Gentlemen are harmonious but different, and villains are the same but not harmonious.
The root cause of interpersonal pain is the lack of a sense of boundaries.
The more blurred the boundaries of workplace relationships, the more they will continue to allow and indulge others and trample on their own boundaries.
I will not reject others, but I hope that others will also put down the line.
Introduction: In the workplace, how to say "no" wittily?
In the workplace, although the situation changes, the "fight" of the sword and light sword shadow also occurs from time to time.
But "things don't matter to themselves", things that are not in their own business scope are really unnecessary to take care of themselves, and the most taboo thing to survive in the workplace is to create an image of "good old people".
Because this image can not give you anything other than the label of "good person card", not only that, but also delay your own work, seize your working time and spare time, let you be trapped in those trivial and complicated affairs all day, and then you will regret it too late.
After all, others will think that you were fine in the past, how unusual today, which not only gives others an excuse to complain about you, but also makes people feel that you are "floating" from the heart, and then turn cold eyes and disdain for you.
Why do you say you are so hard and kind?
Therefore, it is especially important to say "no" wittily in the workplace, especially for things that are beyond the scope of one's work.
You should not be too timid and worry too much, when the attitude should be tough, you must be tough, do not be afraid of the tail, otherwise it will only make your future more and more bleak, everything is for others to "make wedding clothes", in the end your life and work are a mess, so it is not worth it.
For newcomers who have just entered the workplace, it is more difficult to say "no" wittily, which we can understand, after all, even if they are "experienced people" in the workplace for a long time, sometimes they will "old cats burn their beards", and they cannot always handle the euphemistic rejection reasonably and politely.
But saying "no" is something we have to learn sooner or later, otherwise the consequences will be endless, and the situation will be out of control. So how do you tactfully say "no" in the workplace? Here are some suggestions for you.
Change attitudes and do a good job in psychological construction
In the workplace, witty "no", which is divided into two levels, one is to master the skills of communication, to say "no" to things that do not belong to their work content, and to tactfully find a reasonable and decent reason to refuse when the other party proposes it.
The second is to do a good job in psychological construction and preparation, do not be afraid, and learn to bravely say "no" in the face of the unreasonable demands of leaders who have great power and higher status than themselves.
But no matter what level, we need to change our attitude first, if you are afraid of things timid, everything wants to "calm people down", then you will only be bullied and squeezed more severely, so the change of attitude is a very critical and important part.
If you are always committed to doing things and behaving carefully, and always looking forward and not knowing how to refuse in the face of excessive and unreasonable demands made by others, then you must put a change of attitude on the agenda.
You have to figure out what the purpose of your work is, and if the effort and reward are not proportional or far apart, can you bear such an outcome? And how long can it last?
You have to think through these questions in order to promote a change in attitude and to treat people more principledly.
You must know that each of our energy and time is limited, you should focus on your own affairs, do a good job of your own work to move some spare energy to help others, otherwise the cart before the horse, the last unlucky is also yourself, so that your life is not the best policy.
Learn to change our attitude, do a good job in psychological construction, let us all live out the life we want, I wish you and I to encourage together.
Insight into people's hearts, learn to convince people with reason
In the end, the workplace is also a place with the exchange of benefits as the core, and you must not let your sympathy flood in the workplace, so that you will only become a "small transparent" role like a passer-by in the novel.
Don't say you don't have a choice, say "no" to things that threaten your tangible interests and legitimate rights and interests, this is your right, and it is also a soberness that you cannot afford to lose.
Only by daring to fight injustice and saying "no" rationally, can we focus on what is in front of us and live up to our ideal goals, and then realize our dreams.
The workplace is a complex miniature version of society, where the weak prey on the strong, similar to the rules of competition in the primeval forest, are vividly reflected in this.
If you want to adapt and gain a foothold as soon as possible, you need to learn the skills of insight into people's hearts, observe more and think more, preemptively attack, prepare for everything with more hands, and firmly grasp the initiative in your own hands.
Most people in the workplace understand the principle of not taking care of their own business, because if you take over, then this redundant work is very likely to be distributed to you in the future, increase your workload, not to mention, but also painstaking, if you do not do well, but also be held accountable, so it is really unnecessary.
We must be proficient in our own business, understand where our responsibilities lie, and then when someone pushes you a job that does not belong to you, you must forcefully refute and refuse on the basis of legitimate factual reasons, so as to better protect your rights and interests and make the career smooth.
Practice phrasing and improve your communication skills
In the workplace, communication is very important, and good communication can make everyone's work more effective with half the effort and achieve good results. The use of language has been quite exquisite since ancient times.
Especially in the workplace, which words should be said, what should not be said, we must think clearly and understand, otherwise the disaster will come out of the mouth, offend people and still do not understand, that will be to lift a stone to drop their feet, how can the future be bright and smooth?
In the workplace, no matter who you are, you must learn to cultivate your own wording, and leaders must master good communication methods, so that employees understand your intentions and do a better job.
Employees should also exercise their language skills, report concisely and focusedly when reporting work, and increase the impression of the leader on you.
When it comes to those things in the workplace that we need to say "no" and euphemistically refuse, we must pay more attention to wording and language, saying that "without investigation, there is no right to speak."
Many things need to be prepared in advance, just like when we refuse the request of others, we must make up the reason beautifully, and this reason cannot be separated from the facts, which requires us to clarify the intricate relationships between people in the workplace, grasp their psychology, and then better defend their own interests.
Text/Lao Xia Analyst
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