The night before Mrs. Gu's death was the night when her daughter Gu Shilian dragged the sick body to keep vigil, that night should have been kept vigil by her eldest brother Gu Shihai, but Gu Shihai pretended to be ill as soon as she arrived at the critical moment, and Gu Shilian was reluctant to come to the vigil, but she could not always let Su Wangdi work alone.
The old woman is sick, and it is impossible to say that the night of not accompanying the children is unreasonable, Gu Shilian's indifference, not because she is not filial piety, but has long been chilled by the mother, the mother's behavior over the years, in Gu Shilian's heart has accumulated a lot of resentment, the showdown between mother and daughter, the old lady is cold.
Mrs. Gu said that Su Wangdi was a hard worker, she was justifying her eldest son, after the old lady fell ill, she had been Gu Shihong and Su Wangdi taking turns to take care of her, Su Wangdi still had grandchildren to take care of, and wanted Gu Shihai to replace him, he immediately pretended to be sick, lying on the bed humming and chirping, which was his consistent style.
Su Wangdi has been worried about the Gu family for a lifetime, in the end only Gu Shilian, who is also a woman, has hurt her, and the men of the Gu family, one by one, are cold and cold, the old lady has always been very partial to her son, and the daughter-in-law is an outsider, even if she is tired, she will not be sad for half a minute.
Gu Shilian was not accustomed to seeing her mother helping Gu Shihai, and said: "What is called labor life, who is born with a hard life?" You help your son not to help too obviously", the old lady said with a straight face: "Husband and wife are well-matched, you are no longer used to it, people have been passing for decades, where there is absolutely fair things under the sky, things between husband and wife, can not be explained, my old wife does not care anyway!" ”。
In fact, the old lady does not care about the affairs between husband and wife, nor can she tolerate unfairness, her so-called disregard is principled, and whatever is beneficial to her son, she pretends to be deaf and dumb, and watches her son take advantage. Whoever harmed the interests of her son, she stood up and administered justice.
Over the years, she has used this trick to deal with several daughters-in-law of the Gu family, such as Su Wangdi, Feng Xiaoqin, she treats others as thieves and robbers, and always does not treat people with foreign surnames as a family, Su Wangdi has worked hard for the Gu family for a lifetime, Old Lady Gu looks down on her small family temperament, Feng Xiaoqin gets up early and takes care of a large family, Old Lady Gu has always wanted to drive her away, and the old lady also uses this trick to deal with her daughter, in her heart, only the man of the Gu family is the most important.
When Gu Shihai's family was sent down to be Zhiqing, Gu Xiao was still young, so he stayed at his aunt's house to let Gu Shilian take it, compared to the silly Gu Lei and the unkind Gu Qingyu, Gu Shilian loved Gu Xin more, a smart and clever and pitiful little nephew, she took Gu Xi with her every day and gave him all the delicious and fun things.
Gu Shilian has no children, in her heart, she treats Gu Xiao as her own son, even with Gao Chang's newlywed Yan'er, she has driven her husband out, and she sleeps with Gu Xiao in her arms like a baby, she does not expect Gu Xiao to be able to return anything to her, but in her heart she still hopes that this effort can be exchanged for Gu Xiao's gratitude.
At that time, Gu Shilian's family was the best of the three brothers and sisters, after Gu Shihai's two sons returned from the countryside, there was no house to live in, Gu Shilian gave her a two-bedroom house to her brother to live, Doumi Yangen, Shengmi to raise a vendetta, neighbors advised her not to do this, and the dearest mother, without saying a word, chose to acquiesce.
And now, the mother in turn accused the daughter who paid the most for the Gu family of selfishness, saying that Gu Shilian was too real, almost called principled, too much called thirteen o'clock (Shanghai dialect, referring to unclear things, stupid and stupid), Gu Shilian is thirteen o'clock, don't be too selfish, Mrs. Gu does not admit that she is biased towards her son, and even more does not admit that she has any faults.
