Don't know how to chat with girls, is a headache for many boys, especially when chasing girls, because they have to contact every day, so they often use up the topic of chatting, and then they talk about the sky to death. So what do the girls who chase girls talk about every day, so that they won't talk about the sky to death?
In fact, when chasing girls, it is not important to contact and talk about every day, what is important is to learn to expand their topics.
For people who can chat, even if there is only one topic in the incision, this person can continue to expand the topic and talk more and more about the common points; But if you can't chat, even the best topics will end up with you. Therefore, it is more important to grasp how the chat extends the topic than how to grasp how the chat chooses the topic.
Many people are not unable to find the topic, but any topic will get stuck in them and become a classic "one question and one answer" model:
"The hot pot that your circle of friends just sent looks delicious, where is it?"
"In XXXX"
"Okay thanks"
only..... Gone. Then you're embarrassed, you don't know what to say, and you start to open your phone and ask questions: Now chase a girl, what topic should you talk about.
In fact, you could have talked about that topic, don't you know?
If you want to talk about a topic and talk about it well, the most important thing is two points: 1. Learn to expand the scope of your topic 2. Learn to grasp the points that can be used to expand the topic in the other topic.
We chat is divided into two kinds of thinking, one is [extended], one is [shrinking type], the above question and answer is the [shrink type] chat mode, this way of chatting, you don't have to find any topic, is a topic can make you talk to death.
So the real correct chat thinking when chasing girls should be like this:
"The hot pot that your circle of friends just sent looks delicious, I especially like to eat Chongqing hot pot, this week finally have time to spend the weekend, plan to eat it, where?"
- Topic 1: The location of the hot pot
- Topic 2: Your love of food
Topic 3: What have you done until this week to have time for the weekend?
You see, a lot of times you talk to others about the topic to death, it's really not because of the mistake of the topic, it's the way you open the topic - when others reply to you, they are always used to picking the topic that they can easily answer, if you give this topic is very limited, then it is too normal to talk about the topic to death.
Similarly, when others have a topic to reply to you, you should also expand the information that can be expanded in the other person's topic as much as possible:
"Is this place very close to the XX mall, there is a milk tea on the third floor of that mall that is particularly delicious..."
"Eh how did you go, I remember you lived in the area should be far from that shop"
"I feel that this kind of shop will not have a lot of people queuing up, is the queue serious?"
...... You see, how many topics can be expanded by a simple topic of one position through this way of mining information?
So, when you have a chase girl in your mind to talk about every day, so that you will not talk about the day to death, your thinking is already wrong, in your opinion there must be a topic that is particularly broad, it can be chatted non-stop, but in fact, you think back to our past chats, which chat can be a topic to the end?
Have you suddenly discovered that the topics that can be talked about for a long time are nested in one topic and one topic?
Congratulations to your teenager: When you can realize this, you will be completely enlightened - you will no longer dwell on a particular topic, but make good use of every topic you can use, and constantly try to expand the topic and dig out the valuable information in the other person's reply on this basis.
A good chat should be like this: you understand the ideas and opinions that this person may have through this person's circle of friends or other social software dynamics, and then on this basis, grab a topic that the other party may be interested in and start your chat.
No matter what topic you start with, it doesn't matter, because your opening must be nested into other topics to facilitate your development, and all the questions you throw out are laying the groundwork for your topic and making statements later, which is more conducive to your play and the continuation of your chat.
Don't care about what "now pursue the topic suitable for girls", you go to see the topics of Weibo hot search, have you ever changed over the years? It is nothing more than the parents in the short, star gossip, weather constellations... Topics are limited, and there is no particularly good topic that can be talked about in one sitting.
Therefore, chasing girls every day to chat about what is not the key, how to expand the topic, how to dig out new points from the girls' replies, is the most important, understand?