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I saw a question on Zhihu: 'I gave everything I could to do for him, and tried to restrain my personality, why did he still leave?' “
In the answer, there is such a sentence: "It takes many reasons to fall in love with a person, but there is no reason not to love a person, he simply does not love you." “
People who leave, sometimes it's not because you did something wrong, it's just because that person is you, so they want to leave.
1. Because it's you
Seeing a netizen's sharing, she sent her daughter to kindergarten, and on the way, the mother and daughter saw a grandfather who was weaving a long white line.
Out of curiosity, the two men crouched down beside Grandpa, pointed to the thread in his hand and asked, "Grandpa, what is this?" “
Grandpa replied to them, "This is a fishing net, and I want to use it for fishing." Now that it's broken, I'm mending the net. “
The eldest and the youngest squatted next to them to watch, and when they saw that Grandpa was about to make up for it, they got up and left.
Probably because they squatted for too long and lacked oxygen, the two actually returned to the door of the house, fortunately reacted, and turned around and went to the kindergarten.
When she came home in the evening, she told her husband about it, and he smiled back and forth and asked her, "Why are you so cute?" “
Netizens are very strange, as if they do something, the husband thinks he is very cute. Picking vegetables and watching small balls is also cute, and it is also cute to forget to bring things when going out.
Although she can't understand it, she is very willing to accept her cute setting, because she knows very well that the man in front of her really loves her.
Anyone can find someone's move cute. But if he keeps describing you that way, it's probably just because he's in love with you.
2. Change is a matter of effort
I once saw a sentence: "Where in this world is there any steel straight man, people who don't understand the style, most of them just don't want to waste time on you." “
When I first saw this sentence, I couldn't understand the meaning of it, and it wasn't until I grew up that I slowly began to understand it.
Sometimes, in our lives, we will meet so many people, they appear, and change the trajectory of your life, but they have not been responsible for it.
At this time, people are always subconsciously making excuses for them: 'He's just too busy; he just doesn't know how to get along with me; he's already apologized.' ”
There are always people who feel that people who are not good enough for themselves are just because their lives are too busy to take care of themselves.
But in fact, when a person really loves another person, he will definitely try his best to appear in your life, rather than hiding from it.
No one is born to be a love guru, and people who can deliberately learn in order to improve a relationship are either profitable or really like it.
Otherwise, why would he waste all that precious time, energy and money? Most people in the world are not stupid and will not do things that are not good for themselves.
3. You are right, he does not love you
I remembered a video of a love blogger I once watched, and in the seventh year of their relationship, the other person proposed to break up.
By the time she tried everything to save them, to try to remind them of those fond memories of the past, they had moved out of their rental house.
The day he left, the girl cried for a long, long time. She went on to do a lot of videos, trying to change something, but in vain.
More often, whenever you start looking for steps for someone, it proves that you're overdoing the relationship.
At this time, if this relationship can continue, then most of it is because you are still struggling to support it alone.
You think that this person will eventually see your efforts. You think that as long as you don't let go, the other party will always have a day to change their minds.
However, when you pour everything in again, you will find that it is difficult to harvest the water. The other person will not change anything.
In fact, maybe in the relationship, you really don't do anything wrong, but there is no place for you in the life that the other party wants.
4. Everyone will change their minds
We believe in unwavering love, but we should not believe that all love is unwavering.
There was once a question: 'Do you believe that there will be a woman in this world who will love you alone for the rest of her life?' “
Questions don't need answers, because conversely, no one person can guarantee it. This is the original human heart.
It's okay to expect love, but don't get down on your knees and pray for love. Love is never wrong, you chose the wrong one.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.