Love Family", Qi Tian can be said to be both pitiful and pathetic in his relationship with Dong Yiyi.
Qi Tian liked Dong Yiyi for ten years, chased Dong Yiyi for ten years, and even for ten years, he was willing to be a spare tire.
Later, when Dong Yiyi and her boyfriend Cheng Feng broke up, Qi Tian finally found the opportunity, so he was doubly enthusiastic about Dong Yiyi.
However, Dong Yiyi has always been lukewarm and lukewarm, even not answering the phone and not replying to the message.
In such a situation, in the eyes of outsiders, Dong Yiyi's attitude is obvious, that is, to make Qi Tian retreat from difficulty.
However, this not only did not make Qi Tian's enthusiasm diminish, but it made him even more crazy.
In order to meet Dong Yiyi, he will skip work, and after Dong Yiyi's breakup, he will escape the very important project meeting to meet Dong Yiyi.
In the end, Qi Tian saw Dong Yiyi and Cheng Feng reunited, and he was disgraced in front of Cheng Feng.
There's a saying that goes
"It's rude to knock on a door that can't be opened and knock all the time. People who don't respond, keep bothering will also be annoying. ”
When a relationship ends, don't look back again and again without a show, and don't pestering like a madman.
You have to understand that giving to those who do not cherish you, even if you do not care about returns, their lack of cherishing, will hurt you.
Quietly exit the scene to be decent
What is the best relationship?
I really like this answer:
"All my efforts are willing, I never mention this, I am grateful when I meet, and I am relieved when I pass by."
Every encounter in life is caused by fate, and so is separation.
When a relationship comes to an end, all you have to do is turn around calmly and smile and go to the next intersection.
Friend Xiaoling, with her ex for seven years.
For seven years, Xiaoling spent her best time with him.
After the two people broke up, I thought That Xiaoling would not be able to accept it. Even in my opinion, XiaoLing will pestering him endlessly.
However, after the breakup, Xiaoling did not accuse or resent.
After he proposed to break up, Xiaoling turned and left, without even turning her head back, let alone the slightest tear.
I asked her, "Is it really relieved?" ”
"It's just his choice, no matter how much I want it, I can't force it," she said. ”
A popular saying on Zhihu:
"If you leave, don't dwell on it anymore, tangled in what can't be changed, it will only make you more humble and more painful." It is better to return yourself to yourself, to return others to others, to make flowers into flowers, and to make trees into trees. ”
Feelings are not something we actively choose, nor will they develop in the way we expect.
No matter how much you give up on a relationship, I want you to always believe that choosing to let go decently when you leave is the best outcome of a relationship than being humble and flattering.
Don't bother each other, each is fine
Haruki Murakami said:
"Not all fish live in the same sea. How can everything be as good as it should be? Not all two people who love each other can end up together. ”
Some love, after all, can only stop at lips and teeth, and then hide in the years.
When a relationship, towards the end, towards the separated person, what you have to do is not to blame, but to smile and bless, to give your past choices an affirmation.
Treat the feelings of the past, what you have to do is not sadness, not to be entangled, but to adjust your mood, start again, to meet new people, to start a new life,
You have to understand that you are very good, he does not cherish, but he just does not have vision.
You will eventually meet the person who holds you in the palm of your hand, treats you as a treasure, and then works together to accompany you for a happy life.
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Author: Away from the rain slightly cool, a rational, emotional, like to use words to express personal views, bring you spiritual healing, emotional solution, life perception of the post-90s writer.