When I recently brushed a short video, I saw Qin Hao participate in the talk show conference, saying that his wife Yi Nengjing suddenly said one day: "Husband, you like me now because I am beautiful, when you are fifty years old, I am sixty years old, then you will still think I am beautiful, will you love me again?" ”
Qin Hao listened, "This is what it wants to do."
When I read the questions that some girls left me with, I felt the same way: this is to be done.
For example, "The boyfriend has been defending the game, although he apologized, but I am still very uncomfortable. ”
The girls, whether young or not, love to do it.
A little thing on the program on the line, you can't get used to people's habits of playing games, saying that people are not good, that is not good, quarreling, you say "Why are you so fierce to me!" ”
Yes, originally it was a problem of life habits, now it has deteriorated, it has become a boy's attitude problem, if the boy does not apologize to you, is it continued to deteriorate, become this boy does not care much about me, and then become you do not love me at all, and then it is forget it, men are really scum!
I really tied up Q, want to talk about it, can't you talk about it?
Here, I also sincerely remind the majority of girls a few points. These points, from the perspective of boys, I want to tell female friends, whether you are in love, or married, or life, are my heartfelt words. Words are rough, not rough.
You who can listen to it must have gained, and if you can't listen to it, I didn't say it.
1, the boy goes along with your wishes, apologizes to you, that is like you, let you, not feel that they have done wrong
To tell the truth, it is difficult to change a person, girls feel that some of the boys' behaviors do not meet their expectations, so they lose their temper and force him to change, the boy changed, and apologized to you, do you think he really wants to change?
People just think that there is nothing to open and hang, but because they like you, they will follow your wishes and no longer play games to open and hang, which is a sentiment.
When a boy has this affection for you, you cherish it and live in the moment. One day he didn't love you anymore, and you recalled that you listened to everything I said, how did you become like this now?
It's not that the boys have changed, it's that you've never understood people, people are very different from you, just accommodate you, you should take it all for granted, and the patience of others has been exhausted by you.
Small things, can tolerate tolerance, if you say, I just don't like it is not tolerant of him playing games open and hanging, that line, you can break up, it doesn't matter.
But if you decide to talk, you can talk about it, talk about love is for fun, each other can provide positive emotional value to each other, if you two really can't talk, you can share.
2, talk about love is also said to be a "gentleman and different", you do not use feelings to kidnap others, let a person live according to your ideas
After many girls fall in love, they carry a kind of "motherhood", that is, like your mother, they like to nag boys in everything, and they feel that it is for his own good.
Don't you think the scene is familiar when you have this little emotion? Your mother is also like this when you don't wear autumn pants, when you lie down and play with your mobile phone and will be blind, when you don't want to call your uncle and aunt is rude, and now you have learned this set out of ten.
Congratulations, you have finally lived to the look you hate.
Can you understand this feeling? Don't use intimacy and use your own identity role to kidnap the person you care about, even if you become a mother, you should respect the wishes of your children, don't think that being a girlfriend can be arrogant.
Mutual respect, understanding each other's ideas, is the way to get along for a long time, boys just like to play games when hanging, this is his freedom, you can't feel that you play well, there is a sense of superiority, not let people play according to your ideas, but also the line to question the boy's morality, question the boy is not humble enough to you is not good enough, let's talk about things, okay.
3. The principle of "almost getting it" in small things, and the principle must be paid to major matters
I find that many girls put the cart before the horse.
This kind of playing a game of small things, from the analysis of Qin Shi Huang's unification of the six countries to the NASA closure of the space station, your little head melon seed back and forth, stunned is to make a small thing of the fart a little bigger to make a flower, let your boyfriend dumb, even do not know why you are angry, just nod and waist to coax you.
As a result, when he cheated one day, you cried and humbled to forgive him. When he dumped you, you didn't want your dignity, and you stalked to save it.
Oh little things you can't get through this pass, big is not on your brain but watts, do you think this is reasonable?
Carry a clear girl, has her own principles, absolutely will not let the boy trample on his own principles, but a lot of small details of life problems, she made up even if it is, almost got it, the boy has a little flaw does not affect his overall love for you.
