Revisiting "The World": Zhou Rong's words, a reminder to parents with adolescent children at home

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Preface

"Lately, I've been restless, because of my brother's affairs, and I'm actually very happy to think that he has nothing to do with me." But the thought that he was about to go away and fly high was particularly sad. ”

This was Yue Yue's mood recorded in her diary after she learned of Nan Nan's origins. It was during this time that her grades fell from first to last.

Many people scold yue yue for being ignorant and self-centered. However, a girl in the second grade, fourteen or fifteen years old, her world is really small, and Nan Nan is her dearest person.

Today, revisiting the drama "In the World", I still feel that Zhou Rong has merit in dealing with Yue Yue's feelings, and her words have given parents who have adolescent children at home a wake-up call.

Who is Yue Yue's dearest person?

Yue Yue once wrote in the essay "My Mother":

"My mom is Chinese New Year's Eve eight years old, and people think she's beautiful, but I think she's beautiful. My mother went to Guizhou in 1969 and worked there as a rural teacher for eight years. He was admitted to Peking University in 1978, finished his undergraduate studies with a master's degree, and is now the youngest associate professor in the Department of Chinese of Jiangliao University..."

When watching this paragraph, many viewers were puzzled: Yue Yue actually wrote "my mother", she should write "my little aunt". Some people even said that this girl was as selfish as her mother and did not know gratitude.

At first, I felt the same way.

Yue Yue exaggerated Zhou Rong like a flower, but Zhou Rong had been fostering her daughter in Zhou Bingkun and Zheng Juan's home for more than ten years, and she had not fulfilled her responsibility as a mother.

But did Yue Yue really write "My Mother" because she adored her mother and loved her mother?

No, it's because of low self-esteem.

Because of her low self-esteem, she wants to tell others that she also has a mother, and her mother is still very good.

To her brother-in-law and aunt, Yue Yue is grateful; to her biological parents, Yue Yue is strange; only for Nan Nan's brother who has accompanied her for more than ten years, is dependence and trust.

The companionship of parents is what children need most in the process of growing up.

Only by understanding can we influence

Yue Yue said that she died at the age of sixteen.

Hao Dongmei told her: You can't like NanNan, and liking Nannan is a betrayal of the little aunt's nurturing grace, that is, ruthlessness and selfishness.

Hao Dongmei is right, she is thinking for Zheng Juan, not for Zheng Juan.

But can a sixteen-year-old really understand the difficulties of adults?

No, you can't.

The first time, Zhou Rong, as a mother, walked into Yue Yue's heart because Zhou Rong and Hao Dongmei did not agree with each other.

Yue Yue's feelings for Nan Nan, Zhou Rong neither opposed nor supported, but only understood.

And when Nan Nan told Yue Yue that he should put his mind on studying and make every effort to prepare for the college entrance examination to sprint to Tsinghua, Zhou Rong said this to Yue Yue:

"Yue Yue, do ourselves." Specific to you, don't mention this, don't force him, don't force him to make either-or choices now. Forcing him like this will only drive him away. At the root of it, you can do it to abandon everything for him, but he is not you, because his mother is much better than your mother and me. So it's hard for you to understand his feelings for his mom. From my point of view, Nannan's reaction is normal. If he's not like that, he doesn't deserve you liking him. ”

Because of understanding, Zhou Rong listened to Yue Yue's voice; because of understanding, Zhou Rong accompanied Yue Yue to face, and then analyzed, and put forward her own opinions: first, think more for the other party; second, do yourself well.

And these words, Yue Yue really listened to her heart.

Teenage children, talk about the results too early, take the road in front of you is the truth.

Cliff side

Someone asked: Why did Yue Yue suddenly learn badly after Zhou Rong and Feng Huacheng divorced?

Don't listen to lectures, don't do homework, go out from school, and get worse and worse on exams until they count down.

Since she was raised by her parents in her uncle's house, Yue Yue's heart is inferior, but when she remembers her mother's courage to bravely pursue love, she gives Yue Yue great encouragement. Having such deep love and excellent parents was once Yue Yue's only pride. But now, the divorce of parents, even the existence of Yue Yue, has become a joke.

Yue Yue's spiritual world collapsed.

I once saw such a news: a 16-year-old child had an argument with his parents because of early love. After losing control of his emotions, he swallowed sleeping pills in a gambling breath, but fortunately he found out in time that there was no danger to his life.

This reminds me of Zhou Rong's use of the word "afraid" when describing her relationship with Yue Yue.

Many people hated that Zhou Rong went to find Zheng Juan and went to find Nan Nan, but at that time, only Nan Nan could pull Yue Yue.

I think Zhou Rong is right, it is the instinct of a mother who loves her daughter and does not want to see her daughter fall.

The spiritual pillar of an adolescent child may be a home, or a person... Whatever it is, it cannot be ignored.

Write at the end

Some psychologists say that parents should truly feel the emotions of adolescence with their children.

Deeply.

Adolescent children, some rebel in confusion, some wandering in troubles, some squander their short youth, and some turn their obsessions into strength and compose a brilliant life... The reason for the different results is that the parental support plays a crucial role.

Yue Yue is happy, she has relatives who love her, there is a mother who is eager to make up for missing her growth, and there is a sensible Nannan brother who encourages her all the way.

And in the end, these all turned into the strength she grew up to support the mountains, face setbacks, and walk alone.

Gentle and firm.

Today's topic: Yue Yue likes Nan Nan that thing, what do you think of Zhou Rong's handling? Welcome to leave a message to discuss.

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Author: Suzune Qinxin; every life is worthy of being cherished!