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I saw a statement online from a woman who, after more than thirty years of marriage, chose to divorce.
For this marriage, she has no complaints and regrets from others, but simply chooses to leave after the children grow up.
As for the reasons for the divorce, she simply said: "I haven't taught this man anything in thirty years, and I'm not going to waste any more time." “
1. Marriage of middle-aged people
When I was chatting with an aunt who had been divorced for many years, I asked her why she made this decision? Will she regret her decision?
She said: "Regret is certain. However, it is not regret about the divorce, but regret that I should have listened to my parents and not got married. “
When she got married, the man's family was destitute, not to mention the bride price, and not even a decent wedding was held.
The two of them just went to get a marriage license and ate a bowl of noodles together, even if they entered a new stage of their lives.
In the beginning, men, like all newlywed men, took care of everything in the house.
However, as time passed, slowly, he also began to slack off and began to complain about life.
He hated his wife's ever-salted fried eggs, hated her wasting a lot of time every time she went to the bathroom, hated her chattering with herself.
The promises that were once made have been polished by time, and there is nothing left. What remains is only helplessness and persistence in married life.
In fact, this is also the marriage status quo of many middle-aged people. They have long since lost the money under the moon, and some are just chicken feathers on the ground.
2. Do you regret choosing me?
Someone once complained that their disappointment with marriage had reached a level that could not be described in words.
When they were young, both were busy at work, didn't have much time to argue, and were busy with life and taking care of children every day.
Later, when the children grow up, they will quarrel over the way the children eat and live and the way they are educated, and this quarrel will be for many years.
Outside, they want to maintain the inherent image of a loving couple, but behind closed doors, only they know that this marriage has long been in jeopardy.
People are always young, yearning for marriage, looking forward to their future, what kind of a person they will meet.
But in fact, the prince will not come, and no one will really become a princess in a fairy tale, we are just the most ordinary ordinary people.
In the beginning, we were just two people who met at an age when they were urged to marry by our family, and we decided to live together.
So, between us, there is no love. Some are just marriages of the right age. Chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, is our whole life.
3. Am I really wrong in my choice?
There is a saying on the Internet: "Most people whose parents do not allow them to marry are not married; most of the people whose parents do not allow them to marry are married." “
Perhaps for those who have not experienced it, the sentence cannot be truly empathetic, because they only listen to it as a sentence.
I remembered that I once had a very good friend who had been married to my partner for less than two years and chose to divorce because the other party had cheated.
The object of the other party's cheating is an intern from the same company. And the day they were discovered happened to be their wedding anniversary.
The man said he had no feelings for his friends anymore. He hated the life pattern of the left hand touching the right hand, and he was tired of the daily life of two points and one line.
So, they quickly went through the divorce procedures. We won't know what happened to the man, but the friend is married again.
In fact, for the choice of marriage, the vast majority of people will use a long or short time to find that their choice is wrong.
Because, commitment is mostly uncountable in marriage. People don't stay the same, especially when it comes to marriage.
But when you really face all this, will you choose to stop the loss in time, or choose to continue to adjust?
4. After all, it is your choice
"33 Days of Lost Love" says: "A good marriage needs to be repaired." Just like a home appliance is broken, we have to repair it, we can't just think about replacing it. “
However, in the current concept of marriage, there are too many twists and turns and patience, because people are always taught to take into account the overall situation.
However, whether to do that or not should always be their own decision. Because, that's one of your few, only once in life.
Marriage cannot be made up, if it is really hopeless, a person's death is meaningless.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.