In the process of chatting with girls, many boys are too active to chat about the topic, thus ignoring the emotions of girls, not only allowing themselves to be labeled as straight men, but also making girls have no desire to reply. So how to change the way straight men chat, so that girls are more willing to talk?
First, guide girls to take the initiative to participate in the chat
When many boys chat with girls, the opening is not to ask the girls "what are they doing", or "have you eaten", and even more to grab a question and ask non-stop, such as asking the girl whether she has eaten, what to eat, who made it, is it delicious, continuous questions, a posture of breaking the casserole to ask the end. This is actually a typical straight male chat.
Although the continuous questioning is to alleviate the embarrassment of not having a topic, the effect of these questions that are not asked by the brain often makes the atmosphere more awkward, even low to the freezing point.
Because the process of your continuous questioning is constantly asking for value from girls, forcing girls to give you answers, and asking is relatively boring, can not bring girls emotional positive experience, continuous questioning continues to consume the enthusiasm and enthusiasm of girls, will only make girls feel bored, choose to end the chat.
Therefore, the first step to changing the way straight men chat is to change the way they chat in a demanding way.
For example, this kind of guided chat allows girls to participate in the chat:
Male: Hi, a small town girl
F: Hello
M: Don't you wonder why I call you that?
F: Why?
M: Because at first glance, there is a feeling of a small family jasper
Such a chat can not only alleviate the awkward atmosphere, but also will not expose your sense of need, and naturally will not be labeled as a straight man.
Second, distinguish the priority in the chat
In addition to asking unlimited questions in the chat, there is also a more typical straight male chat method that is part of the chat
To give a relatively simple example, the girl said, "I saw a puppy when I went to the hospital, guess what happened?"
At this point, most straight men will literally reply with a "What's going on?"
You know, in this passage of the girl's words, her first priority is "I went to the hospital" and the second priority is "What happened?" So, the correct answer should be: "What's wrong with you, why did you go to the hospital?" Is there anything wrong?"
Therefore, if we want to change the way straight men chat, the second step we have to do is to understand the priority in the conversation, the girl's words.
Sometimes girls are unhappy and will not say it directly, but will express it to you through some more metaphorical ways, such as "I have no appetite for what I eat today".
If you want to understand the subtext of girls, you must find the starting point of girls' emotions when communicating, after all, everything you see when you are in a good mood is colorful, and when you are in a bad mood, you can't see anything.
At the same time, girls are also a reserved creature, they will not directly disclose their situation to you in the early stage of communication, they will often express to you through some juxtaposed events.
So when chatting with girls, don't always use your own inertial thinking to reply to girls, but ask yourself a few "whys" in your heart, why will she say this topic at this time? Why is she suddenly talking differently now? Consider the motivation of speaking from the girl's thinking, and many of the problems of chatting will be solved.