Many times, I feel that the more I grow up, the harder it is to meet love.
It's not that you stop believing in love, but you're becoming more and more aware of what the love you want is like.
Young people like, the five senses are more important than the three views.
Like a person, maybe just because the other person is handsome.
But as a person experiences more, the more he realizes that in his feelings, the three views are more important than the five senses.
If a relationship wants to be long-lasting, two people must fit each other, and the three views can be different, but not too different.
In a relationship, what can make a woman's heart move is undoubtedly the sincerity of the boy.
Genuinely like you and seriously give you the security you want.
If you want a woman to be impressed by you, you must do the following 3 points, which will make her inseparable from you.
Love you as you are, without you having to change it
Maugham, in The Veil, wrote:
"I have no illusions about you, I know you are stupid, frivolous, and empty-minded, yet I still love you;
I know your intentions, your ideals, your strength, your vulgarity, but I still love you;
I know you're a second-rate, but I still love you. ”
Deeply.
The person who really loves you, he must love you in the most primitive way.
He will not only love your good qualities, but he is also willing to accept you who are imperfect.
Because the imperfect you are the real you.
With him, you don't have to deliberately change.
Just be yourself, he will love you.
He will use his appreciative eyes to discover the shining points in you.
How can such a boy not make the girl's heart move?
Many boys now like too superficial, he only likes your strengths, can not accept your shortcomings.
Once you spend a long time with you, when all your flaws are exposed to him, he will start to dislike you in various ways.
A man like this who only likes your strengths and can't accept your flaws is, in the final analysis, not enough love.
Compared to this kind of man, women prefer the kind of boy who loves himself as he is.
Be able to understand you
"A thousand people spoil you, it is better for one person to understand you."
In feelings, understanding the truth is far more important than loving you.
People who understand you will take the initiative to hand it to you when you need to care, rather than being perfunctory;
People who understand you will take the initiative to compromise when you are pouting, instead of telling you not to make unreasonable trouble;
Understand you, when you joke with him, take the initiative to cooperate; instead of asking you how happy you are?
The person who truly loves you must understand you.
He understands the grievances behind your forced smile and will embrace you in his arms at the first time;
He understands the unhappiness behind your silence and will take the initiative to coax you to be happy.
He understands that behind your stubbornness is not to accept defeat, and will take the initiative to encourage you and support you.
The person who understands you will let you unload all the heavy responsibilities and be a spoiled and loved child in front of him.
The night before the "Strange Story" championship that year, Fu Seoul was under too much pressure and wanted to give up.
Everyone was cheering her on and telling her to hold on a little longer.
Only Lao Liu said to her, "Then give up." ”
The next morning I took a leave of absence and brought a string of sugar gourds to pick her up and take her home.
Fu Seoul said that her difficult moments, fragile moments, desperate moments almost wanted to give up on herself;
It was all spent in his embrace.
Because Lao Liu understands her, he knows that all she wants is to understand her lover.
A man who is willing to understand you is really too easy to get a woman to open her heart.
Because with people who understand themselves, it is relaxed, comfortable, and enjoyable.
Love you in the details
"What really promotes love is not intense love, but trivial time;
True love is also in the details, in his subconscious mind that raises his hand and feet to protect you. ”
True love itself is not a superficial vanity, but a sense of tenderness and security buried in the details.
He can understand you without having to say a lot of things.
He knows that you are insecure and will try to give you a sense of security after being with you;
He knows that you don't like coriander, and every time you go out to eat, when you order, you will tell the waiter not to add coriander;
He knows you're tired at work and will take the initiative to do housework with you.
It's really cool to be with someone who loves themselves with all their heart.
No girl can resist this kind of boy who cares about details.
With such a boy, you can clearly feel that you are loved.
There is no need to frequently ask boys whether they love themselves or not.
Many girls are also paying more and more attention to details in love.
"The devil is in the details."
I think the same applies to feelings.
What really wins love is always the inadvertent details of life.
So, if you want a girl to be touched by you, you have to use your heart and infiltrate love into the bits and pieces of her life.
But whenever you use your heart and give, she can feel it.