Zhou Rong went to France to chase her daughter, went for 12 years, never came back, and left Cai Xiaoguang alone at home, which made many people think that Zhou Rong was selfish and ruthless.
I used to think the same way, thinking that Zhou Rong was a person who only cared about herself and completely disregarded the feelings of others, which was too selfish, and Cai Xiaoguang was really not worth it.
In the original work, Cai Xiaoguang is a famous director, the dramas and TV series he directed can always be in line with the main theme, not only the provincial leaders and city leaders pay special attention to him and take good care of him, but the leaders of the troupe also respect him, lest they take good care of him.
Therefore, everyone calls him "Cai Jie Lord", that is, the absolute main theme director.
Cai Xiaoguang, who has become the absolute master, is already a cash cow of the drama troupe, and has long become the big name in the troupe.
He is also a principled person, a measured person, a person who is moralistic and emotional, coupled with the aura of a well-known director, and his reputation in the entertainment industry is very good, it is simply first-class. There are so many women who are willing to be "unspoken" by him and take the initiative to give hugs to him, so many that even he himself does not know how many.
In the face of the beauties who came before and after him, Cai Xiaoguang never moved his heart, and his heart always belonged to Zhou Rong.
Such a wonderful man, where to find, is simply the ideal of the world, But Zhou Rong does not know how to cherish, which is the reason why everyone thinks that Zhou Rong is selfish.
After watching Zhou Rong's life in France and understanding Cai Xiaoguang's drunken truth, I really understood why the author let Zhou Rong go to France for 12 years, throw Cai Xiaoguang alone in China, let him succeed, let him be lonely, and let him exude personality charm.
Let's not focus on how selfish Zhou Rong is, and don't think that Cai Xiaoguang is the ideal of the world.
What we really have to understand is that in the adult world, everyone has their own difficulties and their own last resorts. Beneath the seemingly selfish exterior, there is actually a great maternal heart. Under the aura of seemingly human ideals, there is a gray and dark human nature that can be understood but cannot be recognized.
Yue Yue and Nan Nan's feelings, Zhou Bingkun resolutely opposed, Zhou Rong also disagreed, Yue Yue could not think for a moment, ran to Beijing to see his father Feng Huacheng, originally just wanted to tell his father grievances and bitterness, but did not know what was affected, but he fled to France with his biological father.
Under such circumstances, how could Zhou Rong, as a mother, ignore her daughter and let her run to France, of course, to get her daughter back, which is what any mother would do.
What she did not expect was that although she had found her daughter, she encountered serious problems when applying for a visa to return home with her daughter, and the defense of the complaint had no effect, and they could only stay in France.
Although the problem of returning to China had been solved later, at that time they had already decided to let Yue Yue be admitted to a key college in France.
In the eyes of Chinese parents, children's schooling is the top priority, and they can make any sacrifice for their children, and Zhou Rong is no exception.
On the one hand, for the sake of her daughter's self-esteem, Yue Yue did not get a degree in France and did not have the face to return to China.
On the other hand, Yue Yue's academic performance in school is only in the middle and upper reaches, and she does not like to study learning methods, and she may not be able to enter a good school when she returns to China, and she may also be lost to Sun Shan, and the blow to her daughter will be devastating.
Moreover, in the 90s, it was also a boom period of going abroad, how many parents tried their best to send their children abroad, gilded, and after returning home, they had a turtle name, found a decent job, and lived a superior life.
The heart to consider her daughter overcame the urgency of wanting to return to China, and Zhou Rong went against her will and stayed in France.
Understand Zhou Rong's heart, you can understand her, she is not not love Cai Xiaoguang, nor do not want to return to China, but fish and bear paws can not have both, at the crossroads of her daughter's life, she must make a choice, staying in France is the choice she made.
This choice made her lose her comfortable life at home, and she could only live in a rented house without a fixed place to live abroad, this choice made her lose her decent associate professor job, and she could only work part-time abroad to maintain her and her daughter's life, this choice also made her lose the warm time with her relatives and lovers, and she could only rely on her daughter in a foreign country.
In this sense, Zhou Rong has lost more, but the role of mother is destined to choose to sacrifice herself and complete her daughter.
Cai Xiaoguang, who stayed in China, did not wait for Zhou Rong like a jade, his heart still belonged to Zhou Rong, but his body already belonged to other women, and it was not one woman, but four women.
In the eyes of everyone, he is the wronged party, and he feels worthless for waiting for Zhou Rong, so he tolerates his private life infinitely. And in the eyes of many people, he only has four women, and he has restrained himself very much, which is simply an ideal in the world.
Men can separate love from sex, but what about women, can they?
If the roles of Zhou Rong and Cai Xiaoguang are reversed, will everyone think that Cai Xiaoguang is selfish? Will you tolerate Zhou Rong?
I don't think so, everyone will think that Cai Xiaoguang going abroad is taken for granted, Zhou Rong really wants to find a lover, that is definitely a woman who is not tolerated by society and can be husbandd.
Why is this happening?
Because everyone's requirements for men and women are different, expectations are different, and tolerance is not the same.
Under the aura of human ideals, Cai Xiaoguang actually hides a gray and dark humanity that people cannot identify with, but he can be understood, because he is a man.
Zhou Rong has been abroad for 12 years, they still love each other, have their own lives and pursuits, and let us understand that the love of adults is not only enough to love each other, they have to take on the pressure of life, as well as each other's responsibilities.
In order to live, in order to carry the responsibilities on their shoulders, they must be separated, just like Zhou Zhigang and Su Hua, Zhou Bingyi and Hao Dongmei, they have their own responsibilities and obligations, they have not reduced their love for each other because of the separation of the two places.
So what sustains them, with each other in their hearts forever? Cai Xiaoguang's drunken mantra tells us the answer.
"She is my literary and artistic enlightener, and I started today by enjoying reading literary works, when her home was my Sanwei Bookstore, and she and his brother Bingyi were like my private school mr. We have long been spiritually connected, and we are inseparable spiritually. ”
Cai Xiaoguang and Zhou Rong are already soul mates, Cai Xiaoguang can understand why Zhou Rong can stay in France for 12 years, and Zhou Rong can also understand why Cai Xiaoguang has other women.
They understand each other and tolerate each other.
Zhou Rong returned from France, and Cai Xiaoguang hugged her like a newlywed Yan'er, and the two had no barriers.
Zhou Rong went to France for 12 years, the meaning of her going is not to tell us how selfish she is, but to let us understand: love can be a sea oath, a wind and snow moon, marriage must face chai rice oil and salt, face the responsibility on their shoulders.
Only a love marriage with a heart and a soul can truly understand each other and tolerate each other. Being able to join hands to face the hurdles of life will give you spiritual strength support even if I'm not around you.
Spiritual mutual support is sometimes stronger and more powerful than material support, and it can make the relationship between two people last for a long time and be together forever.