Nowadays, many young people have lost interest in marriage, but every holiday, or when they are with their families, they will inevitably be urged to marry, as if if they do not get married, life is half mutilated.
I believe that the starting point of most parents' marriage promotion is to hope that their children will live happily. But sometimes, parents push too hard, which will make their children feel great pressure.
In recent years, because of the urging to marry can not open the number of men and women, some of them have a good family situation, one of the reasons for doing stupid things, is that parents do not understand them, let them feel particularly tired, in fact, this situation, most of them is a lack of communication.
It is said that the three-year-old generation gap, the parents' generation, mostly because of blind dates came together, they think that children can also be like this. As everyone knows, the times are different, the children's thinking is also different, and not everyone can accept the parents' arrangement.
So how to deal with the urging of family members to get married? Learn the following three tricks, the person who loves you will not force you again!
1. Tell your family about the serious consequences that may be caused by marriage urging
Recently, some media exposed a video, a girl wearing cheap sportswear, surrounded by several middle-aged men preaching, some people are holding mobile phones to these people non-stop shooting.
It is understood that the girl is from Hubei Province, four years ago, her family forced her to marry someone she did not like, the girl came to Dongyuan in a rage, during which she never contacted her family.
The girl's father claimed that in order to find his daughter, he had offered a reward of 100,000 yuan to hope for the return of the daughter, and after the child left home, he would cry out in the middle of the night.
The girl did not react much to her father's words, according to the staff, when the volunteers found her in the cemetery ready to take her home, the girl heard that her father was coming, and ran away once on the way, and was finally found by the police and caring people.
It is unclear what the girl will face in the future, but with the rare communication between her and her father, the girl did not regret her decision to run away from home.
It is said that children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, but many parents do not understand the deep meaning of this sentence. They stubbornly feel that their children must get married when they are old, otherwise they will suffer in the future.
In recent years, because of the urging to marry, the number of people running away from home is still quite large, and some parents can't see their children's side in the New Year.
In fact, as long as you communicate more with your parents, tell them your thoughts, and tell them about the serious consequences that marriage urging may cause, I believe that most parents are not unreasonable people.
Some young people just don't like to talk too much to their parents, and they leave without a word, which will make parents feel that their children just don't understand things, and they can't think from the perspective of their children.
Compared to the sad loss of children, it becomes less important whether children marry or not. But all parents who love their children will believe that they will no longer over-force their children to marry.
2. Tell your family about the tragedies of hasty marriage
I saw a woman on the Internet share her story before, and after she went to college, she was arranged by her parents for many blind dates, and she was too annoyed to marry someone.
After marriage, there were frequent conflicts between her and her husband, and both people lost confidence in marriage, but because of the existence of children, they had to make it up. She was a college student, and after graduation, she didn't even look for a job, so she became a housewife, and the pressure in her heart was not small.
Parents see their daughter getting haggard day by day, and her regretful intestines are blue. She could feel that her weight was constantly decreasing. Sometimes back at her mother's house, her parents are also full of sad faces, secretly wiping tears where she can't see, she occasionally bumps into each other a few times, and there is no fluctuation in her heart.
After all, if her parents had not been too tight, she could not have married so hastily, and she had encountered so many bad things after marriage.
Now she just thinks about going through divorce with her husband as soon as the children are older.
In life, there is no shortage of cases where parents urge marriage too tightly, and simply find someone to get a license.
But marriages that have no emotional basis will most likely not last.
The reason why marriage is called a life event is not unreasonable, and treating marriage casually will often not get any good results.
I believe that many people around them have negative examples of hasty marriage. We can "take the path of their parents so that they have no way to go", since they like to urge marriage, then talk more about the harm of hasty marriage, the more times, the parents will also go to the heart.
After all, the harm of children not getting married is still unknown, but there are many examples of tragedies in life because they are too hasty to get married.
However, this method is not recommended to be used too early, which is easy to affect the feelings between parents and children, and belongs to the trick of "attacking poison with poison".
3, let the family know that they can live well alone
Colleague Xiaoqian is 27 years old this year, has no boyfriend and no children. During her work, Xiao qian is a very serious person and can often be valued by the leader.
With excellent ability, Xiaoqian bought a house for her parents and made their lives more convenient. According to Xiao Qian, a few years ago, her parents always loved Zhang Luo to give her blind dates, and now when she sees her daughter living so well alone, she will go with the flow.
Blind dates are tantamount to wasting time for her, Xiaoqian prefers to sit with her parents and communicate, and now they do not raise their eyebrows because their daughters are not married.
In fact, Xiao Qian is not a person who resists marriage, but she has not met the man who makes her want to spend her life with.
Although she was about to run three, Xiao Qian was never in a hurry, and she believed that one day, someone who suited her would appear.
The reason why some parents often urge marriage is that they feel that their children's self-care ability is poor, and they are afraid that their children will be very difficult to live without anyone to take care of them in the future.
If parents can see their abilities and realize that their children can still clean themselves up well even if they leave them, then they will not be so anxious.
Remember not to argue with your parents, that will not solve the problem, but will make the atmosphere between the two sides very stiff.
In the end, it is all a family, and there are few parents in the world who look forward to their children's misery.
It's just a matter of urging marriage, the initiative is still in their own hands, as long as they don't agree, others have no way.
epilogue:
People should not care too much about the eyes of others in life, and being yourself is the best.
If you don't want to get married as soon as possible, you can express your meaning to your parents more, otherwise both sides are like torturing each other, which is quite painful.
If parents love their children, when they know what their children really think, they will also reflect on their own behavior.
Although the education of their time was difficult to say, no one would always like pain, and the children born with hard work were tit-for-tat with themselves, and that kind of mood could only be understood by parents.
Usually, you can help your parents find more hobbies that suit them, so that your eyes will be diverted from yourself.
There are still many ways to not want to be urged to get married, just to see if everyone can make good use of it!
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