It is said that men are teenagers until death, why can't women die to be girls?
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Kang Kang felt very unfair eh~
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"When you are a mother, you are not a mother"
I want to ask what is a mother?
30+ years old, is a 2-year-old baby's mother, what kind of portrait will you form in your mind?
Recently, I encountered a very unpleasant thing, although it did not affect me much, but it was not happy.
A few days ago, I painted a tear mole makeup, painted big red lips, and paired it with the now popular overseas style suit, thinking that I was beautiful and sassy, and happily took my daughter out.
When I met the neighbor's aunt, she greeted me from a distance, approached and praised me for being beautiful! Remember when she asked me what was under my eyes? To help me get rid of it, I said it was a special sequin, it was a small decoration, there was no need to get it off, she smiled awkwardly at the time, and I didn't think much about it and left.
Unexpectedly, after a few days, the whole building was full of crazy words about me" "Don't tune, when you are a mother, you are not a mother"...
It felt like eating a fly, disgusting, but I couldn't vomit it, it was really unbearable to die!
I want to ask: What is the mother?
Lead your child out of the house and never dress up like a mom?
Is it a mother to sort out the housework at home and work hard?
Or do you circle around your husband and children every day, and don't spend more money for yourself?
I don't understand, in 2022, why do anyone still have such thoughts, and the main force of the spread of these words is still women.
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As netizens said: the feudal system has long been abolished, but there are still people who are ideologically wrapped in shrouds.
Fortunately, now is not the feudal society of the past, rumors will not force a woman to die, more and more women jump out, not afraid of rumors, I do my own thing, and live a good life.
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Contemporary Mom: A teenage girl until death
Why can't a woman be a teenage girl until she dies?
Isn't a married woman no longer herself? Don't women who have children deserve their own names? Can't a married woman have her own hobbies and interests?
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哦NO~
Women don't get married to be mothers, to be free nannies!
Contemporary women, all choices should start from the heart, marriage should not become a shackle that binds the self, so that women will gradually lose themselves after marriage.
How terrible it is to lose yourself, just like Luo Zijun in "The First Half of My Life", who obviously graduated from the same famous school, became a full-time wife after marrying her husband, and finally was promoted to the throne by the third child and divorced.
The most terrible thing about this is not divorce, but that after marriage, she gradually loses herself, is out of touch with society for a long time, and becomes a person who even hates herself without knowing it.
After the divorce, she slowly regained herself, not only did her career improve, but even the elite male congratulatory letters also moved her heart.
It can be seen how important it is for a woman to maintain herself after marriage!
And the key to maintaining oneself is to have: a woman to death is a girl's life creed.
The "girl" here is not a superficial appearance illusion, but has the vitality, freedom and strong curiosity of a girl, and is the beauty of self-confidence from the inside out.
In real life, there are actually many such women, not to mention those stars, and some Internet celebrities, there are not a few people around them.
College classmate Chen Xiaoxiao is such a girl, she not only became more beautiful and dressed up after marriage, but her figure was still very hot after giving birth, and she could not see bloated at all.
Suck cats, tease dogs, flower shops, everything comes according to her own wishes, her husband has always loved her very much, and her little life has a taste
She often said that she should always be a girl, do what she wants to do, and live her life as she wants!
As it turned out, she was right. Women have to live well, and if they want to be loved, they must first be extremely self-loving.
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Being a girl is an attitude
Saying that women after 30+ are teenage girls and have a girlish feeling, many people have mixed reviews for this. There are envy, praise, and some say that the hard concave does not conform to the state of actual age, which is a pathological aesthetic.
In fact, in addition to appearance, the word "girl" also represents an attitude. A woman's attitude of following her heart and living the life she wants at all times.
@Women 30+
As long as the wrinkles do not grow in the heart, we will always be prosperous, why worry about age, there is no point in how to be a sister, now the sister goes out, not than the bag, not than the table, it is younger than the younger brother who brought it~
@ The woman who does not accept to lose
Women who do not accept defeat are the luckiest! There is courage to look up, and there is confidence in looking down. We have both rivers and lakes that can be inhabited everywhere, and there are also xiao yong who chase the wind and chase dreams!
@Swallow
I think the best state of a woman is: her eyes are full of stories, but her face is not frosty, she wears a light makeup every day, wears clothes she likes, does not envy anyone, does not laugh at anyone, does not rely on anyone, just quietly works hard, quietly loves herself.
@Lily
The best state of a woman is: copy the beer bottle, also get the wine glass, can wear flat shoes, and is not afraid of high heels, I pour everything when I pay, and I don't leak when I take it back!
@Zi Xin
I don't belong to anyone, I am who I am! I don't have anyone, I don't expect surprises, I just want to live a good life, this journey is high and the road is long, I keep it to myself.
I like the state of Qin Lan in "Woman 30+", she said: 60 years old can also meet love, don't think you are not worthy.
She believes in love, but never will! She thinks that the person who accompanies her the longest in her life is herself, and she should be better to herself.
Deeply agreed. I once heard a saying that women begin to wither not at a certain age, or after doing a so-called life event, but when they lose their curiosity.
Lose curiosity and your mind will be imprisoned, which is terrible.
Therefore, a woman should be a girl until she dies! Keep free, keep yourself, keep self-confidence, don't seek fame and leave history, but seek to be worthy of yourself
Well-off jun bar boo
What state do you think a woman is best looking like? Will encountering some gossip in your life affect you? After becoming a mother, did you lose yourself?
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