In "The World of Man", after Zhou Bingkun and his father quarreled, he said a tearful sentence: "You have become a father, and your father beat you, isn't this happiness?" ”
Yes, we are all middle-aged and elderly, and parents scold and beat, is a very happy thing, indicating that our parents are not only alive, but also healthy, able to get angry with us, hands-on.
Why do the elderly around us care so much about the children of "raising the mouth"? Is it because the children around them are not out of work, or are the children around them not able to satisfy the vanity of the elderly?
And those children who are far away, who only send some money every year, or who come back to see me once a few years, are the good children of the old man's heart?
It is not that the old man has no heart, nor that the children are ruthless, but that human nature is the result.
"Nourish the mouth and body, nourish the mind" is what Feng Huacheng said to Zhou Zhigang in the recent hit drama "The World of Man". At that time, Zhou Rong wanted to go to graduate school, because she was reluctant to her parents, she did not want to continue her studies, and wanted to transfer back to Jichun and accompany her parents. But Zhou Zhigang said that the metropolis of Beijing, a place that everyone yearns for, he hopes that Zhou Rong can continue to study, and he has his youngest son Bingkun by his side who will take good care of him.
Feng Huacheng told Zhou Zhigang that there are two kinds of filial piety since ancient times:
"Serving by your parents' side, taking care of food, clothing, shelter, and transportation is to nourish your mouth and body; to go far away and fly high to achieve something, so that your parents are proud of it is to nourish your mind." For parents, these two kinds of filial piety are indispensable.
Zhou Zhigang was happy at once, he said to Zhou Rong, that's it, you and your brother are fighting for me and your mother, although your brother is not out of the ordinary, but at home to take care of your mother, serve the family, it is also very good.
Although Zhou Zhigang said so, in his heart, the children who have a job and Bingkun who have not stayed around are also good children of their own.
However, when he led his whole family to pay homage to his neighbors, he only said that there were children who were out of work, and ignored Bingkun's filial piety.
In this episode, our old knotty Bingkun's heart is aggrieved and helpless. In his heart, he felt that his parents looked down on him and looked down on him.
Especially when Bingkun sent his father to take the train, in the train station Zhou Father roared, he thought that Bingkun school is not good, every year in the class by the countdown, even if there is no sequelae of the mother, no sister's daughter needs to take care of, he Zhou Bingkun can not be admitted to college. Such a hysterical roar made Bingkun completely stunned, and it turned out that his father regarded himself in this way.
In fact, everyone knows that five fingers sticking out are not the same, not to mention the emergence of children in the family.
Some people's talent is the material to learn, and some people can't read well even if they use it to the best of their ability.
Who among the parents doesn't know this? It's just that your own heart can't pass the obstacle in your heart,
Always crack down on bad at home, and rudely educate children in a comparative way, rather than seeing the strengths and weaknesses of each child.
In the hearts of parents, only children who study well and worry about themselves are good children and filial piety. But most of the children who can really benefit their parents in their old age are still children who are not out of the ordinary in their eyes.
Uncle Cai, 78, of Building 15 of the community, has three sons, only the younger son is around, and now Uncle Cai and his wife are not in good health, they are the youngest son and the younger daughter-in-law to take care of their lives, but every time they come out in circles and chat with the elderly around them, their faces are full of happy words, and they are two sons who are out there.
What Uncle Cai often said is that my eldest son sent me some good things from the Internet, and my second son transferred a lot of money to him, hoping that their old two would eat more good things. If someone mentions that the little son next to him is the best for him,
He said that the younger son was the least productive, not only did he earn less money, but even the children of the younger son needed their old two sponsorships to buy a house and marry a daughter-in-law.
But every time Uncle Cai said this, the young son who accompanied him quickly praised Uncle Cai for being good, and tried his best to say something that made Uncle Cai comfortable.
Sometimes, outsiders can't listen to it, but Uncle Cai's younger son doesn't care, it seems that such words are too much to hear, can't get angry, and are happy with the old man.
When we watch "The World of Man", we all feel that Zhou Rong's selfish self is actually given to the zhou family's parents, and it is also the zhou family's pet.
The parents of the Zhou family felt that Zhou Rong studied well and looked good, and regarded her everywhere as an example to compare Bingkun, which created Zhou Rong because of the matter of her daughter Yueyue, when Bingkun said that she was also such a selfish person, Zhou Rong did not hesitate to give Bingkun a slap.
As a sister, as an associate professor at the university, and as a middle-aged person, even if your brother says the words you don't like to hear the most, you can't reach out and slap your brother? Later, Zhou Rong did not know how to communicate with her daughter, and her daughter left a letter and ran to Beijing alone to find Feng Huacheng, which also made Zhou Rong pay 12 years of experience of drifting to a foreign country.
Bi Shumin wrote in "Filial Piety Is Priceless":
"Parents are here, life still has a place to come, parents go, life is only the way home."
After the death of the Zhou family's parents, it was also the time when the Zhou family was in decline, Bingyi and his wife had no children, after Bingyi's death, Dongmei remarried and went abroad; Yue Yue married an old man in his 50s, although his career was successful, but there were no children; and Zhou Cong married a colleague who had humiliated Bingkun because of a pot of flowers, although he gave birth to a son, but the quarrels between the husband and wife continued, so that Bingkun lamented that his grandson could no longer experience the happiness of having a brother and sister.
In fact, as parents, everyone hopes that their children can get ahead, and they also hope that their children can have a career. As for families with many children,
Parents feel that those children who "cultivate their minds" are their favorite, because the self-knowledge in human nature will have a more or less vanity side in everyone's heart, and they all hope that their children can give themselves a long face.
And in the face of the children who have nothing to do around,
Parents not only want to help, but also need parental support, for a long time, people only see their own efforts, and ignore their own inner needs
。 Therefore, it will be so undesirable to see the children around them who "raise their mouths and bodies", but in the end,
Parents understand that their happiness in their old age still comes from these children around them who have no great success.
Mother Zhou once said to Bingkun:
Bingkun has always been out of the ordinary, than his brothers and sisters, they have lost them since 1969, and the parents of the Zhou family still have the good of Bingkun and his wife to be able to enjoy a happy life in their old age.
Author: Hua Gui Zen Heart
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