How to avoid cold scenes when chatting with girls?

Many boys are chatting with girls, all on a whim, how to chat with girls is not cold? Thinking about what to talk about, there is no proper orientation at all, so the topic discussion thrown out often makes girls feel boring and boring, and they are reluctant to talk about it. How to chat with girls so that it is not boring?

To understand, girls are generally not easy to actively give topic discussion, so if you do not have a proper small talk direction, you have to talk to girls, always talk to the sky to death.

So how can you chat with girls to find the right place to gossip and prevent boring discussions?

First, build a relaxed and free atmosphere for small talk

Chat with girls, in fact, and play games, has been winning and losing is not very good, only lose and win, girls will be happier, the same, in small talk if you can build a relaxed small talk atmosphere for girls, to create emotional fluctuations for girls to make the other party feel the gap, let the girl feel surprises, irritation, then of course the girl will remember you, when she remembers you, she will often come to you to chat, and gradually will cause interest in you.

Therefore, when chatting with girls in the early days, you must not be anxious or able to please girls, which will make the atmosphere more and more embarrassing and boring, and even expose your sense of need for girls, giving her social media work pressure.

Second, the mastery of the mentality in small talk

I found that many brothers have a problem in the whole process of chatting with girls, that is, they cannot grasp the key to the mentality that women want to pour out, which is also one of the biggest obstacles for many brothers and girls to communicate.

For example, just understand a girl, in the creation of attraction link, when the girl has a slight degree of liking for the boy, just have the opportunity to communicate, they will always unconsciously carry out the mentality output, at this time if the boy can make a good mentality response, everyone will have the opportunity to move forward again.

Therefore, it is important to deal with the difficult problems of small talk, not only the topic discussion and sales talk, but also to find the whole process to find the mentality, just like everyone knows that the fate and zodiac signs are all methods that cannot be eradicated.

There are also some international practices in sales speaking, many brothers have rigidly set up /letter chat skills, but they cannot achieve the actual results that should be there, and even the girls' indifferent gratitude and feedback.

Mindset sharing is very critical to pulling into the relationship between the sexes, which is divided into unilateral mindset sharing and dual mindset sharing, and unilateral mindset sharing is divided into mindset output and mindset response.

People who are not good at expression belong to the difficult mentality output, and people who are not good at listening belong to the difficult mentality response.

To put it bluntly, the emotional dumpster plus the issuance of good people cards is that women are exporting in the mentality, but men do not have the mentality to respond, and even unilateral mentality sharing is not composed, so even the best friend is not.

People who are good at mindset sharing will grasp the other side's mindset when it comes to small talk. For example:

When a girl tells you that she is late today, and she has been told by the boss about a meal, the emotional groove cake, so her mentality at this time is the key to annoyance, but the first reaction of many steel straight men is, why are you late, are you okay?

That is, with the logical thinking of solving difficulties to respond to girls, and girls to reason or not painless relief a sentence or two, that way girls are disgusted, very easy to make girls feel that they do not understand her, and you will not be on a channel column again.

The appropriate practice is to identify with the girl's mentality, show recognition at the same time stand on the girl's point of view to rebuke her boss, to touch the recognition and resonance point of the mentality.

Third, the gap in the mentality of production and manufacturing

The logical thinking of the vast majority of brothers is all a parallel line, even if there is a wall directly in front of them, they will not turn back when they hit it, and they will immediately rush and go in the wrong direction again.

The reason for this situation is usually that the boys cannot find the rhythm of small talk, and only carry out small talk according to the girl's response, losing the dominance of small talk.

Then the gap in the production and manufacturing mentality in small talk will enable us to grasp the dominance of small talk and correctly guide girls into everyone's small talk structure, such as:

The girl saw that you were not in a good mood and asked you what to do? How to chat with girls so that it is not boring?

If the basic response pretends to be tenacious to tell the girl that it is okay, in other words, some small problems, will build a "sense of no need" feeling for the girl, then what will the girl think?

Girls will feel that they are superfluous, that they are not conducive to the progress of the association, and it is very likely that some people will say, if I complain to the girl, it is not easy to look too weak.

The best way is to make the girl unable to understand your thoughts, to produce a flip, such as responding to the girl like that: My great uncle is coming, I want to drink brown sugar water, help me get some back.

When encountering this kind of response, the girl is unexpected, and will respond with a smile: Yo, you know there are quite a few

At this time, I can still respond: surely you will not be like them, asking me to drink more hot water and strengthen exercise, right?

Gradually, the girl's mentality will be pushed by you, and gradually everyone's small talk atmosphere will be constructed, which is based on small talk to make girls very naturally attracted to you.

If every sentence you say makes the woman feel incomprehensible, can't let go, makes the girl not understand you, and maintains a sense of freshness, then everything she says to you will feel very interesting.