Author: A Corner of the Heart (Parents Intensive Reading Author)
Evolutionary mother: Respecting parents when communicating is a necessary courtesy for children; being considerate of parents in behavior is the duty of children; thanking parents from the inside out is the child's psychological self-consciousness.
There is a saying in "Mencius Leaving Lou Shang": "Everyone kisses his relatives, grows his long, and the world is peaceful." ”
In Mencius's description, if each of us can be filial to our parents, then the world will be a harmonious and peaceful society.
For 5,000 years of Chinese civilization, filial piety to parents has been a traditional virtue that has been advocated from ancient times to the present.
Even as we enter the twenty-first century, we still need to teach our children how to honor and obey their parents.
It is only in the current environment that many children have been raised by their parents to be "treasures in the palm of their hands", and gradually breed unfilial behavior towards their parents.
Come and check whether your child has the following 3 characteristics, one of which must be vigilant!
Disrespectful parents
In the Three Hundred Lectures of the Analects, there is such a story.
Confucius's disciple Ziyu asked Confucius what filial piety was.
Confucius replied, "The filial piety of the present is to be able to be nurtured." As for dogs and horses, they can all be raised. If it is disrespectful, why should it be different? ”
Translated as, filial piety now refers to being able to serve one's parents, but like a dog and a horse, one can also serve one's people, and if there is less respect for one's parents, how can one tell the difference between the two?
Confucius, who lived more than 2,000 years ago, already warned future generations that respecting parents is something that everyone should do.
But now some children, who are the "hope" of the whole family and even the whole family, always think that their parents should provide the best conditions for themselves, but they forget the most basic respect for their parents.
There is one such "bear child" celebration among my relatives.
Originally in the second year of junior high school, Qingqing's mind was not on learning at all, and he was addicted to online games and could not extricate himself.
Honest and responsible Qingqing's parents are my cousin and sister-in-law, and they advise their son to pay attention to his studies, after all, Qingqing did well in elementary school.
Qingqing turned a deaf ear, and if his parents nagged too much, he would directly and irritably shout: "Shut up your ass!" Don't bother Lao Tzu! ”
Where should this be what the child should say to his parents? I simply don't know how to respect my parents.
The cousin and sister-in-law knew that if this continued, the son would be raised and ruined, and he also wanted to teach Qingqing a harsh lesson, but they did not say two harsh words, and Qingqing first said harshly:
"Shut up! If you say one more thing, I'll jump off the building and show you!" Let you taste the aftermath! ”
The two cousins and sisters-in-law no longer dared to say a word, but their hearts had long since repented of breaking their intestines.
I remember that when Qingqing was only a five- or six-year-old child, he talked to his parents politely, and when he wanted to buy something delicious, he directly pointed at his father and said:
"You! Go buy me ham sausages! Hurry up! ”
A relative reminded his cousin that it was impolite not to let the child speak, but the cousin did not care and said: "Nothing! How crisp my son talks! ”
Over time, Qingqing's temper became worse and worse, and his attitude towards his parents became more arrogant and indulgent, and he did not pay attention to his parents at all.
Every child comes into this world through his parents, and talking politely to his parents is the most basic upbringing of the Son of Man.
The famous genealogist Zhi Yu once said: "It is better to respect relatives than to be beautiful than three animals." ”
Filial piety to parents with a respectful attitude and behavior, so that children who grow up will always maintain respect for their parents.
Inconsiderate parents
I once heard a saying: "The adopting child knows that the mother is difficult, and the adoptive daughter knows the grace of the mother." ”
Many people can understand the difficulties of their parents after they have experienced the bittersweet and bittersweet of raising their children.
But we can't think that children don't know how to understand their parents, and they don't make much mistake, but they don't.
In the popular TV series "In the World" some time ago, Zhou Rong, the only daughter of the Zhou family, was labeled "selfish" by the majority of the audience.
When they went to the mountains and went to the countryside, the parents of the Zhou family originally wanted to keep their daughter by their side, but unexpectedly, Zhou Rong did not say a word, did not say a hello, and ran to Guizhou, thousands of miles away.
The most important thing is that in that era of conservative folk customs, Zhou Rong actually went to find a man who had never met before!