The house that Gu Shilian gave gu Shihai back then was a good location, although it was not large, but it was put to the present, at least it was a few million, when Gu Shihai's family conditions were not good, Gu Shilian gave them a good life, it was his own kindness, and Gu Shihai naturally accepted it, and there was no discomfort.
Gu Shihai's family conditions are getting better and better, Gu Xiao was admitted to a prestigious university, married a rich family, they did not want to return Gu Shilian, this can be understood, at that time Gu Shilian's life can go on, and no one needs help, but then Gu Shilian suffered from cancer, the house was sold to his daughter to go abroad, the new house was chased to collect debts, asked Gu Shihai to borrow money, Gu Shihai refused because there was no spare money at home.
Gu Shihai's family is rich and has it in the bank, but he feels that the interest of taking out the money is gone, it is not cost-effective, and then Gu Shilian went to treat the disease, there was no money in her hand, she even wanted to drag herself to death, everyone in the family took out their own money to treat her, even Feng Xiaoqin, who has always been regarded as an outsider, took out fifty thousand, and did not expect her aunt to pay it back.
And his own brother Gu Shihai's family did not have any expression, Gu Xiao mentioned some fruit to see his aunt, or was forced by Gu Qingyu to be anxious, only to take out twenty thousand, but also felt that the meat hurt very much, Gu Xiao came to accompany a night of bed, reluctant, unwilling to talk to his aunt, Gu Shihai also came to find his sister to quarrel.
These things the old lady sees in her eyes, in the face of the injustice suffered by her daughter, she does not say a word, and in the face of her daughter's resentment, she accuses her daughter of being too selfish, too real, the purpose of the old lady is to "rob the daughter ji'er", the son can't go on, the daughter cuts her own flesh to feed her brother, she can see it, but the daughter just has cancer, when she can't go on, the son doesn't help, she is not willing to stand up and say a word.
The old lady is the best at making paste in her life, first clearing herself at the critical moment, everything is based on her own good, so when the children are red in the face at the dinner table, she pretends not to hear, and when Gu Shilian said, "Mom has money, I ask mom to want", the old lady immediately denied "I don't have money", the old lady told Gu Shilian:
Being a parent, it is that kind of year, thinking that the children can live on. One eats meat, one even if he nibbles on the bone, as long as he has a mouthful of food to eat, he can see it. If someone is hungry, it's different. At this time one child jumps out to do good, and half of the meat in the bowl is given to the other. Mom and Dad know it's unfair, but they can't help it, and they always want everyone to survive. There is food for everyone to eat.
You have a grudge against me, and I know it. But you have spoken out, I stopped in front, Ah Hai will definitely complain to me, his person, usually silent, really launched a temper is scary. Your house was given to him, it was your sister's affection, and you were in a good condition at that time, even if you fell ill later, the bottom was placed there, and you would not be unable to go on.
Your wife is also a human being, and her energy is limited, I am afraid that you will not be able to get by, I am afraid that you will quarrel with each other, and I am afraid that you will quarrel with me. The older I get, the lazier I get, and if I'm forty, that's a different story. Your father is long gone, my labor insurance salary is not much, my heart is bottomless, I will rely on you in the future, you are too peaceful, I will be too peaceful. You know what?
The old lady was excusing herself until her death, and she was also excusing her eldest son, she let her bitter daughter pay for the eccentricity of her life, until she left, she did not put herself in her place for her daughter, the three children, the most miserable is Gu Shilian, the most should be concerned, is also Gu Shilian.
Gu Shihai has a son who graduated from a prestigious university and was admitted to the civil service, and he also has a grandson, who is in good health and has no problems in life, although Gu Shihong lost his son in old age, but he also has a capable daughter, and a grandson, only Gu Shilian, the body collapsed, there are no children to accompany him, Duo Duo is abroad, or adopted, and the most difficult thing in the future is Gu Shilian.
