preface
In the relationship, the two people obviously love each other, but in the end they failed to come together.
Sometimes two people who don't seem to be together are bored to spend their lives together.
So many people feel very wonderful about feelings.
In my opinion, at the beginning of the acquaintance of two people, whether they can go on is already doomed.
Everyone will meet different people in this life, and they will choose to be with one person for various reasons.
But being together doesn't mean it's appropriate, so that shows how important it is to fit together.
Two people come together, love alone is not enough, it also needs to be appropriate. This requires a lot of factors to decide.
Whether two people are suitable or not, in fact, they are already doomed in the following three aspects.
Although it is important for two people to be together, it is even more important to be suitable.
After all, marriage is not a child's play, and two people have to live together for a lifetime.
So no matter how much you love each other, you must fully understand each other in the process of contact,
After all, the shoes don't fit the right foot, and we don't know until we put them on.
"To do a good job of husband and wife is the way of the gods." Living the family's small life well is the life of the gods. ”
So the relationship between husband and wife is the most core relationship in a family.
Only when two people have a stable relationship and get along well, then happiness will continue to flow.
In fact, whether the husband and wife are suitable or not, it has been doomed from the beginning,
If you don't realize it's inappropriate after a long time, it's because you've overlooked these details at the beginning of your marriage.
One. See if the three views of each other are consistent
Two people deciding to be together is not like when they were young and just looking at each other's looks.
What can really support you to go on must be the three views of each other's lives.
Many people have no way to go to the end, often because of the contradictions caused by the dissimilarity of the three views.
The early stage of a relationship must be because the other person's appearance and irrelevant attract us.
But after understanding, we found that the facial features are not so important, two people are comfortable with each other, and mutual understanding is crucial.
People with different views have different lifestyles and ways of doing things.
A good relationship and marriage must understand each other and run into each other in order to go on firmly.
At this time, the two people who can get the three views together can reach a resonance.
Two. Each other's families
We all know that marriage is not a matter of two people, but between two families.
It's good to be in love with two people, but getting married involves a lot.
If there are too many differences between each other's families, it is difficult to integrate lifestyle and thought.
Love can change a person, but it cannot change a person's family and thoughts.
Adult love is not about poverty alleviation, but about finding someone who is evenly matched.
Although it is more realistic to say, it is also for the sake of our future life.
A person's family background, living environment, and parents' education style directly affect the direction of future life.
Therefore, many people are very concerned about whether each other's family is right or not, so that the two people can go on better.
Three. nature
Everyone is an independent individual, so the personality is also different,
At the beginning of the relationship, each other will show their best side to each other.
So at first we and the person in front of us didn't perceive each other's shortcomings.
But with the development of time, it will be found that everyone has shortcomings, and this time it depends on whether two people can run into each other.
If you choose a random person at the beginning, it will make you very miserable in the end when you find that your personality is not compatible.
So in a relationship, a person's personality will determine the state of being together and the trajectory of future life.
Many times the excitement will make our minds hot to choose each other.
But as time goes on, you will find that two people with the right personalities are the most suitable partners for marriage.
It is actually a great fortune and happiness for people to be able to meet the right people in this life.
So don't lose the other person, and don't live up to the other person's sincerity.
Conclusion
In my opinion, the two people who are really suitable are not a one-shot deal at the beginning.
Instead, in the long life, each other is willing to change for each other and become the most suitable two people.
Only by knowing how to tolerate each other and learn to respect each other can this feeling last.
Couples begin with the five senses and end with the three views, so it is more important that the lifestyle of the two people is consistent with the three views.
If the gap is too big, then this life must not be safe.
Shakespeare once said, "Unsatisfactory marriages are like hell,
You can't live in peace for the rest of your life. On the contrary, if you choose a friend who is satisfactory, you can be harmonious and happy for a hundred years. ”
For the rest of our lives, I hope that each of us can find the love of our lives, so that the marriage can be happy and the two people will join hands to grow old.
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