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Director Ang Lee's "Eating Men and Women" has this classic line:
"Life is not like cooking, don't wait for everything to be ready before you get off the pot."
But in life, the most common thing we do is to wait.
Wait for the child to be older, wait for time, wait for money, wait for the next time, wait for the future, wait for the return...
In the end, when there is no choice, there is also regret.
I always think that the coming to Japan is long, in fact, the best has been lost on the way.
There are 3 things in life that you must not wait for: accompanying children, filial piety to parents, and valuing health.
Accompanying children can not wait
Parent-child relationship is like planting a tree.
After the Spring festival of March, no matter how fertile the soil, it can not grow peach red willow green.
A good parent-child relationship is gradually cultivated in getting along bit by bit. Forcibly one-time success will only be exchanged for both sides.
Just like Zhou Rong and her daughter Yue Yue in "The World of Man", their mother and daughter are naked negative teaching materials.
Because of the lack of companionship, there is only a cold gap between Zhou Rong and her daughter.
As Zhou Rong said, the way she takes the child, she can't freeze, she can't be hungry, and she completely ignores her daughter's emotional needs.
For love, she even put her daughter back to her mother's house to take care of her when she was 3 years old. At this time, it is the time when the child needs the love of the mother the most.
As a mother, Zhou Rong was absent from her child's entire childhood.
When the child grows up and Zhou Rong takes her daughter back to her side, Yue Yue has entered a period of adolescent rebellion.
At this time, the relationship between the two is directly rigid, down to the freezing point, and even the chat is awkward. Zhou Rong was kind enough to educate her daughter, but she always quarreled without a word.
No matter what you do, no matter how good your original intention is, you can only exchange for your daughter's dissatisfaction.
At this time, Yue Yue's heart door had been completely closed, and her mother could only look at the door and could no longer enter her daughter's heart.
British educator Charlotte Mason once said:
"Many parents are busy all day and never have time to take care of their children. When they finally want to take good care of their children one day. The two sides have been unable to communicate, and parents have become insignificant in the hearts of their children. ”
It is true that parents have more things to do, and never forget that children are the biggest thing.
Once the flowering period of companionship is missed, there will be no spring in the parent-child relationship.
Filial piety to parents cannot wait
There is also the opportunity to honor one's parents, which is one's greatest happiness.
This is the most pertinent advice given by Academician Qian to young people in the "Let's Talk" program.
He has made great contributions to the cause of Protection in China and is admired by thousands of people.
In the program, a young man asked Academician Qian whether he had regrets in life and how he should face them as a young man.
Academician Qian's answer was: There have been regrets, filial piety is not enough, and there is no chance to make up for it.
His words were filled with deep guilt.
Indeed, in the face of the departure of relatives, all achievements will seem insignificant.
I remember Bi Shumin once said: Parents are here, life still has a place to come, parents go, life is only the way back.
As a father, Deng Chao, whenever he thinks of his father, he will call his father's mobile phone number. On the other end of the phone, no one answered it again, which became a hidden pain in his life.
The same is true of Martin, the host of the poisonous tongue, because he is not satisfied with his father's way of education, and he has been against his father all his life. When his father did die, Martin's heart was filled with endless self-blame.
A psychologist once wrote in a book: Losing a loved one is the biggest blow in life, and there is no one.
The most romantic convention in life is not that I love you and you love me; but that you grow up with me, and I grow old with you.
Parents who have companionship slowly grow old; parents who lack companionship grow old in an instant.
Since we can't stop getting old, let's be patient and accompany us, so that the aging of parents comes slower.
Only in this way can we have less regrets on the day when our parents really leave.
Pay attention to health can not wait
Emerson once said: Health is the first wealth in life.
Without health, everything is nothing.
Recently, I saw a message on Weibo: Suzhman has passed away.
A dancer who loves beauty and laughter has become an obituary overnight, which makes people sigh.
From suhrmann's illness to his final death, it was only eight months.
Before the age of 27, Suzhman's life was as beautiful as an idol drama. No one expected that such a splendid life would suddenly fall into the bottomless abyss.
In July 2021, Suzhmann was suddenly diagnosed with advanced stomach cancer and had already developed multiple bone metastases.
Her life changed abruptly.
Chemotherapy after chemotherapy made her lose her hair a lot, because the cancer had spread to the bone, and she often hurt all night.
In fact, everything happens for a reason.
Suzhman was particularly busy with his daily work, traveling several times a month, often so busy that he forgot to eat. Long-term irregular diet has laid the foundation for stomach cancer.
Someone flipped to Suzhman's first video of 2017 and left a message saying:
"If you can cross this day, I will definitely tell you to go to the hospital early and take care of your stomach."
Through life and death, we understand the importance of health, but unfortunately time cannot be turned back.
In fact, what fate has given us has already marked the price tag in secret.
Life is spent in the process of having and losing.
The price tag of health is the highest, and once lost, it is all lost.
When it rains, find a safe place to shelter from the rain.
When you are not sick, find a healthy way to live.
As the old saying goes, health is bigger than heaven.
All the beauty in the world is based on "health"
Pay attention to health, and living is king. Without health, everything will eventually go to zero
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A person's life is the most real at this moment.
No one will be waiting for you in the same place.
When you're busy, don't forget to enjoy your child's newly drawn "Family Portrait Card".
When you are tired, remember to praise the "good table" that your parents have prepared carefully.
When brilliant, it is necessary to pay regular attention to the "early warning red light" lit up by the body.
Missing the company of the child is the coldness and estrangement of a lifetime.
Filial piety to parents, lost, is a lifetime of guilt and regret.
The emphasis on health, ignored, is a momentary collapse.
Life is like a flowering period, missed, only withered.
May we no longer wait, cherish the present, and grasp every moment of life.