As people say, polish your eyes before marriage, turn a blind eye after marriage, this day can be comfortable, otherwise you will be angry with your own small temper every day, and the emotional internal friction will consume your feelings.
4, do not try to change each other, in the daily run-in, subtly affect the other party
You really can't get used to the other party, for example, you can't get used to the other party's usual laziness and decadence, then you don't criticize the other party with some ugly words, creating more conflicts will not solve the problem at all.
You can work hard every day with self-discipline and diligence, full of positive energy, and you infect the people around you with your own behavior, which is much better than you scold him.
Of course, this premise is that you yourself must also have a more objective understanding of your own ideas and practices, do not blindly feel that you are completely right, the other party is not affected by you is wrong, after all, everyone has everyone's values.
5) Don't expect one person to accept all your bad temper unconditionally
Even if the boy is now a licking dog, sooner or later the "halo effect" of the couple fades, the boy will not be as good to you as at the beginning, this is a normal process, the passion for love is dopamine-induced, people can not always secrete a lot of dopamine.
After talking for a long time, dopamine has decreased, and it is natural to return to plainness, without aura, and to find each other's shortcomings, at this time the test is the ability to get along.
Girls who can't get along well always feel that boys like themselves as if they owe themselves, everything must be tolerated by you, and when you find out that he will not tolerate you all, you will start to be overwhelmed and resent the boys.
I tell you that boys are also the treasures in the palms of their parents' hands, and they also have their own emotions, he is good to you, that is love, when there are emotions, it is not good for you, that is also a normal phenomenon, it is the embodiment of human nature, people have joys and sorrows, there are bad emotions, there are selfish times, you don't feel that this boy is in love with you, he has to disobey his own humanity for you.
Never force a boy to love you against human nature, that will only make him love very painful, love less and less, on the contrary, you follow each other's needs, follow each other's human nature to love, in order to talk about this love as much as possible.
6, learn to accept yourself, away from emotional internal friction
Accepting your bad emotions is really important for a person, whether it is a married person, or a single person, when you feel that you are in a bad mood and can't think about it, do everything you can to control your emotions, accept your emotions, and don't use your boyfriend or other people around you as a punching bag.
Emotional internal friction is actually drilling the tip of the bull's horn, after drilling, you have to drag other people around you into the water to convey anxiety, there is no need to know?
You have to know that people have times when they can't think, then try their best to solve their unhappiness, go to exercise to vent, to empty, to divert attention, to read healing, to consult... Don't attack others outwardly.
Others are not responsible for your emotions, neither are lovers, you may feel that your boyfriend has to be responsible for your emotions, but I tell you that this is a childish idea, it is not that the other party wants you to be unhappy, the other party is just doing what you want to do, it is you who have bad emotions.
So you first solve your emotions, and then talk to the other party about the problem, and solve the problem to be able to do more with less.
People who can control their emotions and reduce emotional internal friction will find that you will not pay attention to these small things.
Well, the pattern is a little bigger, the pattern is bigger, and it will be much easier to fall in love.
Of course, girls do not have to be in love, I remind you of these, not only in love, including your friends, life, work, etc., are the same application of the truth.
Learn more dry goods, do less a few times, life is not so much wrong, really.
Psychological test: Test the sentence your ex most wants to say to you
1. Do you argue over small things when you're together?
Yes, I often feel tired —2
Rarely quarrel over small things—2
Occasionally, but soon reconciled —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to self-reflect and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes —3
Not —4
3. Will he or she take the initiative to tell you his troubles?
It is often said that -5
Not much to say —4
4. Would you tell your parents about the process of your relationship?
Everything is too big or small, and I often complain to my parents -6
Occasionally they ask and say —5
Hardly to say, nothing to say —5
5. Faced with what you want, how much energy are you willing to put into acquiring it?
Everything follows fate, and it is mine in the end--7
Try hard, maybe you can succeed - 6
Do my best, I want to get --B
6. Did you break up because of a third party?
Yes—A
No —7
7. Did the other party take the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes—D
No—C