After joining the work, what is the biggest fear of coming home to face my mother? I think most young people will say "urge marriage", and indeed this is a reasonable and difficult topic that bothers many young men and women.
Girlfriend is 32 years old this year, the company's female executive, unmarried. Every time she saw her mother on the phone, she was afraid – urging marriage. "With a car, a house, and the ability to make money, what's the use of getting married?" It was a phrase she used to say.
The birth rate has dropped a lot, so the two-child policy has been liberalized, and the three-child policy has also been liberalized. However, we have the most fundamental problem that has not been solved, that is, the decline in the marriage rate and the fact that young people marry later and have children later is already a very common phenomenon.
When young people are married after the age of 35, it is already good to have a child, don't say second or third children, let alone those unmarried.
There are many young people who are desperately trying to make money in big cities, but not many young people who want to get married and start a family early. Why do young people lose their enthusiasm for marriage? I think it's still pressure from all sides, not so friendly to young people, that makes them full of fear of marriage.
Work is stressful and there is no time to fall in love and get married.
Jobs are not easy to find, and work pressure is the current situation of many young people. "Nine-nine-six" is the norm, and staying up late and working overtime is also commonplace. A person's energy is limited, they spend too much time and energy on work, and there is no time to fall in love and get married, which is also the helplessness of young people.
The cost of marriage is too high, and young people are daunted.
It is difficult to find a partner, it is difficult to get married, and some young men cannot afford the economic pressure of falling in love and getting married. Getting married means buying a house, a car, and money for the bride price.
In this society where there are more men and fewer women, young men are under tremendous economic pressure, and if they do not reach some, they will completely "lie flat".
Family life after marriage is stressful and young people are reluctant to bear it.
Marriage is the formation of a new family, it takes both parties to make efforts, in addition to the economic basis, there is a family, you have to bear the responsibility of your other half of the family. If you have children in the future, you must also take on the responsibility of educating your children.
Many young people are not mentally prepared to become someone else's husband or wife, let alone become a father or mother, they are not willing to take on such responsibilities, and they choose not to get married.
Facing the urging of parents to marry, young people are very distressed. Parents urge marriage on the one hand because of traditional ideas, and on the other hand, they are also worried about the future of their children. After all, a person's life needs to face all kinds of hardships and hardships in life, and it is relatively lonely.
Now my girlfriend's mother is no longer urging marriage. In order to let her daughter correctly understand marriage and let her have a plan for her life in the next few decades, I took her to these places, which touched her very much.
Marriage urging doesn't work? It is better to take the child to these places, I believe he will be touched
V's mother took her daughter to a nursing home.
The mother took her daughter to the nursing home, a place that her daughter often mentions in her mouth. She often said: "I don't get married and have children, after making money, I will go to the nursing home when I am old!" ”
The mother took her daughter to the nursing home and asked her to see in advance what the second half of her life was like. The elderly in nursing homes, although the living needs of food, clothing and housing are basically met. However, those lonely elderly people still hope to be cared for by their children. Those old people who have children to visit will be looked at with envy by everyone.
Therefore, marriage not only brings pressure, but also family affection.
V's mother took her daughter to the hospital inpatient department.
In the inpatient department of the hospital, most of the sick people are the elderly. They endured the pain of illness, both physically and psychologically. When a person faces difficulties, it is not something that can be solved with money.
Doctors can help you treat your illness, but your lover and family are the biggest pillars of your spirit. Not a person who is extremely independent and powerful in spirit, it is estimated that a person cannot bear it.
V's mother took her daughter to the Civil Affairs Bureau.
At the door of the Civil Affairs Bureau, there are a few joys and a few sorrows, some people happily receive marriage licenses, and some people tearfully divorce and break up. When getting married, marriage is a matter for two people, and divorce may involve harm to children.
Therefore, marriage is not a child's play, it means that you have to take on the responsibility of maintaining the family and family, and marriage and divorce should be carefully considered.
The mother took her daughter to the maternity hospital.
In marriage, women give a little more. Because they have the responsibility of having children. Outside the delivery room of the maternity hospital, it is the "mirror" of marriage, and if you want to know if your husband really loves you, the day the child is born may be the best opportunity.
Some people prefer sons to daughters, some people only care about children and ignore the existence of mothers, so it is very important to find a partner in marriage who truly loves themselves, has a sense of family responsibility, and has the same three views.
Falling in love and getting married is the only way for most people to go through in life, take every step of life, and be a happy person.