Some boys are overly obedient to girls when chatting with girls, whether it is chatting or doing things, dare not express their own views, afraid that girls will not be happy, and everything is to chat and do things according to the meaning of girls. There are also some boys who go out with girls, and girls like to think wildly when they dress up a little, and their emotions are particularly sensitive. "Does she like me like this?", "Do I want to confess today", "Will I confess that she will accept it" and so on. For girls, this kind of boy especially dislikes, even hates.
Attach a screenshot of the error chat practice, too long can be skipped directly, does not affect the later reading.
My analysis
Very nice and very nice. Oh, I was a little excited to read your chat history. I would say that you really had a really good start. I've seen a lot of buddies chat like you did in the wrong way.
I've found that almost all men, including me, have come across things that are 99.999% similar to yours. They all encountered things like this:
1, Chat with women do not know what to say, always "grace ahah" and then the chat ends.
2, Talking and talking, can't go on.
3, the speech is always a serious or try to give women a big reason to give women advice.
4, Always try to exude their love from the conversation.
5, show weakness in order to win the "sympathy" of women
See if you still have such a problem, for example, you and her could have "flirted", but you did not insist on it in the chat software with her, it was not reflected at all, and the chat became boring.
For example, when you talk, you will unconsciously express "love" to her, just like you said here:
"Well, if I work in Chengdu, I can play with you when I don't have to go to work, I used to be a magic association, and I can teach you interesting magic tricks, a lot of them are fun." 」
If you don't want to lose her interest in you, never do it.
For example, you say to her
"There seem to be many things I want to get, but reality is reality, and many things are not what I want to get."]
You're trying to make a big deal out of women, and it's easy to get caught up in the role of a woman's counselor.
Women will refuse to make out with you because they think you are a good emotional counselor and because they don't want to lose you as a counselor. Because women feel that once they are intimate with you, you will not give her real emotional advice. So you have to ask what you want, do you want to be her "confidant sister" or make her your "woman"?
Also, don't tell women you're "emotionally unstable". Women don't like her "man" like a "poor kitten." A woman doesn't want her man to always need comfort, but apparently you do these things.
These behaviors are very bad behaviors, and if you remember the idea I mentioned called "attraction is flow", then these behaviors have every chance that the woman's emotions of "attraction" to you will flow away silently.
Okay, let's move on here, and we'll do a little bit of a deeper analysis. Think, why did she take the initiative to chat with you in the middle of the night? I guess there are several factors:
1) She's boring
2) She is really in a bad mood and wants to find someone to talk to
So the question is, why doesn't she look for someone else and look for you? Think about it, there are no eyebrows. Could it be that it was because you had been with her before that she had a good impression of you? Could it be that your previous "flirting" made her feel that way towards you – attraction?
Could it be that she's already starting to miss you? Can't believe it? But I can tell you very seriously that this is the truth, this is indeed the truth, and you did it! Here I can answer your second question by the way, about your height and weight. I know that the vast majority of men think this is a problem or that they "think" is just a senseless "thought" that it is a problem.
They think that tall, handsome, or rich, famous and so on these things can attract girls, I admit, these can indeed attract girls, but can attract girls more than these, otherwise China can play bare sticks more than this, after all, their own conditions are good, good economic conditions of boys, not many, that is only a minority.
If you can understand how to provide girls with emotional value, emotional comfort, you are sunny and cheerful, not timid when encountering things, not nervous in the face of girls, not stuttering in the face of girls, dare to look directly at girls to speak, dare to make physical contact with girls, similar to Yuppie, I never deny that being rich and handsome can attract girls, but confident in sunshine, you can also get girls
Why in addition to their own conditions and economic value, can provide girls with emotional value, core confidence, sunshine can also get girls? The fundamental reason is that the real attraction to girls is not the height, handsome, or rich and famous, the real attraction to girls is actually a feeling that tall, handsome, rich men bring to girls.
yes! What really causes a girl to like a man is a feeling that the man brings to her. Tall men, handsome men, and rich men initially have an advantage in attracting girls. The root cause is simply that being tall, handsome, and having money helps these men feel "attracted" to girls, a secret that the vast majority of men may never discover in their lifetime.
