When I went to a friend's house as a guest, Xiao Kangjun saw such a thing: the friend made a dish of fried beef with green peppers, and when eating, the children at home specially picked up the beef inside to eat, and after a while, the green peppers on the plate were left. When the child is full and goes to play, grandma pours all the remaining green peppers into her bowl and eats them.
Xiao Kangjun felt inappropriate, so he gently mentioned it to his friend after the meal, but the friend said: It's okay, she wants to eat whatever she wants, anyway, the rest of the grandmother will eat, and there is no waste.
this...... Xiao Kangjun didn't know what to say.
This phenomenon exists in many families with children: children only pick up the most delicious part to eat. For example, in the melon that has recently been listed, some children only eat the sweetest part of the melon; when eating chicken, preemptively occupy the chicken wings or chicken legs; when eating strawberries, only bite on the tip and throw it back into the plate.
Especially the fact that children only eat strawberry tips, many netizens have experienced...
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Mother shouts to future daughter-in-law:
Don't make my son eat strawberry farts!
The strawberry tip is the most delicious part of strawberries, and when eating strawberries, the first bite tastes the most perfect
Therefore, some babies only eat strawberries with sharp tips, and the rest of the strawberries are for others to eat.
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In addition to the choice of the baby's own taste, some parents have a great influence on the problem of eating strawberry tips.
For example, between husband and wife, they will occasionally play a "strawberry pointy romance". The beloved party eats a bite of sweet strawberry tip, and then gives the strawberry fart to the person who is willing to spoil him, one is willing to beat one wish, that is the sweetness of love alone.
After the child sees it, he may learn the pattern: Wow, it turns out that strawberries can still be eaten like this!
Especially in some families with daughters, parents feel that girls should be pampered, so they support their daughters to eat only strawberry tips.
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In the eyes of some parents, girls only eat strawberry tips, not only to enjoy the delicious, but also to show that they have the strength of "only eating strawberry tips", because they are loved and pampered, and they are willing to eat strawberry farts, so that they can enjoy strawberry tips with peace of mind!
So they teach their children from a young age that they eat strawberries only with the tip, and boys who love you must be willing to eat your remaining strawberry farts.
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What about families with boys? Are you willing to let your child eat strawberry farts? Not necessarily!
Before that, there were mothers and sisters who took turns shouting: Strawberry fart for my children to eat? There are no doors.
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You are also "growing up eating strawberries with sharp tips", and I am also "growing up eating strawberries with sharp tips", and I think that I am the one who should be most favored, but have parents who cultivate their children in this way ever thought: Is it really good to do this? A child who eats only strawberry tips is a real princess or prince?
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When the child only eats strawberry spikes,
How should parents guide?
Parents only let their children eat strawberry tips, and even think that who eats strawberries spikes has become the core of the future family status dispute, which is a big mistake.
Eating strawberries and only eating the tip is not only a waste of food, but more frighteningly, such a grown-up child is prone to form a selfish and domineering personality, self-centered in everything, feel that good things should be their own, and do not know how to share and care for others.
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Moreover, the status of "being favored" is not conducive to children, in the end, being favored is still the work of people, so that the initiative is in the hands of others, is such a family status really high?
Therefore, parents should not take the initiative to let their children only eat strawberries with the tip, if the strawberries are too sour, you can choose better varieties, and eat the strawberries cleanly?
There are also many children who do not want to eat strawberry farts and feel that strawberries are sour, so they only eat the sweetest parts of the above.
Similar behaviors include: eating buns only eating stuffing and leaving the skin leftovers, picking and choosing on the plate when eating vegetables and always sandwiching their favorite foods, refusing to share them with their families when eating snacks...
However, we can't rely on these phenomena alone to show that children are selfish and domineering, which is actually quite normal.
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As the child grows up, the sense of independent choice is also slowly formed, seeking advantages and avoiding harm, choosing the best for themselves, this is the nature of human beings, parents should guide them to understand on the basis of understanding the child: Sometimes it is not right to do this.
How to guide it?
Let your child know the rules
Parents usually need to establish their children's sense of rules, so that the baby can clearly understand that some things belong to themselves, some things belong to others, and they can only enjoy the part they have.
For example, buy back a bag of strawberries, make it clear to your baby that everyone in the family can only eat 5 strawberries, and clearly tell your baby that "these are your 5."
Don't force your child to share
After the baby has a sense of property rights, he is very strict about his own things, and does not allow others to touch them, which is a normal reaction, and parents should respect the child's wishes and let the child understand that what belongs to him will not disappear.
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Similarly, if something belongs to someone else or belongs to everyone, let the child know that he only has partial ownership of these items, so he cannot arbitrarily pick only his favorite parts from them, but should take care of the feelings of others.
Praise the children a lot
When the baby eats one of his own food clean, or does not pick and choose in the dish, parents can praise the child, let the child get satisfaction in his heart, understand that this behavior is recognized, and solidify the child's thinking.
Well-off jun bar boo
Children are growing up and should eat something good, while some foods are more expensive and the amount of preparation will not be too much, so many parents will feel that there is no problem in letting their children "eat alone".
Occasionally this is okay, but let the child understand that he does not deserve special treatment, but because his parents care for him, give him food to eat, and cultivate the child's sense of gratitude. However, this is not recommended in the long term.
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