A middle school in Henan focused on smashing students' mobile phones, triggering strong controversy among netizens. There are two reasons why schools have rightly used extreme methods to treat students' mobile phones: first, they feel that "it is all for the good of students"; second, parents have expressed acquiescence or consent to this.
We do not agree with the school's approach. But on the other hand, we are constantly worried: mobile phones have not only affected adults, but also children's learning and health. Humans in front of mobile phones, it seems that like parents, helpless!
In particular, schools have begun to conduct online teaching on a large scale, and children will have more time to touch mobile phones. What to do?
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Why do children rely on mobile phones?
There are different reasons why children rely on mobile phones:
Social dependencies. There are 200 friends in the mobile phone address book, 300 friends in the WeChat circle of friends, and more than 4,000 friends in various QQ groups, so strong connections make it difficult for children to give up.
Game-based dependencies. There are many online games in mobile phones, and the merits and experience accumulated in long-term battles make children feel a sense of achievement and satisfaction.
Entertainment-based dependency. There are not many friends in the mobile phone, there are not many games, all of them are movies, music, photos, so that the child is excited, do not want to write homework always want to touch the phone.
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Play mobile phone for more than 1 hour a day, the harm is huge
A recent northwestern university study found that using a mobile phone for more than 68 minutes a day has an extremely high risk of depression. In fact, this is not difficult to understand, the mobile phone seems to facilitate the contact between people, but often the family sits on the sofa, each playing their own mobile phone, what problems, unhappy and do not communicate in person, put in the heart of the more things, naturally it is easy to be depressed.
In addition, it can seriously affect the child's attention. There is a huge amount of information in the mobile phone, a variety of software makes people overwhelmed, it is this "overstimulation", easy to affect the child's brain development, learning is a slow pace of the process, which is easy to make the child feel "no motivation", more than 1 hour a day, 3-4 years later the attention will lag behind the peers a lot.
Playing mobile phones for a long time also has the following hazards:
1) Causes many eye diseases, leads to myopia disaster, and affects employment.
2) Children often play mobile phones until late at night, sleep in class and do not listen to lessons, and their academic performance declines.
3) Surfing the Internet will make children become more and more withdrawn, unwilling to interact with the outside world, and poor communication skills.
4) Playing mobile phones replaces children's play, resulting in reduced children's activities, which in turn affects children's physical development.
5) Playing mobile phones limits the child's sensory experience, which is easy for children to distinguish between illusion and reality.
6) In the game, it is easy to make the child grumpy.
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How to make your child not addicted to mobile phones
Try the following tricks!
1. There are three chapters of the law, and there must be penalties for fouls
In the face of children's increasing addiction to mobile phones, most parents have taken a rude approach: confiscating mobile phones, smashing mobile phones, and hitting children when they are uncontrollable. Cried, made trouble, circled around, and found that the problem was still waiting for you in the same place.
In fact, these methods are not as effective as agreeing with your child in advance on the time to use the mobile phone!
Parents can set aside 10 minutes to develop a code of practice for mobile phones. For example:
1, mobile phones can not be taken to school, children should learn to communicate with classmates face-to-face, this is a basic life skill.
2. When children go out to play, they can ask not to bring a mobile phone to go out.
3. Primary school students: Monday to Friday at 19:30, weekends at 21:00, put away the mobile phone on time, and turn off; until 7:30 the next morning can be turned on, instruct the child not to go out to borrow the mobile phone.
Junior high school students: usually live on campus, take away the mobile phone on time at 21:00 on weekends, and can not turn on the phone until 7:30 the next morning, and instruct the child not to go out to borrow the mobile phone.
4. Control the time for children to play mobile phones, as for how long to play, it is decided by parents and children after consultation.
5, if the child can not do it, then take the child's mobile phone as punishment.
The above 5 please adhere to a month, a persistence of a harvest, so that no pain, no indulgence, no compromise, in order to remove the dependence on mobile phones from the child little by little.
2. Divert your child's attention
Share a little story of a mom who helped her child quit her phone:
One day, Dongdong got up as usual, wanted to play with his mobile phone after breakfast, and found a small note posted on his mobile phone:
"Mom interferes with your phone from today onwards, the phone has set a password, updated from time to time every day; you have to complete the 3 chores randomly selected in the form every day, and you will get your password after completion!" This new rule will last for 3 to 4 weeks, subject to change. If you accept, then start acting, if you can't complete it before 12 noon, you won't get the password! Go mop the floor first, come on, my boy!
Dongdong was angry and annoyed at that time, pressing the mobile phone is the interface for entering the password, the encrypted mobile phone is useless to Dongdong, he had to obediently obey his mother's arrangement.
Carrying a bucket of water, he ran upstairs and downstairs with a mop to mop the floor clean. When he bent down to mop the floor under the table, he found a note stuck to the foot of the table: Yes, you have completed the first chore, please clean up your desk!
When he had cleaned up his messy desk, he found another note in the center of the table: Awesome, Mom sees your effort! Please go out and dump the garbage, you will find the password you want!
Dongdong picked up the garbage bag at home and went out, and the aunt who opened the commissary next door shouted at him: "Dongdong, your mother left you a note, saying that before 12 o'clock, I saw you going out with the garbage, this note will be given to you, and it will be invalid after 12 o'clock." "And the note said the phone password."
I have to say that this mother's new regulations not only divert the child's attention to the mobile phone to a certain extent, but also develop a good habit of doing housework for the child. It turns out that a week later, Dongdong is no longer too obsessed with mobile phones!
3. Parents should lead by example
Some parents can't help but say that I have tried to agree on mobile phone usage rules with my children, but it has not worked. That's because the child feels that it is too unfair for the code to be only for himself.
Well, parents can do this: if you have two children in the family, please treat them equally; during the period when the children are forbidden to play on mobile phones, please accompany the parents to stick with the children! That means parents have to lead by example!
丨When accompanying children, do not play with mobile phones
When parents are accompanying their children, whether it is writing homework or playing with them, they can mute their mobile phones in advance and do not expose their mobile phones to the children's eyes to ensure that the parents' companionship is single-minded.
Then, conveying positive feedback to children is also positive feedback, rather than children no longer need parental companionship when they have mobile phones!
丨 When a child loses his temper, he does not take the mobile phone to coax
Children are a kind of emotional species, sometimes no one provokes him, he himself is sullen or comes to make trouble with you. Parents feel annoyed, how to coax do not listen, then took out a big magic weapon - mobile phone.
And children's mobile phone addiction is mostly infected in this way. Therefore, parents should adhere to their own principles, no matter how the child loses his temper, do not use the quick solution to the child to play mobile phones, do not develop the bad habit of children relying on mobile phones.
丨 Parents should be firm
If parents have begun to implement how to solve the problem of children playing with mobile phones, the attitude must be resolute! Let the child see the determination not to give up until you reach your goal!
In the process of reaching an agreement, we must try to absorb the opinions of the child, and we must not turn the "agreement" into a one-way "order" of the parents.
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