Many sisters complained to me that they often quarreled with their boyfriends (husbands), and when they quarreled, it was called a world of collapse!
A lot of it was trivial, and some harsh words that followed.
Then the girls will fall into meditation: why is someone else's husband considerate and gentle, and your family is an old straight man!
In fact, two people together occasionally need to "draw cake to fill hunger" under the feelings, and this trick is very useful for boys, who can refuse a sweet mouth will praise the girl!
When they are touched by a mess, they will get better and better for you ~ If it is really bad for you, we must not stay nostalgic, just leave!
When you meet people who want to be together all the time, good feelings are sweeter and sweeter, let's talk to the girls from scratch today
As far as I know, today's girls will find a partner to take responsibility, opinion, care for people, and cooperation between the three views as the standard.
Look at the four core needs of men: to be needed, to be understood, to be respected, and to be adored!
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Therefore, before drawing the "cake", we must grasp the core needs of men, and then skillfully integrate into our standards in order to draw a big cake efficiently!
Specifically, it is to give him enough positive feedback and affirmation, and then deepen the "he is good" thinking mode and his good man design!
For example, if he's busy with work and ignores you a little, you can send:
"Baby, you work so hard every day, thank you for working so hard for our future, if there is any grievance and happiness, you can also share it with me."
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If he is addicted to games, he first expresses his admiration and further expresses his needs:
"Baby, you're the best boy I've ever seen playing a game!" The steadiness and delicacy of your game will definitely do more elsewhere! ”
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When we know the prototype of the "cake", we can then go deeper into all corners of life step by step through positive guidance
When it comes to doing housework, I believe that many of the sisters' boyfriends are either too lazy to move or casually wipe.
I silently did not only tired, but also accumulated the emotion of wanting to say "break up" every minute!
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If you want him to willingly take on housework:
STEP1 strives not to touch the chores that I "casually" cleaned up when I saw it before! For example, after a meal, the pots and pans, until he can't stand it, you pretend to be surprised:
"Wow! How did you forget to wash the dishes! Lots of bowls, if only someone could clean them up with me."
This step requires skill, timing, and the focus is to make sure that he does housework with you, rather than quietly completing things.
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STEP2 When the boyfriend takes the initiative to complete a housework, we will just praise it with emotion!
"Baby, you mop the floor so clean!" My boyfriend is awesome! ”
Be sure to make him feel that you are seeing and recognize his actions and mobilize his enthusiasm!
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Seeing the gifts sent by other people's boyfriends is heartwarming, and then looking at the gifts sent by their own boyfriends, we are all "moved to cry"
A gift from someone else
The gift of "moved to cry"
Is there a possibility that he is really a straight man and doesn't know what you like!
STEP1 euphemistically expresses needs and plants heart anchors.
Simply put, it is to show a special interest in something in a certain period of time ~ for example, you can share the lipstick number chart and then naturally say:
"Baby, I've been planting grass on this lipstick for a long time!" You help me see, can I control this color number?"
STEP2 turns passive into active.
Boys usually don't have a sixth sense for the holidays, and you can ask him in advance:
"Valentine's Day is coming, do you have any gifts you want?" Other people's boyfriends have gifts, and my boyfriend must also have ~"
A few more times of initiative, it will make boys form habitual memories, and when the holiday comes, they will think of giving gifts
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STEP3 responds enthusiastically and provides effective feedback.
The most important thing to receive a gift is to give the boy emotional feedback, whether you really like the gift or not, pretend to like it very much, and use words to praise him!
Or send a circle of friends to show off his gifts and let him win on vanity!
TIPS: The meaning of the festival lies in the heart, not the preciousness of the gift, do not have the psychology of comparison!
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Filled with joy, he put on his new clothes and walked over to his boyfriend expecting a compliment, but he took a symbolic look and replied perfunctorily, "Looks good."
You are angry, you emo, at this time you quarrel with him, it will make him think that you are unreasonable, not only do not solve the problem, you are also wronged.
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It is better to try the method of drawing cakes
STEP1 said she was dissatisfied.
He perfunctory you, you express your dissatisfaction directly, of course, in a way that tries to be a little playful:
"Why are you always so perfunctory to people, next time you will be punished for buying me milk tea."
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STEP2 turns the beneficiary into him.
The reason why the boyfriend is perfunctory is because he feels that this matter has nothing to do with him, and if you want him to really make some suggestions, it is better to turn him into a beneficiary:
"Bao, in two days, I'm not going to take you and your friends to a party, I'm going to wear this dress, do you think it's suitable for me~?"
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As soon as this statement came out, the vanity of the boyfriend came up: Didn't the beautiful girlfriend I brought out equal to my face?
Cleverly transfer beneficiaries and achieve your own purpose effortlessly!
TIPS: Remember to find the right time for this trick, of course, if you ask when your boyfriend is busy at work or engaged in a wave of life and death battle, it is not timely!
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Girls will definitely have the same feeling that "it is too painful to talk to straight men", but "straight men" do not know anything about it.
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How to communicate well with the magical species of straight men:
STEP1 carries love and impresses him with "emotional values".
Tea talk that boys like is a good way to do it! For example, when he utters the four-word motto to you, "Drink plenty of hot water," you can:
"Baby you are so sweet, every time you are uncomfortable you will patiently let me drink more hot water, I am very warm that I did not choose the wrong person!" 」
Not only let him feel your warmth, but also make him feel like a spring breeze with you.
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STEP2 rejects the Cold War.
The Cold War is the biggest spoiler of intimate relationships, and quarrels can be solved by drawing a cake:
"Baby, I'm not good, every time the emotion comes up, I say something that doesn't go through the brain." I hope that when you do something wrong, don't yell at me, don't kill me, just reason with me ~ you are a very good person, I will also hide the gentleness and cuteness to you in the future. ”
When you correctly express your feelings in order to make him reflect on his own behavior, people will have a compensatory psychology when they feel self-blame
The work of drawing "cakes" is nearing the end, but the premise of use is to go in both directions, and he must be worthy of your efforts to learn skills!
These small routines are the "flavoring agent" in the relationship, and boys are very popular and love to eat, because for boys, this way is not only the performance of "having you in your heart", but also a rather high-profile way of recognition!
Although two people who truly love each other do not have to be too deliberate, the feelings are like a piggy bank.
Every contradiction and quarrel is like taking this money out of it, and in order not to empty the piggy bank, these careful thoughts are needed to fill it.
But "love" is a verb after all! Only by operating each other and generously expressing their feelings for each other can we ensure the stability and durability of a relationship