Talking to girls they just met, many boys don't know what to talk about, what not to talk about, when to talk, and when not to talk. Not to mention what chat skills, there are usually girls chatting and chatting and don't return, and even boys are blocked and deleted. This kind of stalking has aroused the obvious disgust of the girls. Therefore, chatting also requires skill, and the sense of intimacy can rise steadily
1. Get to know girls
For girls who have just met, it is normal not to know how to chat with her, so in many sister studies, it is recommended that boys go to girls' circle of friends, space, Weibo and other dynamics to understand girls' interests and hobbies, and then chat with girls. However, the reality is that not every girl likes to send out her own life bits and pieces, and sometimes girls who have just met will block the circle of friends and set permissions such as only three days of visibility.
Before starting the topic, it is crucial to understand the girl, which will directly affect the interest of the topic. Therefore, collecting the girl's personal information is the first step, such as the first time you meet, what clothes she wears, what words she says, what actions she does, if the performance is not very obvious, you can also wait for the rabbit, wait for the girl to send a dynamic, leave a message in the comment area, expand the topic to understand her, close to her.
2. Topic resonance
In the process of getting to know girls, boys can test girls' interest in themselves through appropriate small talk. If you don't know enough about the girl you just met, it's likely that she's talking about the topic areas she's interested in, and she won't take care of you. At this time, you must think about whether your views are contrary to the girl you just met, or whether the way you express yourself and your speech habits have aroused the disgust of the girl you just met.
Through appropriate self-adjustment, optimize the image and temperament of the boys themselves, and find common topics with the girls they have just met. For example, if a girl you just met sent a photo in the circle of friends, the boy can resonate with the newly known girl from the behavior of the characters in the photo, the place of the background, the animals and other aspects, so that the intimacy is deeper and deeper.
3. Topics that cannot be talked about
When chatting with a girl you just met, although the boy's purpose is to create a sense of intimacy, don't go too far. Remember that you are just getting to know each other, and it is naturally great to have enthusiasm, but there are still some topics that need to be taboo. For example, talking about exs, talking about emotional history, and talking about your sad things are all absolutely impossible, not only so that the girls you just met are not interested in you, but also damage the shaping of attraction.
Even if the chat is very hot, but the topics involving more privacy are still not asked, such as the first time, there have been several boyfriends, family situation, salary and other issues. These topics are very private topics and cannot be talked to girls I just met.
We try to chat around the girl, we can talk about what she likes, talk about what she hates. Because people are the first to pay attention to themselves, so when we are looking for a topic, we must come from herself, do not know how to start, may wish to look at her circle of friends, there must be a topic to talk about. It's really not okay to talk about her avatar than you say something boring.
In the process of chatting, we must remember that sincerity, at the beginning we did not particularly understand the girl's preferences, but we must insist on understanding slowly, because it is unlikely to want to tell herself through chat. It is impossible to make a girl completely trust you by just a few words. So you must be sincere, only sincere treatment will be exchanged for sincere treatment. Talk to girls and don't be too anxious, otherwise they will definitely define you as a scumbag
In fact, when you talk to the girl you just met, if you want to make her interested in yourself, you must learn to screen and know how not to be hated. If the chat is always routine will make people feel that you have a problem with the quality of this person, the best way to chat is to be sincere, slowly, sometimes the routine can be used to adjust the atmosphere. Believe in yourself, as long as there is perseverance, even the hardest stone will be warmed by you.