There have always been people on the Internet who complain that the bride price is unreasonable, and the impression is that in previous years it was complaining and accusing the high bride price, and in recent years, the normal level of the bride price has been blamed. Dowry, dowry is a custom, the national law on the dowry, dowry is not explicitly required to be given, the two families to discuss, voluntary as the principle.
The bride price and dowry are in this day and age, which is the support of both families to a new family. Society is divided into classes, everyone is in a different class, and the living conditions and environments of people of different classes are very different. In the face of the same event, different classes of people make different choices, but one thing is the same, seeking advantages and avoiding harms. Egoism is instinctive, not right or wrong.
In the face of the dowry and dowry, some people insist that there must be; some people don't care, there are some, there are none; some people insist on not. These are all choices, and if anyone wants to say that others' choices are wrong, first see if they are in the same situation as others.
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In any era, there are families who ask for high dowries and do not accompany the dowry, but this is after all a minority. The reputation of selling daughters is not good, and most people still want to face.
Men who complain about high dowries, is it difficult to meet women who only ask for high dowries and do not accompany the dowry?
If the man is unfortunate enough to meet such a family, you can say that their family sells their daughters. This kind of family is not suitable for marrying a family, and it is okay not to bear it and not to marry directly.
Generally speaking, the dowry and the dowry are comparable, low dowry low dowry, high dowry high dowry, and even the dowry is much higher than the dowry, how can this situation be complained about? Co-author only wants the woman's dowry, does not want to give the bride price?
Some netizens asked: If I don't want a dowry, is it wrong not to want to give a bride price?
Dare to know that there is such a thing as a dowry. This is knowing that if you give the bride price, you will return the dowry, and you will not suffer losses yourself. It is still so difficult not to suffer a loss to give a bride price, and it is really difficult to jump up if you really suffer a loss.
Some netizens said: Some men complain as soon as they mention the bride price, you and he are anxious to mention the dowry, and he is more anxious without mentioning the dowry.
What does this mean, the woman is happy to post upside down, turn around and say to others that she did not spend a penny to marry her wife, and her wife also brought a bunch of dowry over?
Some netizens said: Some men want to take advantage of anything cheap in the matter of marriage, and they don't want to suffer any grievances.
There is a post on the Internet: a man wants to climb bai fumei, he thinks that bai fumei will not ask him for anything, will post upside down, and as a result, he was kicked out by bai fumei. Then netizens commented: Where does men come from with confidence, do they think women are fools?
Some people say that when a man gets married, he will consider the comprehensive conditions of the woman, as far as possible to find the right door or marry up, the probability of marrying is very low, unless the woman's own conditions are so good that the man can ignore her other conditions. In fact, on the issue of mate selection, most women and men consider the same and choose those who are evenly matched. "Silly" women have, but not much.
If the man really can't give a bride price, if he wants to marry his daughter-in-law, he must always show sincerity, such as letting the child follow the mother's surname, which is not a burden, just giving up the child's right to the title of surname.
Men don't have to think that their children suffer losses with their mother's surname. To be factual and reasonable, most women are not beneficiaries in married life. What does marriage bring to women? Heavy housework, raising offspring, and career obstruction, just childbearing can cause great damage to women's health.
Many men will share some of it for women, but most of it is still borne by women. Don't think that women are calculating, saying that women are mostly calculating vested interests and their accomplices.
Most children do follow their father's surname, but it is not natural to follow their father's surname, and the origin of the surname can be traced back to the matrilineal clan system of primitive human society, and many of the earliest surnames in China are female characters next to or at the bottom.
After the founding of New China, the law stipulated that men and women with the right to crown the surname were equal, and children could follow their father's surname and their mother's surname. The fact that a child takes his mother's surname does not infringe on a man's rights. No one should use tradition to say things, is it natural to traditionally follow the father's surname? Is it also natural for tradition to also honor men over women, three from four virtues, and favor sons over daughters?
The origin of the marriage system is a property rights system. In ancient times, there were no restrictions on the interaction between men and women, and the situation in this case was "knowing their mother but not their father". The marriage system originated in patrilineal society and has a strong patriarchal ideology, such as objectifying women and propertyizing women.
Some people say that marriage for modern people has increasingly become a choice, a choice of lifestyle, rather than a necessity, which is not impossible.
Most people believe that traditional men marry women, and women take it for granted to be daughters-in-law. What is tradition: ideas, cultures, morals, customs, art, institutions, and ways of behaving that have been passed down from generation to generation and handed down from history. Positive traditions promote social development, while conservative and backward traditions hinder social progress and change.
Now is a new era, not an old society, where positive traditions can be left behind, conservative and backward traditions should be discarded.
Economic ability is a necessary condition for marriage, poverty is likely to end up alone, if the man does not have the economic conditions to get married, then you can choose to be a door-to-door son-in-law.
The door-to-door son-in-law is also into the fold, which is not a new product of today's society, and the origin of the door-to-door son-in-law has existed in the pre-Qin period.
In the old society, the idea of male superiority over female inferiority prevailed, and it was despised. Even today, traditional men are mostly unable to accept it. But for men who are not able to marry, it is a good choice to enter the family. Moreover, there is still a difference between today's door-to-door son-in-law and the old society, and they do not have to change their surnames, and they can also support their parents.
Choosing to marry a wife, the man gives the bride price to the woman back to the dowry; chooses to be a door-to-door son-in-law, the man does not have to give the bride price, nor does he have to return the dowry; some women's families are generous and will also give the man's family a sum of money, similar to the woman's bride price to the man, and do not require to be brought back. No matter how the man is counted, he does not lose.
Why don't men want to suffer from things that don't suffer? Most men acquiesce to the fact that the door-to-door son-in-law has no face and is still angry, and wonders how no one admits that the daughter-in-law has suffered losses and is angry, and no one has ever been better than anyone.
No matter who it is, strong economic strength is the bottom line, and it is the right way to work hard to improve yourself and make money well. Don't think about taking advantage of the strength, don't think about not being wronged, don't think about moral kidnapping of others, not everyone eats this set.