Does that mean that we only need this "attraction" feeling to figure out, so that even if I am not tall, handsome, and have no money, I can get girls? This is the truth, otherwise why are there little white faces, or scumbags? You will often find that there are many boys around the girl, his own conditions and economic conditions are actually not outstanding, I believe that there must be such boys around you.
It took me several years to finally discover this principle of "feeling" . Moreover, this is a landmark discovery in my research on the attraction of men and women in the study of love. It changed my mindset about attraction and love between men and women. The principle is that male and female attraction is an emotion, one of many emotions including your happiness, frustration, anger, excitement and so on.
That is to say, arousing the attraction of girls to you is like boiling water, as long as it is burned to 100 degrees, the water will open.
As long as you do the few things that trigger this emotion, like boiling water to 100 degrees, girls will be attracted to you. It's that simple.
And being tall, handsome, rich and famous, these things help a man stir up this emotion in a girl, especially if the girl has no experience in being in a relationship.
Therefore, often we can easily see that the conditions around us are not as good as you, or obviously his conditions are not good, but there are many girls around, and often the girlfriends also change non-stop, and they are not only good conditions, but also treat feelings seriously, but no girl likes herself.
You don't have a height advantage, or a disadvantage in your height, and the only obstacle to you is that you may try harder than good-looking and tall men to learn how and how girls' attraction to men arises and how to stir them up.
What girls want is not your obedience, obedience, obedience. What they want is a "good and funny" feeling, a man who doesn't revolve around them all day, has an independent self, is not "weak and incompetent" and only knows how to please them. Sometimes you have to "play them", which will make them immediately have a feeling of "attraction".
Now we go back to the conversation, and you say to her: Oh, almost asleep, what about you? Can't sleep tonight?
She replied: Yes, I am in a bad mood today.
Then you say: What happened today, you can tell me
She replied: In fact, there is nothing wrong, it is uncomfortable in the heart, and everything is angry.
You realize now that you don't, and when you say that, the woman doesn't "talk to you."
What does this mean?
Isn't this sentence ineffective?
You say to her: I'm sorry, it's me who is bad, and it makes you miss me too much.
She may say to you: You don't stink anymore, who is thinking about you.
Then you say: Well, don't think about it, go to bed early.
……
What a woman will feel, the woman will continue to maintain a lasting and fresh "attraction" emotion for you.
Because just now we talked about it, what really causes a girl to like a man is a feeling that the man brings to her, and growing tall, handsome, rich and famous These things just help men to arouse this feeling of girls, and this feeling is actually to make girls have "emotional fluctuations", just like boiling water, as long as it is burned to 100 degrees, the water will open. As long as you do the few things that trigger this emotion, like boiling water to 100 degrees, girls will be attracted to you.
What you have to do is keep doing this all the time, without interruption, no matter what stage you and her are in now, you want to make her lasting and fresh
Feel the emotion called "attraction."
So, when a woman says to you that she's unhappy, don't try to convince her to be happy, don't try to comfort her, what you have to do is give her that happy emotion, what you have to do is to continue to "attract" her.
It's also necessary to properly sprinkle a little of the established attraction jokes when chatting with women. For example, she said to you, "You are still so young, the road ahead is still very long, slowly struggling, you are so capable that you will be able to get what you want in the future." ”
And you say, "Really? Then I can only apologize, I can't marry you anymore. Next week's wedding is canceled, I have to struggle first" This kind of words, often men can not understand, where did the wedding come from? Where did you come from to marry her? It all came out of nowhere. But women will easily understand that you are joking. There's a good chance she'll pick up and joke with you.
For example, if she says, "Then I'm so sad... Don't. In this way, you are all at once entering the "lover role" role. Then you can take the opportunity to ask her out and say, "It's okay, but if you want to invite me to a meal, I'll promise not to cancel." While it was all a joke, the date was genuine.