Parents regard Zhou Rong as a baby, but Zhou Rong can do whatever she wants, never caring about her parents' feelings, and even more does not know how to understand her parents' difficulties.
So later, Zhou Rong dumped her daughter to her parents and brother to bring and other behaviors, and was scolded by the audience to the screen.
Parents should raise their children, but children should at least see that their parents are not easy, from the depths of their hearts and actions, to do to understand their parents.
I have seen one such complaint on a certain platform before.
A high school senior said that she wanted to buy more than three thousand sneakers to motivate herself to work hard to get into a good university.
But the girl also said that her father is a big truck driver, running transportation outside all year round, and her mother is doing laundry and cooking at home, living in an old house with two bedrooms and a living room, and life is still relatively poor.
Some netizens commented that girls do not know how to understand that it is not easy for parents to earn money, but girls are rightly and boldly replied: "My parents only have one child, shouldn't I use it when I earn money?" ”
It's speechless!
This girl can't see the difficulty of her father's earning money, and the hard work of her mother's housework?
How much do parents have to worry about raising a home? How much trouble does it take to raise a child?
When the child does not know how to understand the parents, can the child still expect the child to be filial to the parents in the future?
There is a sentence in the "Persuasion of Kindness": "Labor does not teach father and mother to suffer, and sorrow mo teaches father and mother to delay." ”
Do not let parents experience too much suffering and tiredness, children should know how to be considerate of the pain experienced by parents, but also understand the difficulties of parents.
Only children who really want to get and be considerate of their parents will know how to be filial to their parents in the future.
Not grateful to parents
We all know that in this world, the most difficult thing to repay is the parenting grace of parents.
But not all children can have a heart that knows how to be grateful to their parents.
As the English dramatist Shakespeare said, "The ugly sea monster is not as terrible as the ungrateful children." ”
After watching a variety show, the host Tu Lei really couldn't help but start a fire against a young man who dropped out of school to start a business.
It turned out that the young man's family was not well-off, and his parents borrowed money everywhere to support him in his studies, but he did not know how to thank his parents for their efforts.
He knew that if his parents did not borrow money, he would not even be able to enter the school, but he thought that the school's education did not meet his needs, so he dropped out of school without any guilt.
After being criticized by Tu Lei, the young man also tried to defend himself: "My parents raised me so big, I have all in mind, if I succeed in the future -"
Before he could finish speaking, Tu Lei asked, "What if you don't succeed in the future?" ”
The lad said without hesitation: "I failed, I will continue to pursue." Tu Lei was so angry that he almost exploded.
Tu Lei originally thought that he could make the young man wake up, he did not know how to thank his parents for raising him, what a wrong behavior, but he did not seem to understand at all.
Raising a child, parents should take care of their children's daily food and clothing, but also worry about their children's education and companionship, and children should know how to be grateful.
I remembered seeing a small video sent by a dad on a video website.
Five-year-old Dabao, guarding the bed of his mother, who had just given birth to a second treasure, wiped his tears while asking: "Mom, do you hurt?" ”
Because he saw the knife edge in his mother's abdomen, Dabao listened to his father and said that when his mother gave birth to him, he was also stabbed in this way, and Dabao cried bitterly.
What a sensible child! Only so young do I know the grace of gratitude for my mother's birth and nurturing.
I believe that with such a grateful heart for parents, this child will definitely know more about filial piety to parents in the future.
There is an old proverb: "The father is higher than the mountain, and the mother is deeper than the sea." ”
When children can feel the nurturing grace of their parents from the depths of their hearts, they can feed their parents in words and deeds.
In the Song of Filial Piety, it is said: "Ci Wu Shang feeds back, and the lamb kneels on its feet." Man is not filial to his relatives, but is not as good as grass and wood. ”
Every child from birth to adulthood is inseparable from the parenting of parents, parents are the children of a lifetime should be grateful for the people.
If you want to raise a filial child, parents must teach them step by step from the time the child is a child.
Respecting parents when communicating is a necessary courtesy for children;
It is the duty of children to behave and behave considerately;
Thanking parents from the inside out is the self-consciousness of children's psychology.
Only in this way can parents spend their old age in the filial piety of their children after hard work to raise their children, and harvest the happiness of motherly kindness and filial piety.
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