In today's society, people are becoming more and more realistic and sober. If you saw the video of Xiu En'ai on the Internet a few years ago, most people's first feeling is envy, and secondly, they will have some impulses in their hearts and want to taste the taste of love.
Now if someone on the Internet publishes a video of Xiu En'ai, the comment area is simply not generally wonderful, many netizens will divergent thinking, imagining what it would be like to have a child, what it would be like after getting married, or what it would be like when there was no camera.
In short, few people now envy the couple who show affection. This is the experience summed up by countless people with their own experience, that is, falling in love is not so beautiful at all.
Especially some young people, early on ready not to marry, after 00 have begun to make wills.
So what are the reasons for this phenomenon?
Now many people "resist" love, the main reason is 3 points:
1, being urged to marry and being afraid, so that I am more and more enjoying single life
Colleague Xiaowen is 27 years old this year, and her parents have been urging marriage since she was 22 years old, introducing her to one after another good conditions of young men, but Xiaowen finally became a brother with almost everyone, which made Xiaowen's parents have a headache.
Xiaowen doesn't feel anything, she enjoys the single life, she can find countless elements that make her happy, what reason is there to change?
Not to mention that Xiaowen has also talked about several relationships before, she can't stand the other party's jealousy from time to time, everyone has their own standards for making friends, for the boyfriend to barely do things she doesn't like, Xiaowen is naturally unacceptable.
For about two or three years, Xiaowen did not find a boyfriend again, her parents gradually wanted to open, people are most important to be happy, since the daughter will not feel lonely alone, why should they cling to anything.
There are still many people in life who think like Xiaowen, and she is lucky to meet a more enlightened parent.
Although people now have marital autonomy, the situation of "forced marriage" still occurs from time to time, and some parents will threaten their children by jumping off buildings to let their children get married as soon as possible, which is definitely not uncommon.
Women are urged to marry urgently, jumping into the river to live a light news, a lot of online search.
There is a word called too late, too much urging, it is easy to arouse the child's rebellious psychology, so as to resist the opposite sex even more. They will feel that it is too easy to live alone, in case there is a birth in the future, what hope is there in this life.
2. The economic conditions are general
Before seeing a boy on the Internet to share his experience, he once had a girlfriend who had been in a relationship for more than three years, the other party's family was well-off, good looking, and every time he took his girlfriend to show his brothers, he would be praised for picking up the treasure.
But he is very clear that his girlfriend's parents can't look at him at all, and a bag of his girlfriend may catch up with his salary for a month, so that he is a "little white face" in the eyes of outsiders.
No matter how hard he tried, it was difficult to stand shoulder to shoulder with his girlfriend, and in the end he chose to give up, and her girlfriend walked very freely. He knew in his heart that his girlfriend had long been affected by his parents' words, and even if he did not mention breaking up, the other party would not choose to marry him.
Since then, he has never had a girlfriend and is devoted to his work.
When his parents gave birth to him, he was already very old, compared to getting married and having children, he felt that it was also important to let his parents spend a happy old age, he did not have so much energy to take care of it, simply did not talk about his girlfriend, had the ability to talk again, the pressure would not be so great.
Nowadays, you need money to do anything, and you can't just rely on your mouth to connect with friendship and maintain family affection, but also have to pay some actions and buy some small gifts, which will make the recipient feel that he is valued.
Not to mention falling in love, two people eat, watch movies, go shopping are all costly, which is not a small pressure for people with average economic conditions.
Men tend to spend a little more in relationships than women. But there are exceptions, but if you have to pay your girlfriend for everything, men are easily looked down upon by others, and their self-esteem will also be hit.
If a woman receives a gift but does not return the gift, over time the importance in the boyfriend's heart will be reduced, and no one will like to pay unilaterally.
It is rare to hear that two people in love is a dime a dozen. Because of falling in love, resulting in a decrease in their quality of life, often rely on eating instant noodles to live, simply not too bitter, the average person is difficult to bear, it is better to remain single, free and happy.
3, do not believe in love
When his friend Xiaoye was in his freshman year, he was frantically pursued by a student sister, and it wasn't long before Xiaoye was with the student sister. When both have time, they will eat together, go to the library, go shopping, etc.
The sister is very clingy, and she has to talk for a long time at night, and she has to wake up in the morning. The people in the dormitory were all called up by Xiaoye, and the student sister had not yet moved.
But Xiaoye was not impatient, and he was very good to his sister every day, and he felt that since he had promised the other party, he could not be careless. But what Xiaoye did not expect was that a few months later, Xuejie made a request to break up, on the grounds that it was enough to talk.
Xiaoye was very sad, it took a long time to recover, although he did not actively pursue, but during the love period, Xiaoye was still very attentive and also liked the sister.
Since then, he has somewhat resisted falling in love, rather than wasting time on a person who does not know whether he can finally come together, it is better to learn more, improve his ability, and later enter the society, and can walk more smoothly.
People who have been emotionally injured will be very depressed and will not get better for a while and a half. Not only women will do this, men are not much better than women.
People who manage love with their hearts, in case the result is not as good as people want, it is simply not ordinary pain.
Before there was a very popular song, there was a lyric very out of the circle, that is, "who can still love the broken heart", it can be said that this sentence said a lot of people's psychology.
Once the heart is hurt, it is difficult to believe in love anymore, even if you meet someone with a good feeling, you will not be too active.
After all, seeking advantage and avoiding harm is human instinct, just like "once bitten by a snake, ten years afraid of the well rope" the same truth.
epilogue:
In this era of faster and faster pace of life, people are chasing happiness much faster. Breaking up because of a small thing, and getting divorced because of a small thing, such examples are not uncommon.
When I encounter some unpleasant things, I feel that this day cannot be passed. At best, this shows that people now encounter fewer difficulties, and children who have lived in happy families since childhood have rarely suffered hardships, and after entering society, they will be somewhat powerless.
Love is a matter of two people, in this world, everyone's personality, way of doing things are different, so it is normal for the two parties to have conflicts, but many people can't accept different opinions from themselves, and it will be very ugly.
The reluctance to fall in love is sometimes a common psychology of people seeking benefits and avoiding harms. What we can do is to accept what is acceptable, to believe that there is still a beautiful existence in this world, and I hope that everyone can spend the rest of their lives in the way they like.
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