2022 opening year drama, the best cry is not "The World of Man", the love and hatred of generations is too real and touching, in the words of netizens, "all cry numb".
In particular, the father and son quarrel scenes between Zhou Father and "Old Knot" Zhou Bingkun have aroused strong resonance from countless audiences.
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Children with a lifetime
Try to live as your parents expect
The central characters of this drama are the five members of the Zhou family, namely Zhou Zhigang and his wife, the eldest son Zhou Bingyi, the second daughter Zhou Rong, and the younger son Zhou Bingkun.
The younger brother of the three brothers and sisters of the Zhou family, Zhou Bingkun, and he is the one who is relatively "out of the ordinary".
Compared with Zhou Bingyi, who experienced ups and downs in the course of drastic reforms, and Zhou Rong, an intellectual who stayed on to teach after obtaining a doctorate, Zhou Bingkun experienced the pain of layoffs and the challenge of "going to the sea", but there were no earth-shattering achievements and great deeds worthy of boasting.
He entered the factory as a worker before graduating from junior high school, and later resumed the college entrance examination, although he studied hard, he still did not get into college. His older brother and sister were admitted to Peking University, and he was just a small worker in the soy sauce factory, barely making ends meet with a meager monthly salary.
As children, who doesn't want to be the expectation of their parents, and who doesn't want their parents to be proud of themselves?
There is no achievement in life, which has also become a barrier in his heart with a thick personality, he has always lived under the aura of his brothers and sisters, with inferiority, and his heart has been seeking his father's approval.
"Should the facts be said? Should it be said?! ”
Zhou Bingkun's eyes were red, his lips were trembling, and he issued a series of questions and roars to his father in front of him.
The shouts on his lips represent the long-standing anger in his heart, and the child, who has always been filial and filial, finally plucked up the courage to speak his heart to his father.
This heart-rending cry has made many people see themselves, like many children who have not been recognized by their parents no matter what they do from childhood to adulthood, and the grievances hidden in their hearts are not convinced and not understood.
Zhou Bingkun paid too much for the whole family and sacrificed too much. His father was absent from home for many years, his brothers and sisters all had their own pursuits, accompanied their mothers in the difficult years, and he was the only one who struggled to support this family.
In the face of so much suffering, Zhou Bingkun has never been afraid, but what he is most afraid of is his father's disappointment, and what he longs for most in his heart is his father's approval of him.
However, such a sentence erased all of Zhou Bingkun's efforts and the value of his existence.
Every time the father went out, he showed off his achievements for his eldest son and daughter, and these words pierced Zhou Bingkun's heart like a knife and hurt his self-esteem. Brothers and sisters are out of breath, only Zhou Bingkun, who does not come out, accompanies his parents, tries to make up for his shortcomings in school and work with pay and return, and wants to prove that he is not worse than his brothers and sisters, but he can't meet the standards of his parents.
"Let my father and my mother be satisfied with me" has become Zhou Bingkun's biggest wish in this life.
This seems to be the epitome of the incredibly real modern parent-child relationship.
In order to achieve this goal, he worked hard, played a big role in publishing houses and restaurants, achieved formal establishments, and lived in a big house, expecting to surprise his father.
As a result, the unsuspecting father came back and felt not surprise, but fright. The two men erupt in the middle of the night in one of the show's biggest father-son clashes.
Parental love and acceptance should be unconditional, but many parents can't.
A big man in his 30s was crying like a child in the bed. He said to his father, "You can't hear what you say, where it hurts you, you cut it, it's all raised by your father and mother, I didn't show up." He spoke of the unspeakable pain in the child's heart.
How many people's childhood memories have left this lingering pain.
As a parent, the love of many people will unconsciously become conditional, learning good children, excellent children, beautiful children, sweet children, it is easier to get the love of parents.
Clumsy, unproductive, honest, and humble children are often more likely to be ignored, even if they call for love again and again in their own way, and always get stronger scolding than ever.
You love your child, but you seem to blame your child. That's how many parents speak, and many viewers call it too real. It should be said that Father Zhou was already a father with a pattern in that era. He also repeatedly praised Bingkun as the most satisfied of the three children, which is a completely avoidable misunderstanding.
In any case, the closer people are, the more they understand your pain points, so the easier it is to say the most stinging words, say what is ugly, and poke what hurts.
