It is said that the daughter is the intimate little cotton jacket of the parents, sensible and filial piety, and the parents also love the daughter in every way, lest she be wronged.
But there is a father who cut his daughter because she refused to buy a house for her son.
Afterwards, the father did not feel the slightest guilt about his deceased daughter, and the only worry was what his son would do after he was sentenced...
Because I don't want to buy a house for my brother,
The woman was cut to death by her father in her sleep!
This is an old case that occurred in 2002, and to this day, it still pokes at the hearts of many people.
Zhao was born in Shandong and was his parents' first child. Although she was the first child in the family, her birth did not make her parents happy. Because what parents expect and desire is a son who can pass on the generations.
When she was 2 years old, her brother was born. The parents were very happy, and when they walked in the village, their waist poles were straight. Whatever the younger brother wants, the parents will be satisfied, but for her, it is quite the opposite, and it is expensive to read a book.
Like many rural parents, Father Zhao feels that it is useless for girls to study, sooner or later they are from someone else's family, it is better to go out to work early to earn money. Therefore, Zhao's father decided to let his daughter quit school and go out to work.
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The daughter knew that she could only go out of the countryside by reading, so she begged bitterly, hoping that her father could give her a chance to read, but Zhao's father had already made up his mind. Later, I don't know who to listen to, high education makes more money. In order to maximize the benefits, Zhao Father decided to let her study.
She was also very competitive, and her grades were always among the best, and she was later admitted to Nankai University. During college, she applied for scholarships, worked part-time, and sent the rest to her home except for the most basic living expenses.
After graduating from undergraduate, she studied graduate school and doctorate, during which Time, Zhao got married and had children (paying money to the family on a monthly basis, Zhao Father directly wanted it when he needed it), and her husband was good to her.
Later, because her son needed a house for marriage, Zhao's father asked her to buy a house for her brother in the local urban area. Zhao Mou refused, and the son-in-law was also there at the time, and he who had long been dissatisfied with his father-in-law directly said: We have given you a lot over the years, what about you? What have you done for us?
On the night of the quarrel, Father Zhao took an axe and cut off his daughter and son-in-law who were staying at his mother's house...
Some netizens said that it is difficult to define whether he is a good father or a bad father. Say yes to him, he was so cruel to his daughter, as if he were not his own; to say no, he was devoted to his son, and when he was dying, he was still thinking about his son.
But in fact, everyone has ignored a problem, that is, the parents who prefer sons to daughters, love only themselves, and only think about passing on the generations.
Patriarchal parents,
Love not the child but yourself!
In families with both children and daughters, some parents always have this idea: give the bride price when the daughter is married to the son to marry the daughter-in-law, or the property to the son, and the pension to the daughter.
In order to make their daughters give wholeheartedly, they will instill this idea in their children from an early age, so that their daughters will become "brother demons" or "brother demons".
But parents don't know that this will ruin their children. Because under this kind of education, most of the following two types of children will be educated:
01
The daughter's marriage is not happy, and the son is not out
One is to successfully "brainwash" her daughter and make her willing to pay for her brother and brother. It is okay before marriage, but it is still like this after marriage, most of them are unhappy, and even end up in a situation of divorce. Because people's ambitions are getting bigger and bigger, in order to meet the needs of their parents, daughters can only continue to subsidize their mother's family.
When the sons-in-law are not wronged and cannot accept it, this day will not go on unless the wife is no longer unrestrained to supplement the mother's family. But at this stage, there are very few women who wake up, and most of them will accuse their husbands of ruining her relationship with her mother's family.
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And most of the sons who are educated by this kind of original family are not out. Those who have a job will not let their parents "suck blood" and their sisters and sisters will subsidize themselves. This type of education is typical of "habitual children like killing children"!
02
Relations between children are strained
There is also a situation that has not successfully "brainwashed" the daughter, who is independent in her thinking and is unwilling to be a "brother demon" or a "brother demon". The encounter of being treated unfairly by the preference for sons and daughters from an early age will cause a gap between daughters and brothers and brothers.
This is like the company's employees, A than B has high working ability and strong communication skills, while B fishes for three days and drys the net for two days. However, leaders who are promoted and raised are all given B, and they are also allocated cars and houses. After a long time, A is naturally unhappy, and he is also envious and jealous of B: why do you give me dirty work, promotion and salary increase to him? It's not fair!!!
From A's point of view, even if he knows that all this is the decision of the leadership, B has done nothing, and he will inevitably be estranged from B. Because B, as a vested interest, has already made his attitude clear when he silently accepts everything.
Some people may think that the example given by Xiao Kangjun is inappropriate, but this is the case.
There is a delicate competitive relationship between children, and if the parents are not impartial, then they will also love each other. If the parents are too oblique in a bowl of water, the children will also have a grudge between them.
Therefore, many conflicts between children are actually caused by parents. If you really want your children to love each other in a hundred years, the best thing to do is to level a bowl of water.
Parents need to realize that a bowl of water is the fullest when it is flat, and once tilted, it is not good for anyone.
With the increase of age, Xiao Kangjun has also seen many brothers and sisters quarrel over the pension problem of their parents, and one of the scenes cannot be forgotten for a long time.
A middle-aged man in his forties and fifties, unwilling to give his parents a pension, said when he accused his parents, they gave the best to their brothers since they were young, but they were very harsh on him, he did not understand, why are they sons, parents should be treated differently!
It is not difficult to see from his words that even if he has become a father, the harm brought to him by his parents' eccentricity is still there. (By law, he must support his parents.)
This also reminds parents that if they are impartial, the hearts of the whole family will be in one place, and this day will be better and better.
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