| primary education children addicted to mobile phones during the holidays? Smart parents do it all, simple and effective!

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With the development of the economy and the improvement of living standards, mobile phones and other electronic products into thousands of households, post-00s, post-10s themselves are the indigenous people of the Internet age, they were born in the digital age, which doomed children can not be exposed to electronic products for a lifetime.

Since you can't avoid it, it is better to face it directly. Why do children become addicted to the Internet? How do we guide?

Let's take a look at today's article, I believe you will gain something.

Since the neighborhood children are on vacation, every day I will hear the voice of the neighbor's mother yelling at the child. I happened to meet her when I went out in the morning, and after saying hello, I learned that she was going to do a broadband disconnection. Without waiting for me to ask again, she poured beans into me like a bamboo tube. It turned out that children had been on vacation for a few days, and all day long mobile phones and computers took turns to play video games, refusing to go out, nor doing homework, and when it was time to eat, they also had to shout and shout again before they were willing to go to the table. The mother was annoyed and forced the child to go out to find a little friend to play.

As a result, when it was time for dinner, she went to pick up the child and went home, but saw him sitting on the couch with his little friend and fighting with an iPad, knowing that she came in without even lifting her head. This incident made the neighbor hold a fire in his stomach, and when he went home, he broke out, so he decided to quickly go through the disconnection procedures.

Nowadays, children are addicted to electronic devices more and more time, and there are middle and primary school students holding mobile phones, iPads and playing non-stop, and even the little ones in kindergartens are fascinated by various screens. But while electronic devices bring a fresh and fun experience, they also pervasively tempt children's immature minds, and it is easy to get lost in them if they are not careful.

This year, it is not uncommon for children to play games to recharge a lot and their health has been affected.

It is not something we can completely prohibit by taking away a child's mobile phone and cutting off the child's network. Network information has permeated our lives like air, pervasively.

Instead of strictly guarding against death, it is better to think rationally: how to help children solve problems rationally and use mobile phones rationally.

Northwestern University research found that using a smartphone for more than 68 minutes a day is at a high risk of depression. In fact, this is not difficult to understand, the mobile phone seems to facilitate the contact between people, but often the family sits on the sofa, each playing their own mobile phone, what problems, unhappy and do not communicate in person, put in the heart of the more things, naturally it is easy to be depressed.

In addition, it can seriously affect the child's attention. There is a huge amount of information in the mobile phone, a variety of software makes people overwhelmed, it is this "overstimulation", easy to affect the child's brain development, learning is a slow pace of the process, which is easy to make the child feel "no motivation", more than 1 hour a day, 3-4 years later the attention will lag behind the peers a lot.

Playing mobile phones for a long time also has the following hazards:

1) Causes many eye diseases, leads to myopia disaster, and affects employment.

2) Children often play mobile phones until late at night, sleep in class and do not listen to lessons, and their academic performance declines.

3) Surfing the Internet will make children become more and more withdrawn, unwilling to interact with the outside world, and poor communication skills.

4) Playing mobile phones replaces children's play, resulting in reduced children's activities, which in turn affects children's physical development.

5) Playing mobile phones limits the child's sensory experience, which is easy for children to distinguish between illusion and reality.

6) In the game, it is easy to make the child grumpy.

Seeing this, many people will say that these effects hurt us all know, but what magic he has makes the child want to stop. In fact, the reasons why children rely on mobile phones are different:

1. Social dependency. There are 200 friends in the mobile phone address book, 300 friends in the WeChat circle of friends, and more than 4,000 friends in various QQ groups, so strong connections make it difficult for children to give up.

2. Game-type dependencies. There are many online games in mobile phones, and the merits and experience accumulated in long-term battles make children feel a sense of achievement and satisfaction.

3. Entertainment-type dependence. There are not many friends in the mobile phone, there are not many games, all of them are movies, music, photos, so that the child is excited, do not want to write homework always want to touch the phone.

If the child is particularly dependent on mobile phones, as a parent, it is best to analyze which category your child belongs to, and then prescribe the right medicine to find a way to deal with it.

How exactly can children not be addicted to mobile phones? Try the following tricks!

1. There are three chapters of the law, and there must be penalties for fouls

In the face of children's increasing addiction to mobile phones, most parents have taken a rude approach: confiscating mobile phones, smashing mobile phones, and hitting children when they are uncontrollable. Cried, made trouble, circled around, and found that the problem was still waiting for you in the same place.

