Chinese There is an idiom called "fairy tale without scruples", which brilliantly summarizes the characteristics of children's speech.
Xiao Kangjun has experienced such a situation. That time with the baby to go to a relative's children to play, his father was not at home, he casually asked: Daddy is out? The child immediately pointed at Tintin and said: My father is always inflamed here, it stinks! I'm going to go to the hospital and cut it!
A sip of tea in the child's mother's mouth almost squirted out, and Xiao Kangjun was also embarrassed not to do it, and quickly said: "Oh, your curtains are so beautiful, where did you buy it?" (Obviously, I have been here many times, and I have seen it before...) ）
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There are definitely more than one or two people who have had this experience. Every word and deed of parents, children see in the eyes, remember in the heart, sometimes coldly in front of others to give you a big revelation, minutes to create a "disaster scene" ...
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"Husband, can you do it,
I haven't turned in my homework in a month..."
When I heard the child shout "Daddy" and "Mommy" for the first time, the mood was as excited as the first time I met him! After this, the baby can communicate with us.
However, don't be too happy too soon, from now on your "freedom to speak" may be limited, because children can "learn the tongue"
Let's see the famous scenes of those children learning their tongues!
The father is righteously educating his son: Why don't you turn in your homework? Who did you learn from or not turn in your homework?
Children are not to be outdone: didn't they learn from you? I listen to my mother shout every day: Husband, can you do it, you haven't turned in your homework for a month, have you handed it in? ......
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Oh my God, there are still guests next to it, which is also too embarrassing!
Equally embarrassing was mom.
This little cute baby is calling her grandmother with a milky voice and telling her mother's complaint:
As soon as it was time to go to bed, my mother saw that I was asleep, and they began to talk. My mom said, "Come on my nest!" My dad said, "Don't wake up the child, can't we wake up?" ”
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this...... I guess Grandma doesn't know how to make a speech, right?
So, moms and dads, don't think that the child doesn't know anything when he is asleep, in case he wakes up quietly, the words and things you say and do can't escape the child's ears and eyes
The child is embarrassed to himself is actually fine, if the embarrassment to others, it is estimated that the embarrassment will be magnified countless times...
Next to the little boy sat a beautiful woman, who was in good shape, but the child did not understand, so he said something shocking: "Auntie's ass has grown to the front!" ”
Aaaah, this... But beautiful women can still calmly play with balloons, not angry, and their hearts and upbringing are really worthy of praise
The "embarrassment" caused by fairy tales is only temporary, and most people can understand it, which can be said to be harmless, but sometimes children say "should not say" words, which may cause very bad consequences.
There was a mom who shared something like this. This mother especially dislikes her in-laws going to live at home, and often complains to her son, and as a result, her son also learns.
Once the son heard his father-in-law say that he would go to his house after this busy period, he immediately said: "Grandpa, don't go to live, your mother hates you!" As a result, after the beating, the father-in-law did not go to live, but the husband deeply blamed himself and affected the quality of his marriage.
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Sometimes, unguarded children casually "expose" the family situation outside, which can be dangerous if heard or spoken by people with hearts.
Therefore, in the face of children's "fairy tales", we need to guide slowly.
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Fairy tales can be unscrupulous,
But don't forget to cultivate your child's self-cultivation...
Children's fairy tales are unscrupulous, often can make people amused, and sometimes make parents cry and laugh, and even get angry. But we parents must understand: whether it makes you laugh or make you angry, the child is unintentional, and must not be angry with the child because of this.
When children are three or four years old, it is a period of rapid growth in language ability, during this period, children are willing to express, often eager to say their own ideas, but because of the lack of a thorough understanding of the deep meaning of the sentence, coupled with the lack of understanding of the etiquette of speaking, so often "amazing speech".
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We can encourage children to say imaginative and poetic fairy tales, but when children's words are really inappropriate, we should slowly let children understand what should be said and what should not be said.
Parents can guide their children from the following aspects:
Know how to respect others when you speak
We need to let children understand that some words will hurt others, such as "fat", "ugly", "poor", "stupid", etc., to let the baby understand that these words are insulting, so that others, others will feel very angry, sad.
This kind of language etiquette education can be carried out in daily life, such as hearing and seeing similar scenes, and teaching the baby how to speak in a timely manner is correct. In addition, the language environment of some cartoons is not pure enough, and we must help the baby to distinguish and let the baby avoid these cartoons.
Remind your child to protect family privacy
In addition to not hurting others, we must also pay attention to reminding the baby to protect their privacy, and cannot casually disclose their home information to strangers, including their own home address, what work their parents do, and so on.
In addition, you can't publicize the privacy of yourself and your parents' bodies, let alone talk about other people's private parts.
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Lead by example, don't talk about people behind your back
Parents think that children do not understand anything, but the child's intelligence is often beyond our imagination, so parents should have a choice in speaking in front of their children, do not say bad things about others, especially some bad words from acquaintances or relatives, and do not judge others.
Parents are the best teachers of children, in addition to not saying bad things about people, usually pay attention to in front of children, words can not be rude, do not say dirty words, not always complain, complain, otherwise the child's language and emotions will have a negative impact.
As the saying goes: phase is born from the heart, in fact, language is also born from the heart, if a person is always speaking harshly to others, it is difficult to say that his heart is kind and gentle. And good language will also affect people's hearts, so that the heart to develop in a positive direction.
Well-off jun bar boo
In the fairy tale "The Emperor's New Clothes", the child's fairy tales are unscrupulous, revealing the truth of facts, and the words of children are often the most true.
However, we must retain this truth, but also can not let this truth hurt ourselves or others, in the end what should be done, we need parents to bother to operate.
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