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In the meandering of 50 years, "The World of Man" tells the changes of the times and the great changes in the lives of ordinary people, those who are not deliberately rendered, hot love and heart-rending separation, but in the details, reflect the true feelings worth recalling. The male protagonist of this drama, Zhou Bingkun, has left a deep impression, his ups and downs in life, portraying the ordinary but not mediocre life of ordinary people.
Life in the world, it is inevitable to be compared
The Zhou family brothers, Zhou Bingkun and Zhou Bingyi, are completely different types of people. Zhou Bingyi, diligent and serious, intelligent, from a young age is a top student, everything must be in the forefront; and Zhou Bingkun does not love to learn, has a straight temper, and does not have a high social status, but it is good to be down-to-earth and create better conditions for the family with his own hands.
In reality, parents love such a warm child as Bingkun, but in front of people, Zhou Bingyi is more likely to be used as a capital to show off.
Zhou Bingkun once said to his father with tears in his eyes, my biggest wish in this life is to make my father and my mother satisfied with me, they are all raised by a father and a mother, I am not out of breath, how uncomfortable I am, do you know?
The excellence of his brother is always pressed on his head, and Bingkun is covered with a shadow of inferiority in his heart, and reflected in his life. Just like, in a twin or multiple-child family, if one child stands out, parents, teachers and other elders will pay more attention, in contrast, ordinary children are eclipsed. In the environment of growing up without love and attention, children gradually move towards worldly mediocrity.
However, Zhou Bingkun is the vast majority of people in the world.
We live in society, dealing with people all the time, in front of outsiders, comparing articulate with others; in front of teachers, comparing academic achievements with others; comparing earning ability with others in front of peers; comparing work value with others in front of leaders. Whether voluntarily or involuntarily, we are constantly compared to others, anxiety accompanies modern people, and everyone is seeking recognition and achievement. In reality, there are only a few who are at the top, and most of them are conscientious in their posts, living a life that is sometimes satisfied and sometimes anxious.
It is more important to find the meaning of survival in the world
In today's society, the epidemic is raging, the economic situation is declining, people living in Chinese society are constantly exploring their own value, some people are upgrading their academic qualifications through examination and research, some people are seeking victory in the rapids of entrepreneurial insurance, and some people are on the verge of bankruptcy.
In this stable and turbulent era, everything is in flux, the economic, civilizational, and international situations are changing, and people are also changing. People want to live their own wonderful in the times, but they return to the ordinary in the frustration again and again, 3 million people in the examination and research army have not landed, how many entrepreneurs have lost savings, and those who are struggling on the brink of bankruptcy still have no miracles.
Correctly looking at failure is a compulsory lesson in life, as sung in "True Hero", no one can succeed casually, before greeting the light, it must be experienced in the darkness that others cannot share, suffering can only be borne by themselves, and there are very few people who share happiness and suffering.
Bingkun has the typical characteristics of sympathy, tolerance, and unambitiousness of the commoner class, but he has found the meaning of his own existence and development in contributing to the family and protecting his wife, and has experienced satisfaction and happiness in it, and found the motivation to struggle.
Whether it is social value, family value or personal value, value brings usefulness, useful nourishment value, and being needed by people is a feeling of living out of oneself.
Life in the world, should pursue their own success
Success, there is no uniform set of standards. Academic success is called success, money entanglement is called success, and fame is also called success. There are thousands of performances and dimensions of success, and the key lies in achieving achievements that are recognized by themselves. The rich in high-end villas are not necessarily more valuable than the sanitation workers on the side of the road, the officials in high positions are not necessarily more satisfied than the employees in the company, and the well-known stars are not necessarily happier than the actors of the eighteenth line.
The pursuit of self-recognized success is often more self-worth than blindly chasing the fame in the eyes of the world, and it is easier to realize the ideal of life and discover the meaning of surviving in the world. In "The Moon and Sixpence", Gauguin gave up a rich life and turned to the painting he loved, and eventually the painting was recognized by the world and left behind for a hundred generations.
Zhou Bingkun's life, did not try the taste of power, nor immersed in the madness of wealth, his life, with the epitome of most people in the world, reflecting the bitterness and tears of ordinary people, which is also the reason why Zhou Bingkun is the most important character in "The World of Man".
We can all find our own shadow in Bingkun, the work is facing twists and turns, the child's qualifications are mediocre, the lover is not perfect, and so on. On everyone's robe, there are more or less anxious, painful, tangled, helpless, and disappointed lice crawling, and they can't drive away.
I vaguely remember that before Zhou Bingkun went to prison, I said such a passage in court, I want to say sorry to everyone, I let the big guys down! I am an ordinary person, an ordinary person, but I have not done a good job of this ordinary people, fortunately my parents are gone, otherwise they will see me like this, and their hearts will be more depressed. Juan'er, I have always said that I want you to live a good life and let the children live a good life in this life, but I have not done it.
He feels sorry for his relatives, lovers, children, friends, but is he really a failure? Anyone's life will have flaws, should not stare at flawed life, should run to hope, look forward to the future, full of strength to carry out their own life. The life of a person who cares only about imperfection is doomed to be painful and helpless.
Bingkun filial piety to his parents, staying with his lover, and inserting a knife into his friend's ribs, although he did not reach his ideal state, he has tried his best to be worthy of his relatives, lovers, and friends. An ordinary person can do this, struggle at the bottom of society countless times, experience joy and sorrow, but still lose his heart and maintain himself, which is worth it.
Life in the world, should accept and face regrets
Failure and parting are the norm in life, and the only thing that can accompany you through life is yourself. In the face of the death of relatives, the departure of partners, and the failure of careers, many times people will have a sense of powerlessness and cannot change the status quo by their own strength. The best way to deal with it is to accept reality and understand the imperfections and regrets of life.
In "The World of Man", Luo Shibin's family is rich, but his life is scrawled; Zhou Bingyi is in a high position, but he has no children and no daughters; Zhou Bingkun has a pure temperament, but faces the disaster of imprisonment. Everyone's life in the play has flaws.
Real life is not operated according to people's imagination, but subject to various force majeure factors, people are in it, can only play their role within a limited range, inevitably there will be loss and helplessness, these are the norms of life, it is important not to lose the hope of life, do not like the pine nuts in the "Life of the Rejected Pine Nuts", waiting for death to come, because the meaning of life lies in the forward momentum, in the realization of value.
Zhou Bingkun has experienced all kinds of ups and downs in his life, but he still maintains a kind heart, optimistic and strong life, which is a quality that everyone must have in the world. Most people in the world, like Zhou Bingkun, struggle hard in their own lives, grow upwards without shame, transform in thorns and wounds, and roll in the mud. Like a pearl, repeatedly polished by the grit, endure the pain, look forward to the moment when you shine. Zhou Bingkun said to Zhou Nan, do you feel bitter? Chew yourself up.
In different eras, people's sorrows and joys have great similarities, and in today's society, everyone is saddled with the pressure of moving forward, sharpening themselves in life, and slowly moving from childishness to maturity.
The famous writer Cao Youfang once said that the so-called growth is to accept any situation that occurs in life. Even the unfortunate, the bad, have to face it, solve it, and minimize the damage. The so-called growth, the so-called intelligence, the so-called maturity, are nothing more than that.
When people are at the end of the road, they will stabilize their mentality, firmly believe in themselves, keep the principles and bottom line, survive the difficulties, and will eventually be willing to suffer.
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