Valentine's Day has just passed a day, in this festive atmosphere has not yet passed, there is still time to come in this article, presumably we are all the same (not) Dao (have) in (to) people (elephants) (or rather, it is better to have than not).
A few days ago, Phoenix Jun made such a call:
At what moment were you completely disappointed in love?
It's not that we're going to sing about love. It is precisely because love is always one and the same, how sweet it is when it is romantic, and how hurtful it is when it is broken.
As wise readers replied to us, "I never disappoint in love, I only disappoint people." ”
HERE'S WHAT TO ANSWER FROM PHOENIX WEEKLY READERS.
I hope readers can harvest sweet love. But if not, you can also firmly love someone, including yourself. - Even if there is no love, at least there is "you". The bigger the "you", the smaller the emptiness; Without "you", everything will be empty.
The disappointment is: I thought it was love, but you said it was business
01
@普通人
I said I had used up my limit, and she said I had to buy gifts to reconcile.
I said that I had used up to the limit, and she sent a circle of friends, thinking that I sent less red envelopes.
02
@王女士
In my face, he said to his novel:
Protect your premarital property, women are outsiders, and the children are their own...
03
@杨子
Nivea, who was 30 yuan, was recommended by a friend, and I opened my mouth to her, hoping that she would buy me one, but it was rejected. I usually keep sending her things, but I never received anything, and I didn't expect that small things with dozens of dollars would also be rejected.
Later when I talked about it, she replied to me:
"Isn't it natural for a boyfriend to buy it for a girlfriend?"
"Girls don't give things to boys!"
04
@HL
His friend asked him what he planned for financial freedom, and he gushed, but I never heard my name once.
05
@相信爱情, people who do not believe in marriage
Say that you choose a gift, choose it, and look at it innocently: your own gift, pay for it yourself.
06
@海
"The bride price is 120,000 8, a full house in the county, can you meet the requirements?"
You can't reach it.
Since you can't meet our family's requirements, then we don't have to waste each other's time anymore. ”
07
@自救者
Married him in love. After receiving the certificate, the engagement and wedding he promised before became a bubble, and it has been dragging on. My parents asked him when the wedding would take place, and he told me, "Yes, we should be responsible for half of it."
The family that has not given a penny for a few months of marriage has not been given, and it is basically my expenses. If the dish is not done well, it will be said, and if the ground is not dragged clean, it will be said. He said that the family could not spend a few dollars, so I asked me to give him my salary card because he was the head of the family.
After I got married, I lived in his house, but his house was far from where I worked, it took more than 40 minutes to take the subway, and I had to go to work at 6 o'clock every day. He goes to work downstairs, walks for 10 minutes, clocks in at 9 o'clock. After marriage, I asked if I could drive his car to work, and he said:
I'm used to driving, you can take the subway or buy your own.
08
@生如夏花
In the 08 earthquake, I just graduated and had no money, and there was only 8 yuan left on the two people, and I didn't buy the hungry steamed buns on my shoulders, he bought a pack of cigarettes.
09
@阿sam
I was three years older than him. He chased me first. I said you don't mind? He said he didn't mind.
Two years later, I was almost 30 years old, and I asked him if we could be together forever? He replied: My parents would not approve of me marrying a woman three years older.
10
@郝幸运
I was fat during pregnancy, I couldn't wear the gold bracelet, and the child's father took it and gave it to his mother without telling me. I asked him what was going on, and he just stood next to me with an embarrassed look and rubbed his hands.
When I returned from the holidays, I found that the bracelet was worn on the mother of the old lady's only grandson.
The disappointment is: I want to tell you everything, but you don't want to hear it
11
@sherry
I asked if you could give me a call when you were free, and he said, "Call what?"
12
@柳太真
When he says, "Your pain is nothing to me."
13
@等等
Not serious when speaking, very attentive when silent.
