When the child is wronged in the kindergarten, the parents will help the child to teach the lesson back.
Since the child went to kindergarten, the parents' mood is like a roller coaster, it all depends on the child's emotional experience, if the child is happy and happy, the parent is happy. If the child is bullied, the parents will be angry.
Whether it is bullied by teachers or bullied by children, parents must be tough and always act with the idea that my children cannot be bullied by anyone.
When someone hits you, you fight back!
Dongdong is born with a weaker personality, not as naughty and lively as other boys, his favorite thing to do is to read, sit quietly on the sofa, a look is a long time, do not have to worry about parents, save trouble.
But Dad is very dissatisfied with Dongdong's behavior, boys must have the appearance of boys, which boy is not naughty? The more mischievous the boy, the smarter he gets! It's not okay to be so quiet all day, I don't know if I think it's a girl!
After Dongdong went to kindergarten, every morning before his father sent Dongdong, he would tell him: Play with children today, even if you quarrel, it doesn't matter, don't always sit in the book corner and read!
Slowly, Dongdong wanted to start changing himself, after all, because he was too quiet, the children in the class did not like to play with themselves, and he had not made a boy friend for so long in school, and he also realized that the problem was a bit serious.
Then when he took the initiative to play with the toys with the boys in the class, he was excluded by the other children, who all said: We don't play with the girl, you go to the girls to play. Hearing the children say this, Dongdong cried urgently.
When Dad came to pick up Dongdong from school in the evening, the teacher and Dad explained the situation. The child cried in the class today, and the causes and consequences were clearly stated. Dad's face was very ugly, but he did not show anything in front of the teacher, and led Dongdong home.
After returning home, Dad said to Dongdong very seriously: They scolded you, why do you have to endure? Crying is the most incompetent manifestation, you fight back, only let them see your strength, they will obey you!
Principal: Don't teach the baby to fight back, it's not just violence that can win
Bad kids are never bullied
Whether it is the kindergarten stage or the compulsory education stage, the students who are often bullied in the class have a commonality: weakness and incompetence. Even if they want to resist in their hearts, because of fear and fear, they choose to endure it again and again.
And because of the other party's words: You dare to sue the teacher, I will kill you! Such threats produce behavior that absolutely dare not sue the teacher, and even when the teacher discovers their crime, the beaten child will continue to shield them.
Instead, children who don't look good are almost never bullied. For example, the body is very strong, looks like it is very capable of fighting, and uses his height to suppress those who want to bully him. There are also those who have good language expression skills, often say some big truths, and make each other dizzy, and everyone wants to stay away from him.
In this way, they have some advantages and characteristics that other children do not have, which can help him to the fate of being bullied, even if these children are inconsistent, their inner thoughts and actual behavior are not the same, and they cannot lose in the aura!
Countering violence with violence will only make children more unpopular
If others bully you and you hit the other person in the same way, even if the other party fails, you will not be convinced. Because they didn't understand the essence of things at all, they just felt that they had failed, because of the lack of physical strength, as long as they became stronger, they would not encounter such misfortune.
Moreover, the more violent children will only become less popular, and the children will be afraid of him, afraid that they will be beaten if they say something wrong. It is not so much to be afraid to get along with, but it is better to die and not to interact with each other.
And the class teacher will also look at those children with violent tendencies, think that they are restless factors, once they make a mistake, they will be severely punished, even if it is not his problem, they will blame him in a big package.
Today's summary:
When your child is beaten, do you think about how to guide him? Feel free to share your thoughts with us!