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I saw a very speechless news on the Internet, a woman in order to save her boyfriend, believe in the feudal superstitions on the Internet, so she was cheated of 1.47 million yuan.
Coincidentally, a woman sued her newlywed husband in the local court, accusing him of forcing herself to marry him by means of death.
Of course, in the aftermath of the incident, the first woman's family reported the case, and the second woman's marriage was declared null and void.
However, such a farce has never really ended, and every day people are repeating yesterday's story.
1. Love, to be guarded with heart
I remember watching a similar news, a group of so-called emotional experts, who deceived men and women who were eager to recover their love.
They claim that they have sophisticated words and teams, and they can use various means to save these people's feelings and recover their former lovers.
But the reality is that they are simply handing over these 'lambs to be slaughtered' to one accomplice after another, frantically squeezing their money.
Finally, wait until they react. The person he liked also left, and the income he had struggled for half his life had also lost all his essence.
Why are these people fooled? In fact, the reason is nothing more than that they rely too much on strangers for their emotional life.
We cannot deny that sometimes, some words and techniques can coax an angry other, but there is a premise.
It is because the other party still loves you, and he still has you in his heart, so he is willing to wait for you to change, give you a second chance, and reconcile with you.
Feelings are not obtained by controlling someone, it should be a heart-to-heart collision, a two-way rush and a shared happiness and suffering.
2.. You should know how much I love you
I talked to my friends a long time ago about a girl with a strong sense of control, and all her relationships, almost did not last more than half a year.
The reason is actually very simple, because her perception of love has deviated, which is no longer a kind of love.
She frantically confided her love with each other, and she gave everything she had to the other party, afraid that the other party would not feel herself.
In her subjective consciousness, as long as she does this, the other party should also treat herself like this, but others will always just feel fear.
Because of love, I never blindly emphasize how much I love you. It's not about trying to control everything in someone and make him belong only to me.
It is that after we meet one day, we rely on each other, and we become the most special beings for each other.
Feelings are sometimes like rubber bands that strangle your neck, and you think that suffocating love can make you feel loved.
But the reality is that that kind of feeling has already exceeded the limits of love, it is just a kind of bondage that people want to escape as soon as possible.
3. Don't make me afraid of you
In relationships, everyone's needs are different. Therefore, the reasons for each couple to come together are different.
In "Thirty-Three Days of Lost Love", Wei still chooses Li Ke, not because he loves her much, but because she is convenient.
Li ke is not happy, a brand-name bag can be coaxed. Wei is still a businessman, and he values not money, but not to let him waste too much time emotionally.
In "Xiao Min's Family", Chen Zhuo chose Liu Xiaomin because they had all experienced a less perfect marriage.
They are middle-aged, and they know very well that all they want is a down-to-earth, stable family.
But no matter what kind of stable emotions can be developed for a long time, the premise is that two people should love each other and they are willing to go on together.
If a man were to leave today, he would certainly not have left for no reason. There must have been a reason for him to leave.
If this reason can be solved, then, perhaps the relationship can be broken, if not, then it is a lack of magic.
Don't use 'I love you' as the last chain, it can't lock anyone when it loses meaning.
4. What you should love is the person
Let's assume that today you, by some means, have saved the man you have in mind.
However, you all know that there is no love between you, and all that Qiang has left behind is an empty shell of the other party.
So, what is the significance of retention at this time? It's not love, it's just torturing each other.
Therefore, when you fall in love with someone, cherish it, if one day you are separated, I hope that you will break up peacefully, which is the best choice for each other.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.