A man loves you or not, and your feelings may not match the facts.
Linlin said: "Boyfriend A is handsome and humorous, he will say that he loves me every day, he will coax me to be unhappy for the first time, he will buy desserts that I like to eat, and he will accompany me shopping on weekends..."
Fang Hui said: "Boyfriend B is a stuffy gourd, not to mention sweet words, the sense of ceremony on holidays is also very small, and he will not lose his temper with me, and he will help me solve the problem at the first time when encountering difficulties..."
Which of the above two situations is true love?
The feelings of girls are probably keen on A and dislike B.
And the truth is that the long-term love is more with boys like B.
Because, a man's love is not a mouth to say, but in action, more reflected in the details that are easy to ignore.
A man, whether you are sincere or perfunctory, the following three details of life are testimonies.
Proactively report on your trip
Love is to give each other a sense of security, embodied in life, is to explain everything, every sentence has a response.
The message sent by the other party can not be returned in time, but it must be returned when it is empty, which is called a response.
Go out, about what time to come back, let the other party have a number in mind, not to worry and suspect, this is called everything is explained.
Men go out to report their itinerary, where to go, when they will come back, is a kind of inner frankness, is mutual trust, but also to reassure you, let you rest assured.
A man who can take the initiative to report the itinerary shows that he regards you as the closest person and can think of you wherever he goes.
Maybe some men don't have such a habit, thinking that where I go and who to meet is my freedom, and even the girlfriend asks more, all feel that the other party is unreasonable, it is precisely opaque suspicion, resulting in the rupture of feelings.
A person who cares about you may not be able to make you happy everywhere, but he can do it, and he does not make you sad and suffer from gains and losses.
Reader Wang Fang once complained to me, saying that her husband did not love him at all, did not understand romance, would not ask for warmth, and was simply a serious "straight male cancer".
"Then why are you still with him?" I asked.
"I feel down-to-earth with him, he will take the initiative to report on his itinerary, and I feel particularly safe."
It seems that Wang Fang is also a girl who understands love.
On the surface, he really does not conform to the image of "romantic lover" in the minds of girls, nor can he meet the emotional value that girls want.
When love reaches a certain stage, isn't it necessary to break the impracticality and return to the appearance of solid peace of mind?
Sometimes don't just look at what he deliberately did, but look at what he didn't do unintentionally.
A man who can take the initiative to report the itinerary really cares about you.
Know how to be inclusive
In relationships, girls usually have a misconception that men don't do something romantic just don't love me.
For example, you must give gifts on holidays, say that you love me every day, and spend a lot of time with me.
This blatant love is indeed fascinating.
But long-lasting love can not only be joyful and romantic, but also quarrel and run-in.
Sharing romance, anyone can do it, accommodating and letting you, is the person who really loves you.
Many times, you will be obsessed with the person who gives you a vigorous feeling, thinking that love should be like this. But I ignored some of the details of life, which is the most real appearance.
Every quarrel, why he is always silent, in fact, he is restraining his temper, he is putting up with you, this is a pity tolerance.
Every time you are angry, he always comes "skinless and faceless" to "please", he may be "afraid" of you, but not really afraid of you, but afraid of losing you, so come and coax you.
Sometimes, it's not that he doesn't get angry, it's not that he doesn't have a temper, it's that he's putting up with you and he doesn't want to hurt you.
Men who know how to tolerate and tolerate are people who care about your feelings and are willing to accept your true nature.
Such a man, even if not so "romantic", has more comfort.
One thing to avoid is not to take the other party's tolerance for granted, otherwise it will push the lover farther and farther away.
Xiaoli is an only child, spoiled and habitual.
After marriage, I still do my own thing, I have to find Xiao Zhao for a little thing, Xiao Zhao really loves her, has always tolerated her, and all the resentment is borne alone. But this, on the contrary, made Xiaoli more and more arrogant, and even hung up on the divorce without a word, over time, Xiao Zhao also felt tired, and the result can be imagined.
Love is a matter for two people, and giving is mutual.
If Xiaoli could understand her husband's tolerance, the result would not be like this.
In life, those inconspicuous details, such as forbearance, are actually the moments when he loves you.
Share the stress with you
As the saying goes, afflictions see the truth, and the same is true in love.
The role of love is that two people work together to resist the risks in life.
If a man can solve it with you in the first time when you encounter difficulties, then this man is responsible and loves you.
Maybe it's just an umbrella he gave you on a rainy day.
It is when you stay up late to do a project and hand you the search materials.
It is your lonely, helpless, broken and painful hand that lends out.
Love a person, can't bear to see the other person suffer, and don't want the other party to be hurt in any way.
Compared with the icing on the cake, the person who sends charcoal in the snow is the one who is worthy of trust.
We instinctively tend to give us the feeling of "romance" and are more likely to ignore the person who has been silently guarding around us.
That person may not be brilliant, Mu Ne, will not coax girls, but will always accompany you when you are sad and sad, take you in when you are desperate, meet such a boy, do not ignore him.
Cai Xiaoguang in "The World of Man" is the one who loves Zhou Rong deeply. After falling in love with Zhou Rong at first sight when she was young, he has been silently guarding her. Zhou Rong's heart is related to Feng Huacheng, as long as Zhou Rong likes, Cai Xiaoguang blesses her from the bottom of her heart.
He helped Zhou Rong Zhang Luo Zhou's family work, after the death of Zhou Rong's mother, in order to make Zhou Rong feel safe, he has always loved freedom, he is determined to propose to Zhou Rong, and fully help Zhou Rong complete her works, which is simply "the ideal of the world".
In real life, although there is no perfect "human ideal", is not your "Cai Xiaoguang" who silently guards our side and is willing to share the pressure with you?
Love that has not experienced suffering is always so vulnerable that it cannot stand the test of time.
How can life always be full of flowers, those days that no one cares about, if he does not participate, it is just a kind of "love" that can only share happiness and not suffering.
The person who can really share the hardships of life with you is the person who loves you the most.
It is often said that why is it so difficult to meet true love? Is it really necessary to be in the right place at all times?
In fact, love is not an instantaneous feeling, but an emotion that needs to be paid for each other for a long time. It is hidden in the details of two people getting along, and the more you try to find out, the more your love energy will be.
See life more, and see each other with your heart.
If a man reports his itinerary in life, restrains his temper, and takes the initiative to share the pressure of life with you, then he must love you to the bone.
Remember, a man's love is hidden in the details of the action.
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