Getting along with each other, the five senses, is a kind of recognition, three views, is a tacit understanding.
No matter how beautiful the facial features are, they are only in vain, and if the three views are combined, they will be in contact for a long time. Without a consistent three views, no matter how deep the feelings are, they will become weaker, and no matter how good the relationship is, they will also be scattered.
What are the aspects of the three views? Mainly:
Opinions are similar, opinions are close, opinions are consistent, and ideas are compatible.
The three views are different, they cannot empathize, the three views are different, and they cannot compare the heart to the heart. Therefore, two people get along with three views more important than the five senses.
01 I want to find a man younger than myself
The 60-year-old Aunt Zhang is tall and has an outstanding temperament, and from the appearance alone, it is difficult to believe that she is over the age of flower armor.
In addition to her outstanding appearance, Aunt Zhang's economic conditions are also very favorable, with a monthly pension of 4600 yuan, she also lives alone in a large house of 110 square meters with luxurious decoration, and her usual hobbies are also singing, dancing and catwalks.
Talking about her mate selection conditions, Aunt Zhang said that she and men have the same idea, obviously you can find a young, why do you have to find an older one, so she hopes to find someone between the ages of 50 and 55.
Hearing the conditions proposed by Aunt Zhang, Red Niang questioned on the spot:
"Isn't that smaller than you?"
Red Niang's question made Aunt Zhang angry, and she immediately asked:
"Why doesn't that little one work?" So why can a man 70-year-old find a 40-year-old, 50-year-old woman, and then my 60-year-old woman can also find a 40-year-old woman. ”
In addition to setting the threshold for age, Aunt Zhang also told Red Niang a signal, that is, she had taken a picture of Uncle Hu who had come on a blind date before from the past program.
Uncle Hu is not an ordinary person, his life experience is very rich, when he was young, he opened a coal mine, mined oil, and also dabbled in the real estate and logistics industries, and now he has become the legal counsel of a company, which is not the end, he usually takes on some work on corporate planning, in short, he is a compound talent, with a monthly income of at least 8,000 yuan or more, and he has 3 properties under his name, one of which is still in Beijing.
Although Uncle Hu's conditions in all aspects are equal to that of Aunt Zhang, the only fly in the ointment is that Uncle Hu is almost 70 years old, which does not meet the requirements of Aunt Zhang to find a smaller than herself, in order to avoid follow-up trouble, The Red Lady quickly told her this.
I thought that Aunt Zhang, who was bent on finding a small man, would give up directly, but she said that as long as two people can talk, she does not necessarily have to limit her age so absolutely, and can be flexible.
Aunt Zhang said that Uncle Hu's whole person's conversation and experience have made him quite appreciative, and his kind of care and care for his deceased wife is also quite touching, and the most important thing is that they all have a common goal, that is, they hope to be able to travel around the country by car, so they still want to get to know each other.
Since Aunt Zhang herself can relax the age requirement, Red Niang quickly arranged for the two to meet.
At the first meeting, Aunt Zhang deliberately performed a cheongsam show, even if it was a person like Uncle Hu who went south and broke into the north, he suddenly fell, the whole person looked dumbfounded, and even a shy expression like a long-lost first love appeared on his face, bluntly saying that such a woman is encounterable and unattainable.
After watching the performance, Uncle Hu, who was originally full of confidence, began to become unconfident, because in his view, the beauty of a woman is not in her appearance, but in her inner temperament, and Aunt Zhang's beauty from the inside out is simply a sinking fish, and he is worried that he is not worthy of the other party.
Fortunately, with the encouragement of the Red Lady, Uncle Hu said that he still had to try his best to fight for it, and even put down a bold remark:
"If we hold hands, we won't let go!"
02 We are not the same person
However, at the beginning of the exchange between the two, I don't know whether it is overly nervous or want to enhance my confidence by showing off my strength, Uncle Hu made Aunt Zhang stunned as soon as he opened his mouth, he said:
"I always take time off, I always go on blind dates all over the world."
On the other side of Aunt Zhang's shocked face, Uncle Hu not only did not see a good one, but also told his own blind date story endlessly, saying that when he went to work, someone always introduced himself, and then he took a plane to go on a blind date all over the country, and he was very busy. In order to avoid embarrassment, Red Niang had to interrupt Uncle Hu's words halfway.
Then Aunt Zhang pulled the red lady aside alone, saying that as far as she knew, Uncle Hu's lover had only been dead for less than half a year, and in such a short period of time, he had been kissing everywhere, and he could not accept such a man at all.
Although Uncle Hu's tall image in Aunt Zhang's heart has completely collapsed, out of courtesy, Aunt Zhang continued to chat with him for a while and asked him directly:
"I just want to know if you picked someone else, or if someone picked you?" so much. ”
Hearing Aunt Zhang ask herself this, Uncle Hu, who just said that he could not cope with the fact that he had a lot of blind dates, quickly changed his mouth, saying that in fact, there were only 2, and they were separated because the conditions were not discussed. The first one was because he wanted to buy a house for him, while the second one was even more excessive, saying that he would leave his salary to his son to spend, so in the end it was all yellow.
In this regard, Aunt Zhang said that the reason why the woman proposed such conditions must be her difficulties, but where the conditions are better, she will not think of spending her mother's salary, as a man, she should still be generous and fully understand the situation of the other party.
Aunt Zhang's education directly made Uncle Hu unable to sit still, indicating that she was clearly playing on the topic, not for her own blind date, but for herself, although her temperament was noble, but as a woman can not be too proud, and finally he even said:
"You can't say that you're young, I'm old, and you look at me with contempt, talk to me with a contemptuous look."
After some conversation, Uncle Hu was directly intimidated by Aunt Zhang's aura, saying that he and Aunt Zhang were not the same kind of people, because he could not accept the life of a strong woman and a weak man.
Originally a blind date that made everyone full of expectations, because the words did not speculate, in the end had to end hastily, each waiting for the arrival of true love.
Perhaps in a sense, the external conditions of Aunt Zhang and Uncle Hu are indeed very matched, but the differences in their ideological concepts and three views are the main reasons for the failure of this blind date, and these are not material conditions that can be changed.
Just as the so-called, not a family, do not enter a door, fate this thing is forced not to come, perhaps Aunt Zhang and Uncle Hu are not their own good people.
03 The two people are not suitable, doomed from the beginning
It is easy to fall in love, starting with the five senses, it is not easy to get along, and finally the three views. The reason why many feelings are difficult to go to the end is often because the three views of two people are different. When your three views are different, your feelings will have deep rifts and contradictions.
From the blind date of Aunt Zhang and Uncle Hu, it can be seen that from the perspective of individuals alone, they are very good, but when they are together, they are inappropriate everywhere. Aunt Zhang has a big heroine in her bones, she is eager to find a little man who admires her, and Uncle Hu is used to being sought after, so he is suitable for finding a small woman who listens to his opinions everywhere.
Good marriages are evenly matched, but marriages that are strong and powerful are often prone to problems, because everyone wants to get control of the marriage.
Zhou Guoping said:
"If you feel extra relaxed with people and feel really enlightened in your ease, you must have met your kind."
This is especially true in feelings, with people who are comfortable with each other, nothing is too laborious, as if everything is understood, everything is so relaxed. Therefore, to get married, instead of looking for a good one, it is better to find a suitable one.
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