Editor | Nai Nai
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"The World of Man" is really hot!
CCTV launched this drama series during the previous New Year's period, which not only won the first place in the national ratings in the same period in a row, but also became the only TV series that could compete with the competition during the Olympic Games.
Some netizens joked: "Waiting for the "World of Man" update, than waiting for a girlfriend is more anxious." ”
The whole drama revolves around the Zhou family, and through the personal growth and relationship of each character, it reflects the development and transformation of China in the past half century.
The interpretation of many plots in the play makes the audience shout the truth, as if it is what has happened around them.
From the perspective of a bystander, looking at the real life in the play, you can better understand a lot of truths about emotions, about family, and about education.
For example, the three children of the Zhou family have very different personalities, each with its own characteristics and shortcomings.
The relationship between children and their parents, the attitude and psychology of the family, also show the true meaning of family education.
01
Parent-child relationship is not good
Education is mostly in vain
In the first half of Zhou Rong's life, if there is anything that is not going well, it is probably the relationship with her daughter Yue Yue.
After her daughter was 3 years old, Zhou Rong had to separate from her daughter.
Later, because of housing problems, I wanted to pick up my daughter to my side, but I was delayed.
All relationships in this world need to be managed with heart, patiently accompanied, and handled with wisdom to be consistent.
However, Zhou Rong almost missed the entire critical period of her daughter's growth.
It is not difficult to see that between their mother and daughter, there is a strong desire for each other, but in the specific relationship, they are like strangers, full of distance and caution.
Then, ushered in the child's adolescent rebellion, and the mother-daughter relationship became more tense:
I want to be close to my daughter, but I am embarrassed to talk;
I want to educate my daughter, but I am angry;
Even if it goes against the heart and supports the early love of the daughter who is only in high school, in exchange for the dissatisfaction of the daughter.
From childhood to adulthood, Zhou Rong, who is willful of self, is considered to be smooth sailing, but everything she wants, she basically has it.
Only the relationship with her daughter left her helpless.
Zhou Rong thought:
For the sake of her daughter, she also died nine times;
For the sake of her daughter, she also stayed up all night;
For the sake of her daughter, she also had to work hard...
Zhou Rong was aggrieved, why did the daughter born to her be so incorruptible and so sad for her.
02
Zhou Rong's four "pigeon releases"
When I settle down Feng Huacheng, I will come to pick up Yue Yue...
When I graduate from college, I will take Yue Yue...
Wait until I graduate from graduate school to take Yue Yue...
When I return to my hometown, I will take Yue Yue...
Again and again, Yue Yue was waiting, and had long forgotten that she still had a home, a mother and a father.
From kindergarten, to elementary school, to junior high school, and then to high school, Yue Yue's side are uncles, aunts, brothers and brothers, and father and mother have become the most familiar strangers.
The damage that had been done had already been inflicted, and Yue Yue didn't seem to care, but in fact, she already had a complaint about her mother.
The perfunctory answer to her mother again and again, and the careless language again and again, is also a fierce revenge for Zhou Rong's "4 pigeon releases".
Zhou Rong did not know that the parent-child relationship was not good, and most education was in vain. If you want to repair the mother-daughter relationship, there is still a long way to go.
Education has never been an earth-shattering, weeping god's praise, nor is it an investment that will benefit you for life.
Education needs to be in the test of life, together with children, little by little to experience the taste of growth;
Education needs to be nourished by time, with children, a little bit to store each other's love.
Education needs to learn the path of mutual respect and mutual understanding with children in the run-in of contradictions.
A good parent-child relationship is the "booster" of good education.
03
Suitable parent-child relationship
Education trumps all else
How to enter the heart of the child and make you a parent who really understands the child?
How to reason with children, children will listen?
Ordinary parents often communicate directly with their children, and as a result, children not only can't listen to them, but also feel that their parents are wordy.
Experts suggest: "Parents are most effective at educating their children by chatting." Parents who can educate their children use the time of eating to talk about some problems and some truths. The child is very interested in the conversation of adults, he will understand a lot of truths, and our function will be played. ”
For example, many parents do not know how to make rules for their children?
"Smart parents are 'Zhuge Liang beforehand', not 'Zhuge Liang after the fact', and we teach our children to make three chapters of the law with their children in advance to prevent problems before they occur." Instead of waiting for the child to make a mistake, you go to scold him and then teach the child the rules. ”
Parent-child relationship is like a spiritual channel connecting children and parents, if the pipeline goes wrong, the child's soul will have no home, and education will have various problems.
A good parent-child relationship is the root of education and the underlying code that determines the happiness of a child's life.
04
Parental practice
It is the starting line for children
I have seen a saying: "What kind of parents there are, what kind of children will be there." ”
Deeply.
Children are a mirror for parents.
The family is the child's first school, and the parents are the child's first teachers. In the family school, every word and every move of the parents subtly affects the child.
A scholar once organized an event in which he invited dozens of parents who were troubled in educating their children, asked them to seriously consider the strengths and weaknesses of their own and their parents' personalities, and objectively list them on the note.
When people calm down and think seriously about this problem, they find that their temper and personality are surprisingly similar to those of their parents.
Looking back at your children, you seem to be facing your childhood bad self.
Parents are the children of the past, and children are the parents of the future.
You may not want to admit it, but in fact, the subtlety of family education is deep in the bones and blood, your children can not get rid of your influence, and their behavior will always hide your shadow.
Studies have shown that before the age of 18, the proportion of family education affects more than 60%, while school education accounts for only 30%, and the remaining less than 10% comes from social education.
Keigo Higashino wrote in "Shisheng" that everyone wants to be born in a good family, but we can't choose our parents, what kind of cards are given to you, you can only try to play it well.
Yes, we can't choose what kind of parents we have, but we can choose what kind of parents we want to be!
Raising children is never easy, and the only thing you need to insist on and do in this long practice is to be yourself and lead by example.
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