But the old lady's biggest concern before her death was her eldest son Gu Shihai, who had hardly fulfilled filial piety in front of her, and her last words were for Gu Shilian to tell her two brothers:
Tell Ah Hai that being a person is happy, he is not happy, and the people next to him are uncomfortable to watch. Ah Hong don't want to learn from his father, a serious and comprehensive book, hard work, and no meaning. The three children have their own good, the fingers stick out and the length is short, the old woman is old, the brain is confused, there are places that cannot be done, you are more responsible.
The old lady's first two sentences of instructions to her son are sincere, and the last sentence of "more responsibility" is mostly said to this daughter, the old lady is biased towards her son until she dies.
On the surface, the Gu family is all bright and beautiful, and the children and grandchildren are talented, but a careful look at the family structure of the Gu family finds that this family is actually very "deformed", men are generally cowardly and weak, and women are generally strong and worried.
The Gu family has a habit, every Saturday to get together for a meal, a large family of more than a dozen people, to accompany the old lady to eat a meal, it is reasonable to say that Gu Shihai is the boss, the old lady should follow the eldest son, but she has always followed the younger son Gu Shihong, the fundamental reason is nothing more than Gu Shihong honest, used to suffer losses, good bullying.
Gu Shilian is a daughter, not to provide forgivable feelings, but every time you come is a variety of gifts to eat and take, never empty-handed door, and Gu Shihai's family is different, no matter the old man does not say, even every time he comes to eat is white food and drink, after eating pat ass to leave, do not forget to say some cool words.
Gu Shihai is not only for his brothers and sisters, but also for his wife and children, Su Wangdi has been married to Gu Shihai for decades, all the big things and small things in the family are her worries alone, Gu Shihai has always been a great uncle, that is, the pot under his feet has stumbled to his feet, he will not reach out to help.
Su Wangdi married Gu Shihai in this life, even if there is no hope, her only hope is to cultivate her son into a talent, men can not rely on, then wait until the future to enjoy the blessings of their sons, do not know that the Gu family men's coolness, is genetic, Gu Xi is more disappointing than Gu Shihai.
Although he was admitted to a good university, became a civil servant, and married the daughter of a high-ranking official, Su Wangdi did not touch the light of his son in the slightest, and he always paid for his son upside down, sold the old house to Gu Xi to buy a marriage house, and helped take the child day and night after giving birth to the child, and there was no time to stop.
Gu Xiao faced his son and wife, a cold face, since Ge Yue's father had an accident, Gu Xiao was even more unscrupulous, pestering his ex-girlfriend, cheating on Feng Xiqian, Ge Yue would be pushed away by Gu Yue every time he posted it, and he would be angry with Ge Yue at every turn, even Su Wangdi was not accustomed to What Gu Yue did, and often said to Ge Yue: The tradition of gu family men, dead and alive, in turn, wants women to coax.
Gu Shihai and Su Wangdi's life is a double heaven of ice and fire, and the atmosphere at home is either cold to ice or noisy to hot. Neutralizing and complementing those, is irrelevant. The pair of Gu Xiao and Ge Yue is also awkward, and Gu Shihai also sees that Gu Xiao does not love Ge Yue, but he also chooses to ignore it, he has always only cared about himself, brothers and sisters, wives and children, all of which can be ignored.
Gu family man, Gu Shihai Gu Xuan such a cold and thin other side, is cowardly, Gu Shihong looks good, in fact, the bones reveal cowardice, no matter how others pinch him, he will not resist, the brother has always let the old mother let him manage, he has been managing, Feng Xiaoqin wants to let the family live in, he will not refuse.
Gu Shihong's kindness is very rare, but such a kind of kindness without a bottom line is too easy to suffer losses in life, if there is no strong Gu Qingyu in the family, who has been providing financial help and helping him suppress those who think of oil, Gu Shihong will definitely suffer more losses, and even lose the old money.
