When the child grows up, he will start a family and start to live an independent life.
However, formal independence does not mean that the child is also financially independent. After marriage, there are not a few who still need financial help from their parents.
In fact, this situation can be understood, if the child goes to college, after graduation, he will be more than twenty years old, and soon enter the stage of marriage and children, and at this time, the number of years they have worked is not much, whether it is the ability to work or the accumulation of wealth, it may not reach the level of being able to support a family, and it is reasonable for parents to help at this time.
But ordinary people generally have a tendency to improve: children will not be completely dependent on their parents, they are also working hard, and their abilities are getting stronger and stronger, and they will slowly completely separate from their parents' help.
However, there is a "child" who is still at home until the age of 35, and in desperation, the 60-year-old father takes him out to find a job...
Part.01
The 60-year-old father took his 35-year-old son out to find a job.
Rejected by the electronics factory...
Recently, Xiao Kangjun brushed up on a video of a white-haired old man standing on the side of the road in very old clothes on the side of the road; behind him stood a man in his thirties, carrying a large denim bag, and his hair was quite white. The man stood behind the old father with his head bowed and did not say a word.
It turned out that it was a father and son, and the father took his son out to find a job. The father is 60 years old and the son is 35 years old. The son dropped out of school at home from junior high school and has been supported by his parents. As for the parents, they feel that the child is still young, so they are not in a hurry to let him go out to work.
My son grew older every year, but he still didn't bother to go out to work, and the more he stayed at home, the less he wanted to go out. At the age of 35, his father felt that he could not continue to drag on like this, and he had to be allowed to work, so there was a scene where the father took his son out to find a job.
However, he has no education, no technology, and the work he can do is very limited. His father took him to the electronics factory and wanted him to work there as an ordinary worker, but he was refused.
Because during the interview, all communication was replaced by the father, and the only idea he expressed was: don't go, don't go.
Therefore, even this job is very simple, he was turned away...
After this incident, some people accused the son of being too lazy and too unmotivated, and some people accused the father of doting on the child so much that it led to today's situation, and the son was even more pitiful than the father.
There are also netizens who comment that there are also such examples around them.
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Nibbling on the old is not an uncommon phenomenon in modern society, and behind it, it reflects many problems.
Part.02
Internal and external factors work together,
Forming a nibbling old family...
Xiao Kangjun has a typical case of nibbling on the old, and his situation is also the epitome of many young people.
There was a family whose father was a mechanic with a higher salary, and whose son studied moderately and attended a technical school after graduating from high school. After graduation, he first went to the south to work, and then due to limited ability, low salary, and poor food and housing, he returned to his hometown and worked in a factory near his home, with a salary of less than three thousand yuan.
Soon, the son got married, had children, lived in the house that his parents had bought in full, and his wife had no job, and had just given birth to a baby, so he had to stay at home. The meager salary makes it difficult to cover the cost of living, and their parents have to give them money every month.
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Although the father's salary is not low, but he is old and about to retire, in terms of work, he can't see the hope of his son, full of disappointment and worry.
In fact, there are many reasons for the emergence of the old people, both personal reasons and family and social reasons.
From an individual point of view, it is not excluded that some people are lazy in life, get by and get by, such people are neither willing to work, nor are they easy to be accepted by employers, so they can only nibble on the old, but such people belong to the minority after all.
More nibbling on the elderly is due to family reasons. If parents do not pay attention to cultivating their children's ability to survive independently, it is really possible to cultivate their children to become "nibbling on the old people", and when the children have to make a living alone, it will be too late to regret it.
From a social point of view, the pressure on young people is indeed very large: the cost of living is high, the work requirements are high, the social competition is fierce, and young people face the dual pressure of buying a house and raising children, often feeling physically and mentally exhausted, and some people want to escape in this state, hiding at home and eating the old.
Therefore, if you want your child to "nibble on the old family" in the future, parents should pay attention to cultivating his ability to survive independently when the child is young, so that the child will be more powerful when he goes to society alone.
Part.03
Give the child a pair of solid wings,
In order to make him fearless of the wind and waves...
When the child is young, parents should think that one day the child will leave his warm embrace and soar alone in the vast sky.
The best love for a child is not to hide in the warm harbor of his parents for a long time, but to stimulate his curiosity about the free sky of the outside world, and to give him the courage to pursue his ideals and the strength to ride the wind and waves.
How should this be done? Parents need to pay attention to the following aspects:
● Cultivate children's autonomy, encourage children to try boldly, and guide carefully, so that children can accumulate experience and experience a sense of achievement.
● Respect children's ideas and cultivate children's sense of ownership.
● Do not give up self-learning, let children understand that parents are not omnipotent, if you want to live a happy life, you must make efforts.
● Cultivate children's ability to communicate with people and good minds, take children to participate in various social activities, and encourage children to read more and think more.
Well-off jun bar boo
The warm embrace of parents can temporarily hide and give yourself comfort and strength, but you can't use this place as an eternal haven.
Because parents will also have an old day, when their strength is no longer there, can we, as children, shield them from the wind and rain?
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