14
@离散型演员
The ex-girlfriend has a lot of negative energy, every day will share with me a lot of broken things in her life, spit on all kinds of people around me, etc., every time I put down what I am doing, listen carefully, even when she is most nervous about the graduate school entrance examination, I will accompany her all night to call and comfort her because she is in a bad mood.
Until one time I was in a bad mood and wanted to talk to her and complain, she directly replied to me with four words:
"I don't want to hear it."
15
@阿蛮
When I felt wronged and insecure, he never felt comforted, only one sentence, do you?
16
@WaterInBrain
The other party immigrated to Canada, the procedures were all completed and the ticket was bought before saying, and then said that there was no difference, but I couldn't see it.
17
@Julie
The bus on holiday is crowded with people, and there is no room to stand straight. He slept sitting in his seat, and I squeezed into the crowd standing in front of me.
18
@Christine
When you don't get a response to every share. I thought he was busy, but he immediately ordered a red envelope, and then perfunctorily replied with a few words.
For a moment, I felt that I was in a relationship with an artificial intelligence that paid to chat.
No, he is inferior to artificial intelligence, at least artificial intelligence will not actively quarrel with me.
19
@卢
He said he was depressed and wanted me to talk to him. He crossed the city to look for him in the evening, but he said that his family would not let him stay overnight.
I rode alone in the car, stayed alone in the hotel, spent the night alone.
The disappointment is: you and I were originally the same forest birds, and we flew separately when the disaster came
20
@不再等待
Yang had just subsided my fever, I was so hungry that I couldn't go downstairs to find food, there was no one at home, I didn't know where to go, only a bunch of unwashed pots and pans were waiting for me.
21
@风笑沙
During the epidemic, I had a fever of 40.2 degrees, and for 5 days, I stayed alone in a hotel for a month in order to protect my family from infection, and stayed up at work without asking for leave. It turned out that the day I went home and found my wife chatting with the man, and also in my most painful time.
22
@开心的马骝
Because of the attack of rhinitis, I couldn't sleep at night and could only open my mouth to breathe, which was very painful, and the man jumped up and said to me viciously, you turn over and over to affect my sleep, go to another room to sleep.
23
@似水流年
On the Spring Festival, which was the saddest time when I lost my father, he went back to his hometown and stayed until the day of work, disheartened.
24
@愫愫
Every night I slept in a fog, I could still hear him whispering on the other end of the phone that he loved you, and when he heard that you might be on the verge of losing his job, he said to you: Let's break up, our relationship is too naïve, our past is too naïve, you deserve better.
25
@紫维
My mother's factory was on the verge of desperation, and instead of accompanying me through the difficulties, he rolled with my girlfriend. I was breastfeeding, and with double betrayal and family events, I almost didn't survive. Now my heart is so strong, thanks to my ex-husband's gift at that time.
26
@大阿姨
On his 29th birthday, I drove in the same direction as a drunk motorcycle and called him to tell him a kilometer away, and he said that it must be my problem and that there was nothing wrong with the other party. I take care of my own affairs, otherwise I will never be taught a lesson.
Well, the lesson is quite good, and the so-called love is completely recognized.
The disappointment is: you turn a blind eye and I am alone
27
@Nobody
Just after giving birth, he said, "I didn't have anything to do anyway, so I set up an annual pass for the gym, went over after work, and came back around 9:30." ”
28
@小戴
When he gave birth, he went into the delivery room to accompany the baby, and when he heard the midwife say that it was a female treasure, he looked at my eyes.
29
@小卷毛熊
Crying on the side of the road because of menstrual pain, he stood indifferently and said that it would hurt every month anyway, no big deal.
30
@已婚的科研民工
We quarreled.
I said: What did I marry you? Picture your house or figure you money? Except for the problems of giving birth to a child, I can't take anything away.
He said: Do you have children with other men?
I cried. Didn't speak again.
31
@一个单亲妈妈
When I told him he was pregnant, he remained motionless and continued to pretend to sleep.
