Chat: The girl said she was in a bad mood, how to reply to divert her bad mood?

Everyone has bad times, especially emotionally rich girls. When a girl says to you that you are in a bad mood, if you reply properly, your relationship is likely to go further.

Girls are generally unhappy for two reasons, one is because you are unhappy; the other is because other people and things are unhappy.

1) Because you are not happy

If it is because of your mistake that makes her unhappy, it may be because you are relatively close to other members of the opposite sex, it may be that you have not cared enough about her in the recent period, or it may be that you accidentally stabbed her when you spoke..., carefully reflect on what you did wrong, and take the initiative to admit mistakes with girls.

If you really don't know what you did wrong, you must put down your shelf and face, and ask her gently and patiently: "Baby, what am I doing wrong?" "Find the source of her unhappiness to get the answer to the question completely."

2, because other people and things are not happy

If the girl is unhappy because of other people and things, come to you to complain and complain, the first time must not find a way to coax her, find a way to find the answer to the problem, the girl takes the initiative to come to you to complain, she does not lack the most is the way to solve the problem, she is just not open to find you to talk.

If you have no sense to comfort her, to provide solutions to the problem and the big truth, instead of coaxing her, her bad emotions will only be hooked up by you, aggravating her unhappy bad emotions, but spitting more unhappy things with you, so that you can not enter her heart, but also become the object of her bad emotions, which is the so-called emotional garbage can.

Every time it seems that you comfort her, but every time when she is in a bad mood, she will think of you for the first time, looking for you to complain and complain, you think that she has a good feeling for you, trust you will tell you all the unhappiness, but when you go to confess to her, she will definitely say: "You are good, but we are not suitable." ”

You think that you confessed to her, she will definitely accept your kindness, but the actual result will only be to confess to death. Because you're just building a connection of negative emotions and it doesn't help you move forward in your relationship, the relationship between you is unhealthy.

So when a girl says she is in a bad mood, how to reply to divert her bad mood?

1. Give girls timely comfort

The influence of emotions on a girl is huge, and various things in life can lead to their emotional irritability, such as missing the bus, being late for the last edition, being reprimanded by the boss, etc., so that girls say that you are in a bad mood, in fact, they are spitting out their bad mood to you. In a hint to you: "I'm not too good and want your comfort." ”

If the girl is affected by emotions and causes her to say that she is in a bad mood, the correct reply is to give her timely care, such as:

F: I've been depressed lately

M: Didn't you sleep well?

F: No, I was scolded by the boss, obviously it is not my fault

M: Kill your boss for you, and give you a big hug

2. Express understanding and approval to girls

When your relationship with a girl is not very close, and she is in a bad mood because of some troubles. Then you can express understanding and approval of the girl's words, establish empathy with the girl emotionally, talk to her from the girl's point of view, let the girl feel that you understand her, you have established a connection between you, and the relationship will become much closer. Like what:

F: I've been so tired lately that I'm feeling depressed

M: I am also, I don't sleep well every day, the company has a lot of things, and my life is bitter

F: Yeah

M: The world is so big, I want to go out for a walk

In the chat, first express understanding and approval of the girl's words, just like you hate one person, and the other one also hates, you will feel that this person is good.

3, switch the topic to divert the bad mood of the girl

Whether it is in life or work, every day will do some repetitive things, so over time will produce a negative and slack psychology, give birth to the idea of giving up, then when the girl says that she is in a bad mood, may feel tired, can not stick to want to give up, and you complain for comfort.

Then when we reply to girls, we must also reply to girls from these aspects.

Girls say that they are depressed, which is a negative emotional explosion in itself, and there are many factors that lead to girls' depression, and it is impossible to solve them for her, so don't dwell too much on this topic, switch topics in time to divert the bad mood of the girl, such as:

F: I feel depressed

M: I was in a terrible mood some time ago, but recently I found a particularly interesting thing

F: Yes, what' the matter?

M: xxx (share interesting things)

When a girl pours out her negative emotions to you, if you just comfort each other for a while, it is likely to become her "emotional trash can", which is not conducive to the progress of the relationship, so you must understand the premise of the girl's emotions, and guide and transfer the bad mood of the girl.