I met a girl in the background who asked for a squirt, which is really a typical little trickster.
Today I will tell you what it is like to be young and young, and I will not be polite when I spray. Because what I say is the big truth, and the big truth has no other characteristics, that is, it is ugly.
The girl said to me: "Teacher, I met a man on a blind date, the conditions always have to feel inferior to me, about me three times I did not go out to delete me, really angry at me!" ”
"But I have something to do, he suddenly said to call me out, I have to wear makeup for at least two hours, I refused, the second time I said to watch a movie but he did not buy a good ticket, ah, and then because the weather is just not good I said I want to count, the next day found that he deleted me, I really think more and more uncomfortable! Is it my fault?"
Come, I translate it: the conditions of the blind date man are not as good as me, repeatedly asked me three times I am not willing to appreciate the face, even dare to delete me?! Big Guts! Come and scold this careful-eyed Puxin man!
There are many girls in this world who are very self-conscious, always think that they understand, understand everything, and say that they are from an objective point of view to narrate things, in fact, full of self-superiority.
I answered a question a few days ago, the subject is also, crooked and oblique each sentence is written with four words of benevolence and morality, I carefully looked at the middle of the night, only to see this meaning from the cracks of the words:
"I am the princess, how can you not kneel and serve the princess!" I lose my temper how can you not coax me! How can you not understand me when I am not happy! How can you not guess what I am thinking when I am not saying anything! You obviously don't love me enough, ahem, man! ”
Please, usually watch less brainless love dramas, brush less chicken soup short videos, and open your eyes to see the reality.
In today's society, everyone is a brick mover, I am tired to death after work, you give me a whole three thousand words of psychological activity, I am a straight man, not a confidant sister, why should I go to see what you really think in your heart, I see the result.
The result is: I know one person on a blind date, I can't make an appointment three times, and I have a small temper tantrum, do I have so much effort to study female psychology, why don't I keep you in black!?
A little princess like you, a rough dog like me, really can't control it. Deleting you is also responsible for you, and even more responsible for yourself.
What is the kiss, with the pure purpose of finding an object and contact with the opposite sex, but as long as you are willing to contact me, it means that you are willing to deal with me, if you ask you to shirk several times, I understand what it means, you rejected me, I am interested in deleting you, this is not a pure and good man, I did not raise you as a fish, is not there a sense of public morality?
To be honest, the current straight man, especially to go on a blind date, his personality may not be able to coax girls, and it is not easy to take the initiative to date you. Now many boys will not chase girls, can take the initiative of people have been considered sincere, but many girls do not take this as sincerity, as a matter of course.
Times have changed long ago, men chasing women is not a matter of course, everyone cherishes their feathers and self-esteem is a matter of course.
If you say that such a man can not find a partner, have come to the blind date and do not hurry to rivet enough to chase, that is not such a reason, like will be riveted enough to kneel and lick, do not like it is the polite approach of the blind date market.
Today's incident is obviously that the girl feels that she is being compatible downwards, unwillingly, using the boy as a spare tire, thinking that he should ask you out a few more times, take the initiative to accommodate you a few times, and you will give a little face to go out.
Just like the star who plays the big name, he only shows his face after three urges and four requests, and he appears to have a high frame and is valuable.
Do you think that girls should be spoiled, sought after, especially girls who feel that the conditions are still good, think that men should come to lick you, but I tell you, men and women have been equal for many years, feelings are equal, and now girls chase boys, more than boys chase girls, your arrogant attitude, put in the marriage market, people eat meat you can't even mix with soup.
Because you don't know what you want, don't know what your goals are, what kind of man you want to find to meet your needs, you always just like the feeling of being held, who praises you who you like.
Today this boy if you are crazy to kneel and lick you, you complain on your lips but the heart soon fell, picky and picky about this boy, but the heart is more and more dependent on people, which day people do not take the initiative to call you about you, you will start to be unbalanced, psychological drumming, stomach hanging, suspect that people have spare tires, all kinds of insomnia until dawn, belongs to be completely pinched by others, and finally when people dump you, you still have to ask bitterly: Before you were so good to me, how did it become like this now? Did I do something wrong?
You do something wrong from the beginning, you meet people you like will not take the initiative to chase, waiting for what you can't see, which day you find that the people you don't look at suddenly delete you first, super unbalanced in your heart.
You want to pull everyone to criticize this person who doesn't take you seriously, you want to seek some sense of identity, but the crowd doesn't buy your account, and seeing through your so-called "hope to be respected" statement at a glance is just an excuse for your own arrogance and selfishness.
