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Editor/Happy Superman who is happy every day
Preface
Recently, Mr. Deng from Wuhan, Hubei Province fell into a tug-of-war for the wedding because of the 300,000 yuan bride price.
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Mr. Deng and his girlfriend from Fujian have been in love for 3 years, and both parties have long planned to settle in Wuhan.
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At the beginning of this year, the two parties began to discuss marriage, but they did not expect his girlfriend's family to propose a bride price of 300,000 yuan and asked to add his girlfriend's name to the real estate certificate. Faced with these demands, Mr. Tang found it difficult to accept and hoped that the bride price could be decided according to the financial situation of both parties.
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Mr. Deng proposed two plans: one was to provide a bride price of 300,000 yuan, but the woman needed to marry 300,000 yuan; Another plan is to provide a bride price of 100,000 yuan without asking for a dowry. The girlfriend's family refused to compromise on the grounds that "if you get married in your hometown, you will get 300,000 yuan for the bride price", which led to a tug-of-war between the two parties. Mr. Deng said that because of the bride price issue, the wedding was far away, which made him sigh that "it is too difficult to get married".
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The incident spread to the Internet, and netizens in the comment area fried the pot
This man is really good at calculating, and through the screen, he can hear the clicking of abacus beads!
said every day that there was a dowry, but it turned out that I really wanted a three-bed quilt for the dowry
Let's not talk about the bride price, don't you add the woman's name to the house bought with a loan? After marriage, it is generally repaid jointly, unless the man's parents repay the loan in full, which can be understood without writing his name
To give your girlfriend a happy home? Just take out a loan to buy a house? I don't have a girlfriend and I live on the street
In the 70-square-meter house decoration in Wuhan, the decoration of hard and soft decoration starts at 300,000 yuan, and the woman's decoration is already very good
It is necessary to mention the bride price at the beginning of the relationship, and both parties can waste three years less
I think that if the child and the woman's surname are surnamed, the woman can bring the same marriage
I have to add one, one child is born, and I can do it without a bride price
This incident has attracted attention, and many netizens have questioned the high bride price, believing that it is an unreasonable social bad habit. Some netizens pointed out that this not only deviates from the original intention of marriage, but also makes marriage a materialistic transaction. Some netizens believe that marriage is about the promise of two people and should not be kidnapped by a high bride price.
Jiang Xiaoxian, an associate professor at the Law School of Xiamen University, also said that the phenomenon of high-priced bride prices that have frequently appeared in recent years not only deviates from the original intention of love and the essence of marriage, but also leads to the commodification of marriage, materializes spiritual and ethical relationships, and even triggers a trend of comparison, which is not conducive to social harmony and stability.
Personal opinion
As an ordinary netizen, after seeing the incident of Mr. Deng falling into a wedding deadlock because of the 300,000 yuan bride price, I couldn't help but feel complicated in my heart. I feel the same way about the predicament he faces. Marriage was supposed to be a happy union between two people, but because of the high bride price, the relationship came to an impasse. This phenomenon is embarrassing, and it makes us realize that the social problems behind the high bride price need to be confronted and solved.
I can understand the desire of the woman's family to wish their daughter happiness in the future, but the exorbitant bride price will not only impose a heavy financial burden on the man's family, but may also complicate the marriage relationship. The high bride price makes the meaning of marriage hijacked by material interests, ignoring the feelings and commitments that marriage should have. Marriage is a contract between two people, and should not be a tool for comparison and show-off.
This incident reminded me of a similar problem that I and my friends had when we got married. In some places, the bride price has become an unwritten custom, representing the "face" of the woman's family and the "importance" of the man to the woman, and has even been given a symbolic meaning to judge the happiness of the marriage. However, this culture not only commoditizes marriage, but also exacerbates conflicts between families, leaving young people with unnecessary psychological stress and financial burdens.
The cultural roots behind the high bride price are complex, involving multiple levels such as traditional concepts, social customs, and economic conditions. As Jiang Xiaoxian, an associate professor at Xiamen University's Law School, pointed out, the high price of the bride price makes marriage a commoditized transaction, deviating from the essence of love and marriage, and even triggering a trend of comparison, which is not conducive to social harmony and stability.
We should advocate more rational and civilized marriage customs, and realize that the essence of marriage is the love and commitment of two people, not comparison and show-off. Every family has its own economic situation and cultural background, but a high bride price should not be the standard for marriage. We should advocate that both men and women maintain equality and respect in marriage, jointly determine the reasonable standard of bride price, try to reduce the financial burden of marriage, and let the meaning of marriage return to the relationship itself.
The Government and all sectors of society also need to make efforts to promote the change of customs. We can see that in some areas, special governance actions have been carried out against high-priced bride prices, and more people are aware of the disadvantages caused by high-priced bride prices through legislation and publicity guidance. At the same time, with the help of traditional means such as village rules and conventions, it is possible to more effectively form a consensus in the community and resist this unhealthy trend.
Mr. Tang's story reminds us once again about the seriousness of the problem of high bride prices. It is hoped that every young person who is ready to enter marriage can get rid of the shackles of unreasonable marriage customs and truly find their own happiness in the process of pursuing happiness. It is also hoped that through the efforts of the whole society, a healthy and civilized new style of marriage customs will be established, so that marriage can return to the essence of love and commitment, and contribute positive energy to social harmony and stability.
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