Gu Shihong is still a teacher, but the same cowardly and kind Gu Lei, no ability and no education, such a person, if there is no sister like Gu Qingyu to help, will die earlier, Gu Qingyu once commented on Gu Lei, saying that he is like a small white rabbit, put in a place, will not bite others, and in fact, Gu Lei, this little white rabbit not only can not bite people, put outside, but also be eaten by people with blood and flesh.
The two most powerful and excellent women in the Gu family, one is Gu Shilian, the other is Gu Qingyu, Gu Shilian was a strong woman when she was young, whether it is at work or in the family, she is a good hand, but such a strong woman, often good intentions to do bad things, use her own half of the family, change her relatives into enemies, and finally end up in a situation where she is not a person inside and outside.
Gu Qingyu is also as good as her aunt, but her desire to control is even stronger than her aunt, because her excessive desire to control has led to her brother Gu Lei being indirectly killed by her own excessive worries, Gu Qingyu, like her aunt, even if she has become independent, she is always worried about her mother's family.
The personalities of men and women in the Gu family are all pathological personalities cultivated by patriarchal families, and men are generally spoiled and raised with eccentricity, resulting in them either forming a selfish and selfish personality, ignoring no one, thinking only of themselves, or forming a cowardly and timid personality, facing the society without the ability to fight back, what can only be carried by themselves, but also can not carry.
And women in such an environment, always think of proving that they are stronger than men, so they strive to be strong, but they can never get past the shadow brought by the original family, even if they have become strong, they always want to prove their strength, and the way they prove it is to constantly meddle in the affairs of the family, and the result is either laborious or tragic.
Gu family generations, although on the surface seem to be more and more prominent, but in fact, in fact, they are constantly going to decline, Gu Qingyu and Gu Xiao's generation, are all famous college students, but the psychology is deformed, Gu Xiao is too selfish, for their own selfish desires, do not hesitate to hurt those who love themselves, do not hesitate to commit crimes to please their lovers, and finally harm themselves in prison, ruining their future.
And Gu Qingyu because of the strong personality, always like to control each other's life, and the first love of shi Yuan married, Gu Qingyu although love him, but because of personality problems, can not love a person in a normal way, she has too strong control, always like to meddle in her husband's affairs, will install monitoring in the bedroom to monitor the husband, will book a seat in the place where the husband works to stare at him.
As everyone knows, even between husband and wife, there also needs to be a certain sense of boundaries, need to have their own secrets, Gu Qingyu's excessive desire to control, resulting in her always seeing Shi Yuan's awkward side, the result of the first love dream shattered, the marriage of the two people to the tragedy, Gu Qingyu because of personality problems, missed their own happiness.
And the source of all this is caused by the old lady who favors sons over daughters, as the saying goes, marrying a good woman to benefit three generations, marrying a bad woman to destroy three generations, the sadness of the Gu family is due to the selfish and eccentric woman of The old lady Gu, she destroyed more than three generations, future generations, have paid for her deformed way of education, such a woman, for a family, is a disaster.
Regarding good women, Zhou Bingkun of "The World of Man" said: There is a type of woman who seems to be an angel sent by God to the people, as long as they have an intimate relationship with any family, the family will be full of splendor, and the mood of adults and children will also be better. They are not necessarily pistachios, but at least they are a pillar of refreshing incense that is not easy to extinguish.
Old Lady Gu is the antonym of this kind of woman, people say that there is an old man in the family, and the gu family is not peaceful, most of the time because of the existence of this old lady, Gu Lei just died, she will "go to the mother to keep the child", Feng Xiaoqin in order to run day and night in the future, she split her head and cover her face on the strange family not to cook for her, like this old man, always thinking only about himself, is the sadness of the children.
Finally, may all parents treat their children fairly, do not favor sons over daughters, you know, things do not suffer from widowhood, suffering from inequality, unfairness, is the source of all resentment, remember the sentence in "Know Or Not": people with many children, parents most want a bowl of water to be peaceful in order to be quiet, although the sisters should be humble to each other, but it is also today's let, tomorrow's that let, there is no reason to call only a head to let, the days are long, fathers and daughters and sisters inevitably have some gaps.