I don't know if you have not been beaten by society, or have not seriously talked about love, blind guessing is that there is not much emotional experience, especially will not think about others, fart big and small things will make people relocate you.
They are all out on a blind date, why should the boys accommodate you?
Some people may say that boys like girls and chase girls, which is more in itself, so they have to accommodate the girl's small emotions and small temperament, but the problem is that the boy on the blind date has chatted a few words on the Internet, how much will he like you?
Are you confused about the situation? Think you're being violently pursued? Or do you think they've already talked to you?
The boy must also have that capital, and the boy likes you enough and invests enough in you before you can hold him. Blind date man only, he did not scold you for a burst of capriciousness is not bad, just delete your WeChat is not happy?
Then you are also too naïve, seeing that you have not experienced any serious emotional setbacks, and the fantasy of men is still at the level of idol drama, or the level of early campus love, which is not grounded at all.
Your personal cognition of men and feelings is also very ancient, and now it is not popular who chases whom, and feelings are not essential for everyone, so men are not so persistent about feelings, and several times girls will give up without responding.
And now it is not popular to raise many spare tires, people's requirements for feelings are getting higher, and they hope that falling in love can improve efficiency and accurate sniper.
Especially mature people, more yearning for high-quality love, you can't even do it, he doesn't want to keep you WeChat, withdraw early, don't spend useless energy to contact with people who are not suitable for themselves, it is not necessary to be friends, because you can't get anything useful, this is called breaking away, reducing useless social networking.
There are also girls who like boys, they will catch and not let go, and grasp the initiative of feelings.
Unfortunately, there are still many girls, she has eaten so many years of rice, her thoughts have not grown at all, some are more than thirty years old to find objects, but also take the standards of teenagers to compare, when you are a teenager, the boys around you are stupid, you can use all your energy to chase people, but when you are in your thirties, boys have a lot of investment in their entire lives, feelings only account for a part, blind dates have to take the time to work overtime, in a busy time, he can't go to see the small composition sent by girls, and it is impossible to speculate on girls' thoughts.
He will judge whether the girl has the heart to pay for herself through the results of the girl's behavior, and if there is no little to pay, and there is a temper, then it is directly goodbye.
Here I also want to talk about this part of the girls, why do you want to continue to pry? Why should we pull at the limit in the occasion of blind date to seek efficiency? Still feel like you're giving guys a chance, do you really know what kind of boyfriend you want?
If you can't be sure of these issues, you'll never be able to be serious about a relationship, you'll always be on the road looking for it, and you'll lose control of the relationship altogether.
Just like you are today, you think that the six of your routine play seems to be domesticating a man, teaching him step by step how to respect you, how to guess your thoughts, in fact, you are the one who was killed in your feelings, when people are interested in you, you are a guest, when people are not interested in you, you can't even touch the edge of people's address book, directly block you and delete it.
If someone had taught you this earlier, maybe you wouldn't have asked this question today, but obviously, some adults are like children, eating things that they don't think are delicious, and they have to say that this is not delicious, otherwise they will be so angry that they can't swallow this breath.
However, I think that girls can take out their own questions and ask, indicating that they are also slightly aware that their behavior and ideas may not be suitable for all straight men, and want to seek some other voices on the Internet.
But whether you can accept all these real voices is another matter.
I hope that girls who have such ideas, when they go out on a blind date, be realistic, want to see the conditions of the conditions, want to find the feeling of feeling, do not feel it, and do not feel that when they are going to be there, others should hold you.
In the future, if you are still like this, you will inevitably continue to suffer losses, understand?
Psychological test: Test the sentence your ex most wants to say to you
1. Do you argue over small things when you're together?
Yes, I often feel tired —2
Rarely quarrel over small things—2
Occasionally, but soon reconciled —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to self-reflect and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes —3
Not —4
3. Will he or she take the initiative to tell you his troubles?
It is often said that -5
Not much to say —4
4. Would you tell your parents about the process of your relationship?
Everything is too big or small, and I often complain to my parents -6
Occasionally they ask and say —5
Hardly to say, nothing to say —5
5. Faced with what you want, how much energy are you willing to put into acquiring it?
Everything follows fate, and it is mine in the end--7
Try hard, maybe you can succeed - 6
Do my best, I want to get --B
6. Did you break up because of a third party?
Yes—A
No —7
7. Did the other party take the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes—D
No—C