In fact, these methods are not as effective as agreeing with your child in advance on the time to use the mobile phone!

Parents can set aside 10 minutes to develop a code of practice for mobile phones that clearly point out the behaviors their children need to improve. For example, playing with mobile phones cannot exceed 1 hour a day, and playing with mobile phones must be after completing homework. The goals should be specific, clear and easy to measure.

Compared with "playing mobile phone time can not be too long every day", "playing mobile phone time can not exceed 1 hour per day" is easier to measure. With specific goals and clear goals, it is easier for children to operate.

Clearly state what the child can get by completing the agreement, and what will be lost if the agreement is not completed.

In the process, say less "no" and more "yes". For example: "If you complete the agreement, you can go to a movie" instead of saying "If you don't complete the agreement, you can't watch the movie". Although the meaning of the two statements is the same, if the child works in a positive direction, he is more likely to complete the goal.

2. Divert your child's attention

Share a little story of a mom who helped her child quit her phone:

One day, Dongdong got up as usual, wanted to play with his mobile phone after breakfast, and found a small note posted on his mobile phone:

"Mom interferes with your phone from today onwards, the phone has set a password, updated from time to time every day; you have to complete the 3 chores randomly selected in the form every day, and you will get your password after completion!" This new rule will last for 3 to 4 weeks, subject to change. If you accept, then start acting, if you can't complete it before 12 noon, you won't get the password! Go mop the floor first, come on, my boy!

Dongdong was angry and annoyed at that time, pressing the mobile phone is the interface for entering the password, the encrypted mobile phone is useless to Dongdong, he had to obediently obey his mother's arrangement.

Carrying a bucket of water, he ran upstairs and downstairs with a mop to mop the floor clean. When he bent down to mop the floor under the table, he found a note stuck to the foot of the table: Yes, you have completed the first chore, please clean up your desk!

When he had cleaned up his messy desk, he found another note in the center of the table: Awesome, Mom sees your effort! Please go out and dump the garbage, you will find the password you want!

Dongdong picked up the garbage bag at home and went out, and the aunt who opened the commissary next door shouted at him: "Dongdong, your mother left you a note, saying that before 12 o'clock, I saw you going out with the garbage, this note will be given to you, and it will be invalid after 12 o'clock." "And the note said the phone password."

I have to say that this mother's new regulations not only divert the child's attention to the mobile phone to a certain extent, but also develop a good habit of doing housework for the child. It turns out that a week later, Dongdong is no longer too obsessed with mobile phones!

3. Communicate rationally to build a sense of self-worth for children

The world of play can also be seen as another world that the child chooses to close himself off. And what makes children choose to be closed and addicted may be precisely because of the irrational communication between parents and children.

If parents ignore their children for a long time, or cannot see their children's efforts and strengths, often suppress and belittle their children's self-esteem, intervene in the child's decisions in great detail, and refuse to listen to the child's voice, then the child will slowly close the door of communication with the parents and fall into the psychological vortex of inferiority and low value.

Since then, children have regarded their parents' concern as "control", and parents do not know why children become "incomprehensible".

See the child's strengths, encourage the child's efforts, be the first person behind the child to applaud him, appreciate the child from the bottom of your heart, and let him know. These are the most important steps into the child's heart.

4. Parents should lead by example

Some parents can't help but say that I have tried to agree on mobile phone usage rules with my children, but it has not worked. That's because the child feels that it is too unfair for the code to be only for himself.

Well, parents can do this: if you have two children in the family, please treat them equally; during the period when the children are forbidden to play on mobile phones, please accompany the parents to stick with the children! That means parents have to lead by example!

丨When accompanying children, do not play with mobile phones

When parents are accompanying their children, whether it is writing homework or playing with them, they can mute their mobile phones in advance and do not expose their mobile phones to the children's eyes to ensure that the parents' companionship is single-minded.

Then, conveying positive feedback to children is also positive feedback, rather than children no longer need parental companionship when they have mobile phones!

丨 Parents should be firm

If parents have begun to implement how to solve the problem of children playing with mobile phones, the attitude must be resolute! Let the child see the determination not to give up until you reach your goal!

In the process of reaching an agreement, we must try to absorb the opinions of the child, and we must not turn the "agreement" into a one-way "order" of the parents.

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