As a parent, how to achieve "unconditional love" that unites knowledge and action is a lifelong task.
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Mediocre children are here to repay the favor
The better the child, the farther away from the parents.
In the TV drama plot, Zhou Zhigang happily plays chess with his grandson Zhou Cong, and suddenly falls.
Zhou Bingkun and his children, in the ice and snow, used a scooter relay race to send the unconscious old father to the hospital, but the result was: prepare for the aftermath.
At that time, the eldest son, who was already the deputy mayor, was on a field expedition, and unless he had the mythical arbitrary shuttle door, he could not come back.
The second daughter, Zhou Rong, is filming with the suitor Cai Xiaoguang in Wuhan thousands of miles away, and there is no way to return to her father in time.
When the father woke up in the hospital, only the youngest son, who was positioned as the "most useless", knelt on the ground and begged the doctor to save the father.
In the evening, after the eldest son and daughter rushed back from the field, they asked the younger son how he took care of his father.
Zhou Zhigang, who returned to the light, kindly blamed the two big children:
"Daddy is the three of you, and you can't blame your brother for being by his side all the time and what happened."
In front of outsiders, the eldest son is a promising high-ranking cadre, the daughter is a university professor, and only the younger son is an ordinary "hit worker".
However, in the most difficult time for parents, it is always the most ordinary son who stays by his side.
There is a famous saying: All love in the world is walking in the direction of convergence, but between parents and children, it is a process of continuous separation.
If the child is an ordinary person, then take the knee! If you're out of the ordinary, spread your wings and fly high!
Accept the mediocrity of the child, just as the child never asks the mother how good she must be!
Every child has his own way to go, which is the deepest respect that parents have for their children.
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Happy parents
Only children have the courage to pursue happiness
Every time Zhou Father and Zhou Mother parted in the play, whether it was an argument or the clenched hands, they revealed the depth of the husband and wife's feelings.
The station parting, the old husband and wife who are not good at words, a subtle detail, reveal endless parting sorrows.
You say "hard", she says "write a letter".
Relatively speechless, clenching your hands is unconditional entrustment.
This is the most daily communication of parents, and it is also the happiest appearance.
Even if they are thousands of miles away from home, as children, they have no worries, only worries. Because compared to them, the deep feelings between their parents are the fundamental reason why their family is inseparable.
This trust is also passed on to the next generation, and when they start a family, they have a tangible example and become the most stable factor in small families.
Just as Zhou Bingkun's life has had several ups and downs, experiencing the pain of losing his son, the disaster of imprisonment, and the difficulty of integrating into society, but there is still a loving wife by his side.
Because of this, with his simplicity, steadfastness and kindness, he has brought opportunities to himself and his family again and again.
The happiness of parents is the courage of children to move forward without fear.
Parents live their own lives, so that children will not be lost in the bondage between parents and children.
Parents can do everything they can for their children, which stems from unconditional instinctive love, not the compromise and grievances of parents, and it is not the chips that children are required to prepare early in the future.
When his biological father Luo Shibin continued to use his rich life, study abroad, etc., to encourage Zhou Nan, it was the most difficult time for the Zhou family.
However, the tenacity of The Zhou Bingkun couple in the face of real-life pressures has profoundly affected their son Zhou Nan. He faced the immature feelings with Qingmei Zhuma, clearly planned his studies, and was admitted to Harvard University entirely by his own efforts.
Because his father said, he felt bitter and chewed and swallowed. This was the first time he had begun to have the courage to take on his own life.
As parents, we first have to be ourselves.
There are three things in life: accept the mediocrity of parents; accept the mediocrity of oneself; accept the mediocrity of one's children.
Every child deserves to be treated with tenderness.
"The World of Man" ended, the ending of the novel has been greatly changed (the original is more tragic), everyone is considered to have a relatively good home, in the face of the suffering of life, the only thing we can do is to be positive, live hard, even if the fate is treated with malice now, but I believe that there is always a moment when the clouds will see the sun.
The child's growth process,
It's like the growth process of a tree,
The most honest, the most explicit,
What is watered, what grows.
Declaration of ingenuity
"I'm fully engaged in teaching my kids because I know,
In these short years, I will have a lifelong impact on my children.
I don't waste a minute or a second, I treat them like my own children,
And see yourself as a teacher and a parent, not just a teacher! ”