In the trajectory of most people's lives, after leaving the campus and working for a few years, they have to start talking about marriage.
However, there is a girl who is in the third year of college, but her mother is forced to take leave to go home for a blind date, and after the girl refuses, her mother actually released a harsh word: don't go into the house if you don't go!
Still a student, why are you so eager to arrange a blind date? Will the girl go?
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Third-year college girls are forced to take leave of absence for blind dates:
Don't go into the house!
Recently, the news that a girl in Xuzhou, Jiangsu Province, was forced by her mother to go home for a blind date was on the hot search.
The girl was in her third year of college, and when she came home from vacation, her aunt introduced her to an object, who was three or four years older than her, and the conditions were good in all aspects, and the girl's mother was very satisfied.
The girl herself is only 20 years old, still in school, and does not want to get married so early in her heart. She decided to talk to her mother, but she didn't talk about it.
After the girl returned to school, her mother did not dispel this idea, let her take a leave of absence to go home to go on a blind date, and threatened "if you don't go, don't go home"...
But girls also have their own persistence, still in school what kind of kiss? In the end, she still did not go, and her mother blocked her phone in a fit of anger.
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Netizens saw this matter, many people think that this mother is too outrageous, and some people speculate that it may be for the bride price. The girl later came forward to explain that her mother was actually afraid that she would fall in love outside and be deceived, so she was anxious to let her go on a blind date, and later the mother and daughter reconciled
PS: The girl's skin is white and beautiful, the appearance is super high, and the netizens are anxious after seeing it: this condition must be blind dated, let's do what?
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Whether this mother's idea is right or not, the intention is still understandable. But many young people are really overwhelmed by their parents' urging, and they don't even want to go home. Others have been killed by being urged to marry.
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Parents love their children, obviously urging marriage has brought so many troubles to their children, why can't they respect their children's ideas? In fact, behind the marriage urging is not just the appearance of marriage urging.
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Behind the parents' urging of marriage,
It is an excessive intervention in the child's life...
Many young people are reluctant to marry so early for many reasons.
Some people want to live a single aristocratic life for a few more years; some people want to wait for a certain level of career to start a family; some people have to wait until a thrilling person is willing to get married; others reject marriage itself and insist on non-marriage.
For whatever reason, it is their choice and attitude towards their own life, and others can remind him of the problems that this choice may face, but they have no right to interfere excessively.
Just like Cai Xiaoguang in "The World of Man", he has loved Zhou Rong since he was a teenager, and even if Zhou Rong gets married and has children, his feelings for her have not changed. He didn't bother Zhou Rong, just silently guarded behind her. When the Zhou family needed help, he stepped forward every time.
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He was handsome in appearance and had status, but he had not loved any woman except Zhou Rong for many years. Perhaps, quietly guarding this love is also guarding the faith in his heart, for him, it is a kind of happiness.
Zhou Rong's marriage eventually failed, and she was finally impressed by Cai Xiaoguang's years of waiting. The love in Cai Xiaoguang's spirit is also complete.
From the play, we can understand that Cai Xiaoguang actually has a spiritual purity, he has persistence, there is persistence, so he can resist the pressure around him, there is no one to care about, he would rather keep a noble loneliness for this life.
Cai Xiaoguang insists on his own love, and there are still people who insist on some kind of dream, pursuit, or a relaxed state of life.
But few parents can understand their child's spiritual world.
In the eyes of parents, at a certain age, they should get married and have children, wives and children hot kiln, this is a "normal" life, but ignore the "normal" life, not only this one scenario.
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Behind the marriage promotion, it is actually a compromise between the child and the choice of marriage partner. After all, if you really meet a loved one, most people are still willing to enter the marriage hall, right?
"Lower the requirements, good character, can live a good life", with such a mentality to get married, after marriage is roughly dull, their life is almost like this. Behind the young people's resistance to marriage is actually the fear of repressed life after marriage in compromise marriage. (Of course, being urged to marry just happened to meet the object of love again, that is really lucky)
After the parents successfully urged marriage, they began to give birth, and they successfully promoted to in-laws and grandparents, family roles, social roles, children and grandchildren around the knees, enjoy the joy of the world, to achieve the ultimate happiness of life.
However, behind the seemingly happy is also full of contradictions, such as the husband and wife do not have deep feelings, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions, etc., which may require a lot of time and energy to run in, and for marriages with a love foundation, perhaps the process will be much easier.
In addition to their parents urging marriage, some young people will also be "urged to marry" by some inherent concepts in society...
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Because of a mountain climb,
I left the loved one...
A girl who shared her story was 31 years old, passionate, beautiful, and didn't have a boyfriend yet.
Relatives introduced her to a boy of the same age, a boy who graduated from a prestigious university, Sven, polite, not handsome but clean-looking, and she liked him at first sight.
On his birthday, the girl spent half a month's salary to buy him a pair of sneakers of the brand he loved, ordered a cake, took half a day off, and waited in front of his company with gifts and cakes, just to surprise him.
And the boy, it is not bad, 214, 520, Tanabata... Flowers and gifts from each festival have not fallen.
But after the two of them went out for a climb together, the girl offered to break up.
The reason is that the boy didn't take her hand, and from the beginning of the relationship, he didn't pull it once, let alone other intimate movements.
The climb was deliberately proposed by the girl, just to create a chance for the boy to hold hands. The girl said: "Although I like him very much and he is also a good fit, I know that he does not like me and I do not want to marry someone who does not love himself." ”
The girl is 31 years old, after sharing this story, many people feel that she is pretentious, and some people feel that it is a pity that the man is so suitable.
Many women will feel that they must get married for some reason, but the following three social concepts are really not the reasons why women must get married:
●Age
Age will only increase people's experience and wisdom, as long as the heart is strong enough, it will not let age become a pressure to force yourself to marry.
●Pregnancy
For women, if they feel that they are not a good person, there is no need to force themselves into a dead corner because of pregnancy, which will only fall into a deeper predicament.
● Cohabitation
Cohabitation, not necessarily married, cohabitation can only represent that once loved, if it is really inappropriate, timely withdrawal is the best choice.
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When you are not married, you must clearly understand yourself, what is the real reason for not wanting to enter the marriage, whether it is worth sticking to, or just because you are too heavy and do not want to take on the responsibilities of the family. Also think about the problems you need to face later, such as fertility, missing the best candidate, and so on.
If you are already married, you must take on the responsibility of the family, strive to do a good job in the role you play in marriage and family, and promote the benign development of the family.
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