How important is it to say "thank you" to your partner in a marriage?

Source | Love Family Youdao (ID: trgfajyd)

A long time ago, I watched a show hosted by Tu Lei and interviewed a disabled couple.

The fate of the couple is very bumpy: the husband suffers from polio and has limited mobility. For physical reasons, he was once inferior and depressed.

The wife suffers from a rare "mirror man" disease, the position of body organs is completely opposite to that of ordinary people, and the spine is twisted and the walking is laborious, but she is optimistic by nature.

After the two fell in love, his wife's optimistic attitude illuminated his life like sunshine, so that he was no longer gray and negative, and gradually became cheerful.

After the two married, although their wife's physical condition was not suitable, they still resolutely gave birth to children.

Now a family of three, living a very warm life.

In the program, the husband solemnly said to his wife for everything he had given: "Thank you." ”

At that time, Tu Lei asked the audience: "Do you think that husband and wife should say thank you?" ”

Some viewers replied, what is the courtesy between husband and wife? Some viewers also felt that saying thank you was too deliberate.

But when you see the wife in the show, because she hears her husband's thanks, she smiles contentedly like a flower. And the husband is also happy because of his wife's happiness, and his eyebrows are full of joy.

At this time, you will understand: "Thank you" these three words, full of positive energy and warm meaning.

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Couples who love each other again

Also learn to say thank you

A netizen wrote that his father was a construction worker who often did not stay home for several months in that poor jingle-dong era.

The mother planted a few acres of thin fields at home, raised silkworm reeling silk, and took care of her children.

Although life is not rich, but after 30 years of marriage, you can always see the light of happiness in their faces.

From the beginning of her memory, she often heard her mother say, "It's not easy for your father to make money, be frugal." ”

Every half a month, my mother called my father at the village commissary and always said, "You have worked hard, I will save more eggs and come back to make up for you." ”

Every time my father came home, he always walked more than a dozen miles, went around to the market, and bought some gifts for his mother.

Although it is not a valuable thing, it will always say "the family has worked hard for you, a gift for you." ”

The so-called eyebrows raised, respect each other as guests, depicting such a beautiful picture.

Years later, she still remembered it warmly.

For women, love always comes first.

Husbands are grateful to their wives and give them enough love and respect, and as wives, they will surely double their returns.

The most frightening thing is that the hard work is that the waist and leg pain are not able to get a good word, the heart and lungs cannot be exchanged for a recognition, and the blood is exhausted but cannot hear a "thank you".

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Don't know how to say thank you

Even the best feelings will be ruined by the fact that they are taken for granted

"It's not interesting, marriage is really not interesting..." When I brushed the circle of friends before going to bed, I saw my friend Xiaoqing's sudden sigh.

It turned out that her husband had been promoted two days ago, so he invited relatives and friends to celebrate in the evening.

After three rounds of drinking, he raised his glass and excitedly gave a thank you.

He thanked his parents, the mentors who educated him, the leaders who promoted him, the friends who helped him... I was grateful for a big circle, but I didn't mention Xiaoqing's name.

After the guests dispersed, she couldn't help but ask him, "Am I not worthy of thanks?" ”

He smiled disapprovingly, "Isn't that what you should do?" “

She was stunned, and her heart couldn't stop trembling when she remembered the past.

He became busier and busier at work, and let her quit her job to take care of her family, so she resolutely gave up her favorite job;

The old man in the family fell ill one after another, and when he was on a business trip, she went to the hospital to take care of her in the wind and rain;

He rushed to report overtime, and she stayed up late with him, cooking supper, rubbing his shoulders, and helping to check the information from time to time...

Nowadays, kung fu pays off. He was promoted, but he thought that all her efforts over the years should be done.

I think that behind the series of "meaningless" in the circle of friends is her long-backlog of grievances and heartache.

In this world, there is only willingness to pay, there is no reason to take it for granted.

If one party's dedication and compassion for the other party does not get a little response, like a black hole, only know how to ask for and devour, then even the best feelings will be overdrawn little by little.

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Thanks in time

It is the secret of a happy marriage

In fact, pay attention to the happy couples around you, and never hesitate to thank, apologize and praise each other.

I know an entrepreneur who is close to the age of his father and does not shy away from his wife's gratitude.

Once had a meeting in his office and kept it open until the end of work. His wife called, first said that it was hard, and then said that he had wrapped his favorite wild vegetable bun in the evening.

He apologized on the phone: "Sorry, still in the meeting, you help me keep two, and I will go home to eat later, thank you!" ”

Probably because I have seen too many men with small career achievements, during the meeting to the family phone, will be impatient - "Don't say it, busy, and everyone to have a meeting!" ”

So at that moment, a phone call full of ordinary people's warmth and a little sweetness seemed to make us emotional and soft.

Some people think that the old husband and wife are too old and old, and they still have to express love and gratitude to each other, which seems too pretentious and extravagant.

But just because husband and wife are the closest people, it is not easy on the road to marriage, so we can't let endless accusations and natural neglect become the norm.

Some people are very grateful in their hearts, but they don't say it, they don't want to say it, and they think that even if they don't say it, they can understand it.

But the truth is, don't say, the other party really doesn't understand.

Saying thank you in time is the lowest cost investment.

Thank you to him for contributing to this family, thank you for the surprise he prepared for himself; thank you for making a delicious dish, thank you for the support she gave when she started her own business...

The other half who receive gratitude will engage in the relationship with greater enthusiasm because they know that their efforts are recognized and seen.

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I love you, I'm sorry, thank you.

These words are simple, but they are a hundred times more effective in marriage than imagined.

This is not a hypocritical courtesy, but a symbol of mutual affection.

The other party's efforts, timely response. The other party's affection, know how to say thank you. In this way, love can be longer and more stable.

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