When I died of fever and milk during my confinement, he ignored me.
During my pregnancy, there was no trace of care, and even scolded me on the road to cry.
32
@min
He is very protective, even if we all know who is on the wrong side, he has to open his eyes and say nonsense, and protect his own mother, uncle, and sister.
As for me, I have always belonged to the opposite side and never changed. How impulsive I was to marry love then, how much I regret it now.
Disappointment is: a long period of deception and betrayal, a moment of being pierced
33
@牛牛
Long-distance ex-boyfriend, has always been a super good character in my heart, gentle, talented, handsome, responsible, busy at work will find me. It wasn't until one day when I saw his interconnection that I found out that he had been pedaling two boats.
To question him, he kept pretending that nothing had happened, until I broke it, he had to quibble, and finally said directly: You are not a boat.
It really hurts, the pain of the sky falling apart.
34
@画画女士
Taking advantage of my off-site work, requiring me to give advance notice every time I came home, I prostituted for four years, and more than 20 years of trust was lost.
35
@艾伦
After cheating, he chose to forgive, and half a year later, he accidentally saw his chat record with a friend and said that he couldn't let go of me and couldn't forget her.
36
@磊
He said: "Maybe I just like ambiguous feelings. ”
The disappointment was: a little bit, consumed my love
37
@王小姐
The beginning of a love word is always later.
38
@鑫鑫
I went home in the middle of the night, cooked dumplings for him to eat, but refused to wash the dishes after eating, and said let me ask my girlfriend if my boyfriend washed the dishes.
39
@大海中的树叶
Married for three years, she forgot my birthday.
40
@GerryQiuu
Every moment like this I thought, without the next such moment, I wouldn't be completely disappointed.
But the truth is, she always creates moments like this.
41
@榆木
I thought the door of love was open,
Unexpectedly, for him, the door would be bored when it opened.
Well, it's over.
42
@雨中有朵风做的云
He never said he loved me, and every time I asked him if he loved me, he was silent.
43
@唯西
It took a long time to meet, and I looked at him and thought about what I would do if he was going to leave in the future, whether I would miss him, and what to do if I couldn't find him. He told me about his plans to go abroad, and said happily, "I can't wait to fly away tomorrow." ”
44
@眼瞎汪
On the way to the registration of the Civil Affairs Bureau, I stopped halfway and told me to honor my mother.
45
@陈女士
There are so many that it feels like a delay to oneself when you say it.
46
@胖桃桃
It's not at all, but sometimes I don't feel like being together, it's like being poured out by the torrential rain that extinguishes my enthusiasm.
Write at the end
In this call, we received more stories than usual – more than 200 in total.
Some of them sighed, others began to be disappointed, and they had not even experienced love in their 25 years of life; Some people have been blind dates for 7 years, and finally lament that being single is also for happiness; There are also people who just watch other people's stories and retreat from love.
But we also saw that in more than 200 answers, everyone showed similar sobriety:
The complexity of human nature dooms love to not last.
It's not love that's disappointing, it's people. There may be hope for another person (bushi
Human nature is inherently selfish, and only love and responsibility are enough to oppose instincts.
We have seen many stories of being hurt in love, and we have seen more people who redeem each other in love.
the couple who hugged each other to death in the earthquake;
〓 This half-cut wedding dress, along with the garland worn by the bride, was placed in the museum exhibition hall.
the husband who ran to his lover in the flood;
The wife who has been waiting for the return of Malaysia Airlines for 5 years...
Negative emotions always seem to be easier to spread, which is an instinct that has been preserved in human evolution.
But this does not mean that there is only bitterness in love.
The significance of telling these stories is that if you are still single, then I hope that when you enter a relationship, you have a loving heart and a clear head;
If you also meet someone who makes you feel pain, hopefully you will gain enough courage to leave Ta.
Always love yourself, but also always believe in love.